Are you embarrassed to say "I love you" to your loved one in public?
June 23, 2010 7:28am CST
I just got into a heated discussion today with my husband. Apparently, he was out with some people for a photography session in a cramped car and when I told him I loved him, he hesitated to reply that he loved me back. He said he was embarrassed to do it in public, since we are already old (30's) and it's cheesy when he does. It's like going back to high school for him. He says he was with people he isn't really close with. Acquaintances. I on the other hand, don't really care. I freely say it. Of course I wouldn't say it in front of a client, or in a business meeting or whatever the case may be; it really depends on the situation. But when I'm out with my friends, when my husband calls, I would freely say it without any hesitations. Now he said when I am out with friends, he refuses to say it so that I won't be pressured to say it to him too. What the hell is going on? am I the only one confused here? Is it a 'manly' thing? I do not want to lose this part of our relationship just because we're 'getting older' and it all seems cheesy. I do not understand him. He does not understand me. I need your input. Thanks!
23 Jun 10
I think this is caused by different personal character and habits. My boyfriend also do not like to say he loves me or act close with me in public or with people around. I think this is just because he is a little shy and he thinks it is embrassed to do that. Though I do not mind saying I love him in public, I do not think he should do the same. I think it is ok that different people have different habits. So I think it will be totally ok even you hunsband do not say he loves you in public. Trust him that he really loves you at the bottom of his heart.
24 Jun 10
Thanks susanayako. You just made me feel better. I think there is something about men who do not like other men to see their soft side. I hope it's just it. Yeah you have a point, that I should not expect him to do the same. I hope that a guy can clarify this up so that we can confirm that this is just the issue and not something else I need to worry about more.
23 Jun 10
Nope. I can tell "I love you" to my girlfriend anytime and anywhere. I can shout it in a place with lots of people if she wanted to. I don't think its cheesy. It should be normal to any couples especially to those who are already married. I think the more appropriate term would be sweet. Not cheesy.