oh please give me patience!

Philippines
June 22, 2010 4:02pm CST
here it is again! i'm losing control over my emotions and my boyfriend and i had an argument, AGAIN! maybe there is really something wrong with me.. i just can't figure it out. i have been impatient over my boyfriend's behavior for the past 3 years, may it be a silly minor thing or to the deadliest of all. i just can't control it and i want to change badly! i love my boyfriend (no doubt) but it is ME that i am worried about coz i've always been short fused and moody. he's the one that has been understanding me but there are also times that he will correct me and react. now, i'm afraid that time will come he will be fed up with me (God forbid). i really need PATIENCE a lot.. i need it badly so that no matter how inconvenient it is for me i can still manage for a smile.. personally i don't want arguments anymore. it drains my energy a lot. i want to change for myself, for him and for this relationship. oh please will someone encourage me right now..
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10 responses
• Bulgaria
23 Jun 10
Try to control your emotions ,sometimes too strong negative emotions cause stress which can lead to depression and other disease states. Sorry for bad english but I belive that you will understand me. I can give you one advice , be gentle with your boyfriend and he will respond with the same. I wish you nice and positive days ,good luck and again sorry for bad english!
• Philippines
25 Jun 10
thanks for the advice. i do get you. thanks.
@eurekafemme (5881)
• Philippines
23 Jun 10
I had the same problem as you have with my husband for 3 years. Well, we lived in together for two years before getting married and he never changed his ways. Ways that often are the cause of losing my temper and getting really impatient (not with him but his manners). If you love him, just try to accept him for who he really is. I will tell right now that he will not change his ways. He will try maybe but he will be back to his old self in no time. The love you have will sustain it. That is if it is really love that you have for him. Just keep on praying that one day he will change even a bit and be a little considerate. Until now, I'm still pissed with some of my husband's behaviors but he is trying his best to change. Whic is a good sign that he isn't a hopeless case.:-) Goodluck to you.:)
• Philippines
25 Jun 10
yeah i guess i really need to accept the whole him to lessen my impatient. sometimes i forgot that we're 2 opposite people. thanks for the encouragement.
@maean_19 (4662)
• Philippines
23 Jun 10
Is it only your patience that you are worried about? Well, as long as you are determined to change, then go for it. Take some time to relax your mind, do some meditation and yoga. Yoga can freshen your body, mind and soul. Practice to relax and drive away negative thoughts. Sometimes, bad vibes make us easily out of control. Deep breathing may help too. Well, my boyfriend is impatient, while I have a long patience. Good thing I am not impatient at least I can balance it. I think that is also your situation. Good thing again that you have realized that he might one time fed up with you. What I do actually is letting myself calm. I don't meet his anger. If we argue, I will initiate to stop. I think, stopping is what you can practice. If you feel that you are on your bad mood, breathing is the best way to loosen up.
• Philippines
25 Jun 10
hey thanks.. i will try this. hopefully i can make this as i am desperate to change. thanks.
@jules67 (2790)
• Philippines
23 Jun 10
Your boyfriend must really love you because he has that patience with your for a long time now. This is something that you have to be thankful for. Changing is not done overnight, it takes a while. I do get impatient once in a while and boy, I do talk to myself a lot because I also want to change. I must say that it is a working progress. It really takes time. Perhaps what you can do it to train your mind not to react instantly on anything that you hear or say that could make you impatient. Try to count 1 to 10 and take a deep breath. Try to be good to yourself as well. Do not expect a big change right away. Do it slowly and take pride in every small positive change that you see in yourself.
• Philippines
25 Jun 10
thanks.. :)
• United States
23 Jun 10
well, you should consider how serious these things are. no man likes an emotional female, even if he marries her! males and females are different, but you should really get to the bottom of why you and your boyfriend argue...is it because of you or him? does he try to walk away from the argument but you keep going after him to argue? i say this because this is what i see females do every single day..love to argue and will keep trying to go on about something even if the guy says he wants to be done with that. emotions should be held in check. they are never good, and to me an emotional woman is not attractive at all. but i am not your boyfriend...heh heh. you should talk to him seriously and ask him about how he feels about your emotions
• Philippines
25 Jun 10
thanks for letting me know what men think about. thanks a lot.
• Portugal
8 Jul 10
maybe you just feel emotions too much and you dont mean to hurt him and hurt by accident. anyway try to relax and dont be so angry when things dont go like you want^^ think that you have a bf so understanding and that loves you so much that everytime you yell at him he always forgives you^^ think about how sweet he is and im sure you wont have courage to even yell at him again^^ remember how lucky you are for have a sweet bf that really loves you. dont let him go and remember say sorry to him how much you love him^^ for sure you can control your emotions^^
• India
23 Jun 10
well small fights like these do happen in life. But it shows how much you actually care and how long you can bear your boyfriend. You have got a lot of love in you which helps you stay with your boyfriend all the time. The simple solutions are the most effective. I believe that you and him should have a little talk and sort things out. He should know how much you really care for him. Take him on a special outing maybe at his favorite place and treat him like a prince. Make him feel that your the girl for him. If you are truly in love them all these are really child's play for you. All the best!
@jasmeena (850)
• Indonesia
23 Jun 10
What is the real problem?Try to control your emotion,just calm yourself down first..let him calm himself either. after a few days, try talking to him nicely, ask, listen and have empathy..communication is the KEY
@anne25penn (3310)
• Philippines
23 Jun 10
I don't think anything is wrong with you. Maybe in terms of being patient, try to manage your expectations so that you don't get impatient. Most of the time we get impatient because we get frustrated over small things that we really shouldn't worry about. So, try that and see if your temper gets diffused.
@PB1990 (13)
• United States
22 Jun 10
Having an argument in a relationship is completely natural in some cases. but if ur losing your patience and dnt kno wat to do about it. well here is some advice. 1) dont think about negative thoughts of wat is happening in ur relationship because you will get so mad and unpatient. 2) get somthing to take care of like a dog, cat, goat, fish, cow, etc. because tht will make u gain patience and responsibility. 3) play games tht deals with patience like a game of chess or a puzzle to take ur mind off of the thing ur worried about. there is alot of things to do to gain patience and make ur relationship go to the right direction. if these advice dont do u much. well go out with ur boy/girlfriend for a walk if u feel so stress out and talk about the problem ur dealing with. having all the anger will make u lose control.or if ur mad and dont want to talk to no one just go for a walk in the park and think about the positive thoughts tht would make you happy.