He's out of life...i don't know whether to laugh or cry ?

@jaiho2009 (39034)
Philippines
June 21, 2010 11:18am CST
And he's out of my life, I Don't Know Whether To Live Or Die. So I've Learned That Love's Not Possession And I've Learned That Love Won't Wait Now I've Learned That Love Needs Expression But I Learned Too Late Have you ever been in this situation? Trying to figure out where love has gone, regretting a love that you've taken for granted, And waking up one day finding that you've already lost that someone? Any experience like this my dear friends,mylotters,dear bhai/s(brothers)sisters. Share your views and comments. Thanks and have a good day always everyone
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9 responses
• Philippines
21 Jun 10
hello there, as for me, she's out of my life, she screwed my prom, she used me, i never should have entertained her, i didn't mind not attending the prom at all i could have saved one two thousand pesos, would have preferred to be envy with other people rather than humilitating my self. bah! humbug she was my partner and yet she danced with other people i was so whimp.
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@jaiho2009 (39034)
• Philippines
21 Jun 10
hello Letran, Oh my dear brother,is this the reason why you hate love till now?(hate love,am i right? i hope i am wrong ) How can she be mean like that (grrr). Well,she doesn't deserved your love and care my dear,just look around and you'll find the right one is there waiting for you. Now,how's my brother so far?..?
@knicnax (2234)
• Philippines
22 Jun 10
well, there are girls like that. At least you learned something? was prom recent? I thought you were like 20 something years old already. You think mature for your age if you're still in high school :) anyway, there are women who aren't like that at all, so keep your eyes open :)
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@incus99 (1086)
• Philippines
21 Jun 10
... He's my Billy Jean and not my lover, she's just a girl who claims " I am the one"...he says, "I'm not a fighter, I'm a lover"... as he ask " Do you remember the time we fell in love?" ... nobody understands him.. if only you Have Seen My Childhood.... and the world asks "Who's Bad?"... as he was Gone too soon.. struck by a SMOOTH Criminal...
@jaiho2009 (39034)
• Philippines
21 Jun 10
hello incus, I could guess you are a MJ fanatic. I like his songs...esp the oldies,back to the Jackson 5...
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@knicnax (2234)
• Philippines
22 Jun 10
Nice mix incus!
@sizzle3000 (3040)
• United States
21 Jun 10
My daughter was in a long distance relationship and she invested everything in hom and what they had. She was convinced that he was the one that she was going to spend the rest of her life with. She was off and on with him for three years and every time he would leave her she would cry but then she'd be happier without him but yet she'd keep taking hiim back. It's hard to find real love and you make mistakes along the way. The only way to keep it in some kind of perspective is to remember if it didn't work out this time that just means there's something better coming your way and you just have to keep the faith.
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@jaiho2009 (39034)
• Philippines
22 Jun 10
hello sizzle, It is really hard to let go of someone we love. No matter how hard we try to do our best and tell ourselves to move on,still the love lingers on. I also had same experience like that,for more than 3 years of on and off relationship. Asking myself what one good reason for staying on this kind of relationship,until i found myself get tired of loving and understanding. Letting go takes time,take small steps slowly will be a good help. I hope your daughter will find the right one. Thanks for your response and have a good day always
@bodhisatya (2384)
• India
21 Jun 10
Hello Didi, It saddens me to know that you have lost someone whom you loved SO much. Sometimes it ain't meant to happen the way we think. I have had my bit of share with it. But I was pondering over your first line, "whether to live or to die", I personally have learnt it the hard way that dying isn't the answer. There are people and even some of them whom you haven't even considered that important are relying on you and on your well-being. You are priceless to many and thats what is important. Yes, it is tragic if you aren't lucky in love, but I reckon one has to accept it. Who knows maybe there are bigger schemes set for you. take care always, Your bhai, Bodhi
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@jaiho2009 (39034)
• Philippines
22 Jun 10
hello dear bhai, I like that line "whether to love or die ",some lovers who lost their love were caught between these line. Dying is never an answer,yet,we cannot judge those people who prefer dying than to live.(it's really hard to explain why they had to resort on dying ) There is always a reason behind each failure and losses that we encounter in this life,and i believe that,a better/good/best lies behind each reason. Thanks for your response dear brother and have a good day always
@tomitomi (5441)
• Singapore
22 Jun 10
No words could come close to how you feel perhaps. I just wanna sorry jaiho. I know you would come out of this a better person, a stronger person. I have no magic recipe but your replies seem to speak good about you. I hope I'm right. Now, what if he comes back, would you accept him? Sorry if you find this offensive. I wouldn't if I hadn't read your discussion and responses.
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@jaiho2009 (39034)
• Philippines
22 Jun 10
Hello tomi, I think it would be hard for me to accept him again. If,how hard it is for me to let go of him,accepting is even harder,for,i can't trust him anymore. Once trust is lost,it would be useless for a second chance. Anyway,thanks for your response and have a good day always
@tomitomi (5441)
• Singapore
22 Jun 10
I can see how trust is so important. I respect your decision jaiho. Whatever you do I pray you would always be happy. Keep myLotting. You have friends here. Good day too!
@arunmails (3013)
• India
22 Jun 10
[b]Why to say that he/she is out of life...?? I am sorry to this question... Love - its a feeling... any one can love any numbers.... but, if you committed you life with some one... then it is not good to have some physical relationship... but, still you can love someone other than your partner....[/b]
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@jaiho2009 (39034)
• Philippines
22 Jun 10
hello arun, Love is like a game,we gamble to win or lose. It is also like a battle field that,we must be prepared to get scared or die. Love is so mysterious,so powerful that it can even dethrone a great king. To love and lost is a part of it,but not the end of everything. As long as we are living,chances are to find the right one,in right time,right place and right person. Thanks for your response and have a good day always
@ebuscat (5949)
• Philippines
22 Jun 10
For me sometimes yes but you need to understand that's life in our still not content as what Jehovah God put in our heart the not content attitude.
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@jaiho2009 (39034)
• Philippines
22 Jun 10
hello ebuscat, Life really is full of surprises,we can't figure out what tomorrow may brings. So, with love,we never knew if we are still holding the love that we had for the next day. Love is sweet and love survives depending on how we let it grow,nurture and hold in our heart. Thanks for your response and have a good day always
@knicnax (2234)
• Philippines
22 Jun 10
I've had my fair share of break ups. I was in relationships way back highschool. Sometimes I wish love was as simple as high school love. Although they are generally the same. The same emotional investment and such, your lover was easier to please. Just a text, or have lunch or recess together. Talk on the phone til you both fall asleep. Those were enough sacrifices. I had 4 relationships in high school. One for every school year(?). haha. Some were serious, some weren't (in my opinion, but with my partner it was). I learned a lot from those experiences. I learned how to be a better partner. What I didn't like with my partner, I didn't do. What partner didn't like, I try to avoid. Those experiences helped me become a stronger person and a much better partner. I guess that's why from just 6-month relationships I now have a more than a ear relationship and we're still getting stronger and growing together :) Heartbreak is just an opportunity to make us stronger. The way you make me feel. You really turn me on. You knock me off my feet. The lonely days are gone :)
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@jaiho2009 (39034)
• Philippines
22 Jun 10
hello knicnax, That's good of you,at least you learned so much from previous relationship. You tried to changed for the better and make the most for a stronger relationship. I wish you all the happiness and all the best on your present love. love needs sacrifices,trust and honesty. Hurts,pain tears are there to make it stronger or to break. It is just a matter of,listening to our heart,following each beat,and giving what we can give. At the end,losing is worth,rather than regretting without trying our best to save the love that we once had. Thanks for your response and have a good day always
• Portugal
13 Jul 10
i dont have regrets about love bcs everytime i loved a guy i always expressed it to him^^ and i always cared for him and showed him my love^^ just them not really much. anyway im sorry that you lost that person :( really sorry. but is really nothing you can do to recover this guy? does he love someone else? if thats the case you must move on and will find other person that will love you sure but if there is a little chance to recover that person fight for it^^ just dont be sad ok?^^ if you cant be with this guy is bcs maybe he is not the right for you. but still you can try to have him back^^ but if there is no way that this happen bcs he loves someone else dont worry you will find your special boy one day^^
@jaiho2009 (39034)
• Philippines
14 Jul 10
hello sweet, Yes,i lost someone. I know i did my best,my best wasn't good enough to make him stay. It's fine,life is not always good as we expected it to be. Losing him is not the end of everything,but maybe a start of new life for me. I don't regret loving him too,for love is not to regret . Love is to give and not to beg,so,now i had moved on. I know maybe someday,true love will come my way. Thanks again for your response and happy mylotting