now i know!!!!!!whose your truly friends??????

@jemaries (322)
Saudi Arabia
June 21, 2010 4:02am CST
when your too much down, sad, and lonely, you never know where to go or whom you will find?Some of our have we can call friends,maybe true friends,but do think is she/he your really friends????For me in times i was down i found that true friends are hard to find in your life those people you trusted and give care, treat as your friend, what if its not the kind of person?Do you experience also like this????
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@jennbart (1332)
• Philippines
22 Jun 10
A true friend is the one you will find beside you when you need a shoulder to cry on.If you find them " TOO BUSY" to be with you. Then look elsewhere! a true friend should never be too busy for someone who they consider friends.
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@jennbart (1332)
• Philippines
22 Jun 10
What Iam trying to say when I said " too busy" is when a friend calls then you wont reply. Not even trying to console her or atleast make her feel good again. It doesnt mean to DROP everything altogether for the person. I can make my lonely friend company by means of texting. Calling her when Iam at a hospital is ok. I dont need to be really physically be there. But she can tell me her woes while we are texting or on phone. I will still listen. When Iam at work then tell her " Iam sorry Iam at work at the momment. Maybe you can tell me what's bothering you later when I get out of work later. Lets meet after work.. How about that?" You know, a true friend is never too busy to help out. But not to atleast try to help because of her BEING TOO BUSY. Its a big DUH!There are a lot of things to do to console someone. When I was on duty for my Dad who was in a coma then and learned that a friend was at another hospital. I sent a get well soon delivery card with fruits in a basket. Just to let her feel I want to make her feel better even if I wasnt able to visit. A person just have to THINK of ways to reach out.
@jennbart (1332)
• Philippines
22 Jun 10
I don't expect them to do what Iam doing for them since Iam not the type who calls on friends when Iam down.. I just play with my dogs when Iam lonely. But atleast, I also want to feel Iam appreciated at times. Like sending me sms just to ask how Iam. Regardless if Iam ok or not at the time that they ask me. For me I like helping people. It feels good.
• Philippines
21 Jun 10
True friends are always true. Lately I've been so down and there came my old good friend. She was my knight and shining armor. She helped me a lot and now I am satisfied. I didn't ask from her but she knows what's my need. She gave me fish to catch. I did. Those friends that I have with during my abundance and good blessings are all gone now. They have their own way of living to be rich. Some don't wnna be close to you anymore especially if you re financially down True friends are really hard to find, they would only found them during the times of trouble. Those who stand by you in bad times are your good friends. Treasure them. They are rare precious and true friend.
@jemaries (322)
• Saudi Arabia
21 Jun 10
yes! you are right true friends are really different to finds, before way back in philippines i ahve a lots of friends that can lean on, but now when i went abroad its very hard to find, its very hard to trust someone.
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@Hatley (164471)
• Garden Grove, California
22 Jun 10
jemaries I have only one really good friend and she is my best friend who through out our twenty hears of knowing each other we have always supported each other. we are there for each other, we both have birthdays in November, we have sons who are real friends and we both are diabetics, Im older than her by nine years. I have other friends that are just friends who do not go out of their way even when they say we will call you,no surprise that you never hear from them again. just goes with casual friends.
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• Philippines
22 Jun 10
yeah ive tried that, i have a lot of friends with different description as to what kind of a friend they are, some are just casual friend, user friend,for party friends..but i only got 3 true friends...sad for me to know but its true, when i was at my most down in my life,when i looked for them they were no where to be found... based on that experiences, im very careful in telling my secrets and problems coz i know they are safe with my true friends, they laugh and cries with me...
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• United States
21 Jun 10
I have only a few people that I can truly say are my friends. It seems like all the other people I know are two faced. The people who are always there for you are your true friends.
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@lesfery (79)
• Philippines
21 Jun 10
when life gets tough i find my friends surrounding me even in their own little way without me knowing, they do things to help me..i already experience that everytime life is tough..maybe those friend youre telling do things like my friends, without you knowing it they do things just to help you, it's just that they can't find it..trust them and love them..with or without their help to you...
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@abj163 (1038)
• India
21 Jun 10
i have a lot of friend in my life but i know no one them is a true friend......they are not selfish but they dont care when you will be in the problem.....so i think my parents are my best friends ..........because they have helped me in every problem of mine at least they asked me whats the problem......so i think i dont have a truly friend because we are a group of 8 boys thats why my parents are my true friends ..happy mylotting
@rosie230 (1674)
21 Jun 10
When I was younger as a teenager I had many friends that I could count on to be reliable to go to in need. But the older I got the more we all drifted, and now I don't actually have anyone that I could class as a close friend. I don't mind though, because if I ever need advice about a problem that I am having or an opinion on something that is happening, then I come here, and I get the best advice without any bias at all. I do have friends, but they are not close friends, but friends that I enjoy the company of. I am someone who tends to keep myself to myself these days, as I find that sometimes it is better that way. I also did get let down by a friend a long time ago, which resulted in personal business of mine being gossiped about, so I think that kind of put me off as it would do anyone else.
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@anil78650 (177)
• India
23 Jun 10
Ya sometime it happen to everyone.When you feel empty or down and want to talk with someone but when you have best friends you don't have to.Because they listen you and try help you out in every problem.Its good to have a best friend.........:-)
@jimmysun (401)
• China
22 Jun 10
right...it is hard to find a turly friend in our life...most of our so called friends are not the right one...though they also can be trusted and can give me care when we are sad and lonely...
• China
22 Jun 10
Hi, there! You made me remember some unhappiness. At that time , my son is still too young to go to kindergarden , and my mother-in law was taking care of him, Both my husband and I were at work, and I was preparing for an very important exam. But my mother in-law was very sick at that time , my husband need to take her to hospital , no one can watch my son . So I turn to my best friend that time, surprised me was that she refused , and the reason was her need to go to meet a friend. Yes, she is still my friend now , but really my heart was hurted.So if you have friends truly friends , you are so lucky .
@jpso138 (7868)
• Philippines
22 Jun 10
Yes, I have been there. I have come to a point where I have made a life changing situation. Many people I thought were my friends but it turn out in the end that there were only few of them whom I can call true friends. It was indeed a blessing. Now I am very much happy indeed for now I know who are with me and who are against me. I do not hate those who have betrayed me, in fact I treat them still as a person, but the trust that I have for them is no longer there for now I know what kind of people they are....
@rose0822 (123)
• Philippines
22 Jun 10
yeah...its very hard to find true friends.. i have lot of friends,but there are just some of them i consider as true friends. not just be'coz they are there during my rough times.. but be'coz even how busy we are we still communicate with each other.
@ohiocy (215)
• Malaysia
22 Jun 10
Yup I'm experiencing it as of right now.. It's a sad world when you see how true people can be. In fact this finding have really taken a toll on me so much so that I find it hard to really trust anyone at all.. except those who have walked with me before and that's why sometimes I find it hard to actually go out there and make new friends *sigh
@knicnax (2234)
• Philippines
22 Jun 10
You know, friendship isn't really about whether your friends are ALWAYS there for you. There are times when your friends will be unzvailable and you'll have to deal with things on your own. Don't take these instances as a basis for not having true friends. These are opportunities for you to grow. I personally am annoyed with a few friends of mine who are so dependent on me, it's as if they can't live without me. It's flattering yes, but really irritating. It's like they always want your world to stop just because theirs did, which is not the case at all. Stopping my world for a friend is okay. I wouldn't mind, but if it gets to frequent that I'm not growing as a person anymore and just merely being a stagnant companion of someone, there's something wrong with that kind of setup. I am a friend. I do a lot for my friends,but I don't expect them to be there for me 100% of the time because they have their lives to live too. I'm telling you this because you need to know that you have to settle things on your own. It's not that they're not your true friends, it's just that they also need to grow on their own, in their own time, not your time :) It may be that the time you were down, they were also down and needed the space. :)