How many kids become too many?

United States
June 19, 2010 4:30am CST
There are the Duggars with their 19 and counting. John and Kate had 8. Then there is Octomom with 14 and the new show "9 by Design". How many kids are too many? There are many factors to consider when planning your family. Four very important ones being: Medical,Financial, Emotional and Logistics. What is your take on this issue?
3 responses
@aquariand (466)
19 Jun 10
I really wanted a huge family but alas i had to be steralized for health reasons, even now I would have thought i'd have liked at least 10 children, i love kids they are the life and sole of my being. I have three children all grown up so I was blessed to be able to have them. I look at them with joy and would have loved to have more but now I am blessed with grandchildren so it is good. Finacially it is always a struggle bringing up children, emotionally it is draining, logically you should really just have a few children as you need to have a life when you are older, keep having children and when your older you will still be looking after them, with not as much energy as when you were young also there will be a generation gap where the children think your old fashioned, especially when they are hanging around with their mates. medically for me it was not to be having lots of children but like I said i have my grandchildren now. there are risks to the child if you have children when your older and i think this has to be concidered as if there is something wrong witht he child because you have it when youare old, who is going to look after it as it gets older as you won't be able to due to your age. For example if you have a child at 49 then when its 18 you will be 68 what if it has a serious illness could you cope. I had mine when I was 18 20 and 25 and am now a young grandma. I am still young enough to have the energy to enjoy my freedom without children and now have money to spend on holidays and the energy to be myself. Also i am still young enough to run around with my grandchildren.
• United States
19 Jun 10
I too started my family young. Having my first child at 17. My step daughter has already made me a grandma, so I am a young mother and grandmother as well. However, my husband is much older than I and he is worried about how he will be physically capable as a father with our youngest child who is currently only 5. My husband will be 50 soon. So, you made a great point there with the age issue.
@oldchem1 (8144)
19 Jun 10
Well I have five children, my intention was three - after my third daughter was born in 1976, that was my family complete. When she started school I went bake to my teaching job, I was on the mini pill. When I was 38 I became pregnant - I had taken anti biotic with the pill, I didn't know at that time that it could affect the pill, I had my fourth daughter - that was a shock! Back on the mini pill again and at 44 when my periods stopped and I was unwell I went to my doctor who told me that I had started the menopause. Several week later a red faced doctor told me I was 16 weeks pregnat ( courtesy of a stomach bug that had 'got rid' of the pill!! I had my son when I was 45. He was a bl00dy miracle!! Amazingly when I had tried for my first three planned children it had taken me several months to get pregnant. So I reckon what will be will be!!!
• United States
19 Jun 10
It's amazing how the unexpected can happen and change our lives forever.
@rosie230 (1675)
19 Jun 10
Well as much as I wanted to have a big family when I was younger, I have actually stopped at 2... I thought that I would have 4, as that seems like a nice round number, and in return make for a big family, and easier to cope with lol... but I do not think that I could cope with the everyday running around and hard work involved in looking after that many kids. I think we as parents need time to relax, and enjoy each of our children. I guess a lot depends on us as individuals though. I mean some people like the idea of being that busy with all those children. But for me I am happy with my two boys, and enjoy spending time with them, and also having my own time to relax.
• United States
19 Jun 10
I have 4 biological and 2 step children. My youngest is 5 and my oldest is 19. I new I wanted a large family from the time I was very young. My parents had only me and my younger sister by 12 months. We were close in age but never really got along well. Though it has been tough at times, I do not regret my decision to have a large family. There is never a dull moment, that is for sure! I'm already wondering what I will do with myself once they are all moved out.