I am an OC. Does that turn people off?

Philippines
June 21, 2010 9:23am CST
I am very specific and detailed oriented. Also, I get frustrated when my plans go havoc or did not materialize. I need to ease off so as to remain cool. You see I am an obsessive compulsive. This OCness though helped me get to where I am right now, a soon to be corporate secretary and currently an HR Manager of a multinational company. My question now is, do you think this attitude of mine place a threat or a block for people to see me friendly and approachable?
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@Kikotay (74)
• Malaysia
21 Jun 10
There will certainly be some clashing with people whom are not so specific and detailed. Like me, I am a total slacker. I'm so laid back. My friend and assignment partner looks like she would tear her hair out in a second while working with me because she's the more detailed and specific one. It's quite hard to work with each other and at times, overwhelming. However, that does not stop me from being her friend. I would not think your OCness prevents you from having good interpersonal relationships. I believe that once people get to know you and push your OCness aside, they would like to be with you. With that said, if you would like to give good impression to people, you can try making all the first impressions good.
• Philippines
24 Jun 10
Thanks for the nice comment. But yes indeed I make good friends and acquaintances. Why I asked the question though was because I see people or some of my acquiantance looking somewhat bewildered when they see me wiping the table right after I eat lunch. Also, I tend not to mind much the person talking to me while working. Anyway, having few close friends is better than having lots and than having no real or true friend.
• Portugal
9 Jul 10
is not your fault if you have that decease^^ dont be afraid im sure people will approach you^^ just try to be sweet to them and be yourself. also why dont you try to go to the doctor and ask him a way to control your decease? im sure he can help you^^ anyway congratulations for your achievements^^ be proud of who you are^^ dont forget is not your fault if you sometimes dont act good with people is just the decease ^^
• Philippines
10 Jul 10
Hi sweetloveforeve. Thanks. Actually, I don't mind it much. I am evaluating my strengths, weaknesses or things to improve. Somehow, I noticed that being an OC sometimes gives me difficulties being happy with what is being placed on my table. I accepted the fact that it is one trait that I must improve. Thanks for your input again.
@lingli_78 (12852)
• Australia
22 Jun 10
you have the same personality as me... i am very specific and detailed oriented as well... also, i am very particular about time, i like to be organised and plan everything properly before hand... i also don't like it when my plan doesn't work as i want it to be... to be honest with you, i have a few conflicts with people at my workplace because of my personality especially with those people who have opposite personality to me... i'm just lucky that my manager supports me because she knows that i am doing the right thing... take care and have a nice day...
• Philippines
24 Jun 10
Thanks for your comment. It is nice to hear people saying "take care" to you. You know, I guess my OCness helped a lot with my accomplishment. But there are times that I wish I can go out with friends. However, the demand of the work is eating much of my personal time.
@knicnax (2234)
• Philippines
22 Jun 10
Well, if you are overtly obsessive compulsive, like you overly organize stuff; then yes, there might be a tendency of turning shallow minded people off, or have people make fun of you. I personally have no problem with people who have OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder). Everyone has a little OCD in them, although some don't know how to control theirs or have trouble controlling it. If OCD isn't overt, or hasn't taken much from your life, then no problem! If it is affecting your life tremendously in a way that it has a negative impact already, then maybe it's tie to consult a doctor about it :) Congratulations on your promotion and keep up the good work :)
• Philippines
24 Jun 10
Thanks for the commendation and wish of good luck. Yes, I'm a little too organized for my own good. But somehow, with my job, I need to be one. What I want to improve though for myself is going back to my easy nature. Somehow, for a long period already, I have changed and became more serious. I was just thinking if it would actually turn people off and afraid to befriend me. Thanks again.
• Philippines
21 Jun 10
I think it will really help you in your career but please let loose when you are not in the office or if it is lunch break try to loosen up a bit to reach to people the way they should be treated specially to your co-workers because I know they are also adjusting in you when you are all in the office working. If you don't tone down yourselves in front of them, no doubt there will be a riot, try to open your heart to a new friends or co-workers and everything will fall in to places. and always seek God first and everything that you need shall be added unto
• Philippines
24 Jun 10
You know, I am the type of person who actually gets into the hearts of my co-workers. I think what I should change though is that most of the time I have answers to their questions and I have serious moments. How I wish I can ease off. It has been 2 weeks already and the responsibilities I have is already giving me stress. Thanks for responding to my question.
21 Jun 10
I admire you greatly snowhybiscuis. You have used what some would consider a disability to your advantage. You have made use of the talents you have rather than focus on the negative like so many of us do. Your compulsive nature has got you where you want to be. So don't change! I am the opposite to you and am probably too laid back for my own good at times, although i do have a firey temper. But I have plenty of friends who I would class as a bit obsessive but it only makes me love them more. I am a great believer in accepting people for who they are!
• Philippines
24 Jun 10
Hi rosesareblue. Do you know, I used to like blue roses bec. blue is my favorite color. I made a t-shirt print of blue tears. However, now that I am older, my interest and likes changed. I now want yellow roses because it lifts up my heart and gives hope. About what you said, I too have a passionate or firey temper. But I also have strong control over my impulses, thanks be to God. But when my patience snaps out, I blew up. It's a good thing as well that after I blow, I realizes what I have done and try my best to amend.