Love And Friendship Which is Relation Is Best?

India
June 22, 2010 6:04am CST
Well many people says that love is best and many says friendship. We often say that we can share everything with our friends and they understand easily all our feelings but in case of love sometimes we dont say everything to our partner. When a friend leave us we become hurt but in case of love sometimes many people leave to live and become very weak and in love we use to be very possessive but not that much in friendship.Some says friendship is the basis of love and love is ultimatum of friendship.Yeah we do care of our friends but when we get a partner do we care of our friends that much which we use to do towards our lover? So now it becomes a controversial matter which one is most important? These two relations are best at their own aim but if we compare these two which would be the best?
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18 responses
@laratri (254)
• India
22 Jun 10
hi manasi... I think Love and Friendship is important for everyone. First lovers must be a good friends. (eg) My husband... Good day.... Thanks Laratri
• United States
22 Jun 10
I think friendship because you cant love someone you dont know. I think at one time or another your partner has to be your bestfriend,and when they become your partner you ease up on friend like conversation
• India
3 Sep 10
I think friendship is best.
@rautrahul (267)
• India
3 Sep 10
The difference between love & friendship can be confusing even to the most philosopical mind. Sometimes love come from passion & friendship seems to be arrived from experience & time, but true love seems to come from the experience friendship brings to us. The difference between love & friendship is the level of commitment, sacrifice & preservation of a personal space allowed. The difference between love & friendship is that love transcends all material space while friendship, even though capable to being transcendent has some minor limitations or differences. However, love can exist in frienship.
• Romania
9 Jul 10
We gotta admit that we need love, we need friends too. And if you have a good relationship with your partner, then you can say to him everything, like a good friend.
• Portugal
9 Jul 10
love is the best bcs you can share with a bf or gf what you cant share with a friend. with friends you dont do everything that you do with a bf but a bf can be a good friend even a best friend. also love is a feeling more strong than friendship at least for me it is^^ if we lose a friend the person we love can comfort us but if we lose the person we love who will comfort us? even our friends support is enough to forget it that fast.
• Philippines
23 Jun 10
For me it's both you cannot love a person without making friends with them.
23 Jun 10
when there is friendship,primarily there is love.you can't be friends with others when you do not love that person.there is so many classification of love.
@lacieice (2065)
• United States
22 Jun 10
To my way of thinking, your spouse or lover should be your best friend. That is the best possible relationship to have. You not only have to love someone, you have to like them as well. Love without friendship would be a very empty relationship. And remember, there are many degrees of both love and friendship. You love your pets, but it's different than the love you have for friends and life partners.
• India
22 Jun 10
love...whenever some one thinks about this word...the first word that comes to ones mind is PAIN m sure...but when it is friendship i feel the word is MASTI which comes to our mind...how many of us does actually know what love is?? different people predict it in a different way...but friendship has only one meaning...thats TRUST,CARE,SOULMATE...love comes and goes even when we make 1000s of promises that we will stay together but the moment we see problems in a relationship keeps increasing we break up....but friendship is such a relation if we make a promise we keep up to it no matter how much we fight...yes it is very true we cant always share evrything with our love but friends are always suitable for sharing anything and evything..so i feel friendship is far better than love relationships if they are compared...but if not compared they have their own significances...
@Metatronik (5899)
• Pasay, Philippines
22 Jun 10
Actually I can't choose between love and friendship because that is actually has a big difference that both of it will be important to us. I mean you can love your friend but you don't have to do it romantically as what you are treating to your partner in relationship. Relationship as lovers can be different from friendship in terms of you have chosen this person to be with you and be ready for commitment together with the responsibility in life. But if you ask me which would be the best for me it is love with my partner since he handled me for about 3.5 years already. He understand and accepts me who I am even though he told me that it is really so hard to handle me as a partner. He is my confidant that we open up each other about our problems in life and trying to solve it on our own of course with each others help. If you have problems then at least both lovers can solve it to the extent that they are prioritizing it with responsibility. Unlike in friendship not all friends can actually give actions on your problems especially if they have to prioritize other things in terms of responsibility.
@edorms36 (267)
• United Arab Emirates
22 Jun 10
HI! With this two important relationships we have, there are significant differences because in friendship though there is commitment to it the expectations and obligations are less while with loving a person in a special relationship there are much to consider and expectations are high, but what is important with these two is that in any kind of relationship we are in, we just have to be true and honest and giving the best we can give to make the relationship succeed and to trust and respect one another. With all of these, both can be the best relationship we can have.
@braiym3 (135)
• Philippines
22 Jun 10
For me, it is love then friendship. Though I agree that love starts with friendship. However, I believe that friends are not always there for you (physically) but your partner will do. Also, in my case... I cannot say everything to all my friends but I have only 1 friend wherein I can share and tell her every thing but she is not always there for me (physically) since she also has her life but we know that we are here for each other. My current partner, is always there for me though we have some misunderstandings but is is part of a relationship and adjustment.
@kukueye (1761)
• Malaysia
22 Jun 10
Love is sacrifice - Loving involve alot of love.
i Guess love is more powerful, i think the ultimate love is the one which sacrifice her/his life for him.Friendship is there also, willing to take a bullet for a friends like those in the movies? But in real life hard to said whether exist or not.I guess love among parents ,sibling and couples are strong also to a point.I guess love relation is the best.Very rare.
• China
22 Jun 10
In my life , I think both love and friendship are important for me . lover can bring surprise to me any time .And the real friends can give me a hand ,when I am in problem . Thus I hope to hold them forever. .hehe .what is your thinking?
@piya84 (2591)
• India
22 Jun 10
Fisrt let me say very warm welcome to mylot forum Manasai.I am piya and i am probably form your country. Now your question. I think its liking comparing Banana with Apple.Both things are great at their own place Manasi.There are few things which i rally cant discuss with my friends and there are things i cant share with my lover.Both people are dear to me.
• United States
22 Jun 10
yes friendship is most definitely better! i have seen friends last for all their days, but those who claim love dont last as long. if two people are friends, they respect one another on so many levels, but then once they get into relationship, they lose the friendship and it fails. now, i am not saying a relationship is bad, but friendship is usually what makes or breaks a relationship anyways. that is why i hope for someday when i meet the woman destined for me, she and i will be friends first, and always friends, so that our love will be real, and we can trust one another as friends do. friends may feel bad about one another being in a relationship=especially if they are male and female friends, but friends always support one another. when i consider the beauty friendship brings to a loving relationship......i envision such a wonderful thing! a friendly relationship! how wonderful!
@roxyoo7 (246)
• India
22 Jun 10
Well according to me that comparison doesn't makes much sense.You know what they say,"Its not the ride but its the rider that matters".In my opinion both relations are divine.So i think it is totally on the person with whom you are in relation with.Nature and type of relation has nothing to do with it.For instance let us assume that there are two persons in your life.One plays the role of best friend and other plays the role of lover.Now if lover plays his parts honestly but friend,due to some reason betrays you then you will certainly say that love is better then friendship because the friend you trusted hurt you.Same way if your lover hurts you and friend plays his part well then you will certainly curse Love and will consider friendship as a better relation.So in the end what i actually want to say is that it all depends upon person.If you are with some good person then no matter what kind of relationship it is,its going to rock for sure. I hope my response will be helpfull. Happy myloting
@abj163 (1038)
• India
22 Jun 10
i totally appreciate your first 4 lines.....they are true.....i think friendship is better anytime than love....both relationships have problems but in friendship they are very less and in love it is more....so if i will have choice of these options i will definitely choose friendship.......this is my thinking ....so its not compulsory that u must agree with me happy mylotting