Stuttering brain...

@adel09 (490)
Philippines
June 18, 2010 1:14am CST
Every time I need to talk with my boss or any immediate superiors. I had however an instant voice or thought process which made me out of focus. What can I do to overcome this kind of problem? Any opinions or advice on this problem would be appreciated.
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4 responses
@med889 (5958)
18 Jun 10
It is because one is either nervous or afraid to have a negative response, so what you need is self confidence to fight with the negative thinking and to go further in your mind to ask whatever you wish to and thus bridging the gap between the boss and you.
@adel09 (490)
• Philippines
18 Jun 10
Maybe, I'm lack of self confidence. Because, when I was a child, I always heard my mom saying "shut up! you can't do that!...".
@med889 (5958)
19 Jun 10
This is maybe the source of the fact in the present, however I would correct myself in saying that this is not totally a problem thus can be okay with time, self confidence comes within you so trust yourself more than ever.
@adel09 (490)
• Philippines
19 Jun 10
I will wait for that time. Hope will come soon. Thank you so much!
@srganesh (6349)
• India
18 Jun 10
Did you have this problem when you were at school and at college while meeting your teachers and professors? How did you manage then? Okay, for the time being, let you meet your boss or superiors outside the office premises and get acquainted with them.Then you will not have this fear once again.
@adel09 (490)
• Philippines
18 Jun 10
Yeah. As I remember, this problem started when I was in high school. I don't remember the exact situation.
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@srganesh (6349)
• India
18 Jun 10
Then it is some problem related to your sub conscious mind which makes you afraid to the superiors. You may try a sitting with some good psychiatrist. They may easily find out the root of your problem and help you come out of it. But this is not a serious problem. You may be comfortable with the superiors soon after you have good relationship with them.
@adel09 (490)
• Philippines
18 Jun 10
I have a good relationship with my superiors now. But, if we need to tackle issues at the office, then that problem will occur automatically. I don't why?
• India
4 Aug 10
This happens because of inferiority complex within you. Be confident on what you are trying to tell and get mentally prepared before you start to speak. I know it is easy to say but difficult to execute. Morining exercise or yoga may help you to be calm always and also gives you a possitive outlook. When you interact more and more with your superiors, you will automatically come out of this problem.
@adel09 (490)
• Philippines
6 Aug 10
I've tried, but because of my hectic schedule. I won't do it again...
@asep988 (92)
• Indonesia
18 Jun 10
Try to imagine your boss as your friend. Don't be afraid if he'll ask you a hard questions. Think that your boss as very good and kind person even actually different. And the last one is try to always think positive.
@adel09 (490)
• Philippines
18 Jun 10
Thanks for the very good advise asep988...