Why do girls keep crying over a guy who is a cheater???

@vmt102 (50)
Philippines
June 23, 2010 4:43pm CST
I've seen a lot of relationships, different kinds, whether it is composed of a happy couple (obviously from a smooth relationship), serious lovers, friends-now-dating couple, playful relationship, and others. But, one that really amaze me is seeing girls crying over a cheater boyfriend!!! Knowing that he's just cheating on her, and that there's somebody out there that she'd shared her boyfriend with, that while waiting for him on dates that he missed, he's with that 'other' girl -- why can't they just cry once and move on? Or just think that he's not worth shedding tears and just hate him forever? Is it really impossible to cry just once over a cheater?
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22 responses
@rosie230 (1675)
23 Jun 10
Have you ever been in love??? Not being funny, but the reason we cry is because it hurts. We feel like we done something wrong or we just wasn't enough. And also the thought of being with a man who has been sleeping with another woman is enough to make anyone sick. Heart break is a horrible pain, and believe me there are men that cry just as much as woman. I hope that you never have to go through anything like this!
@vmt102 (50)
• Philippines
24 Jun 10
Yes, I've been. But, the difference I guess is not as hard as the others. Maybe that's why it wasn't hard for me to move on. Yeah, hope to never go through that. Thanks!
@Jennlk84 (4219)
• United States
23 Jun 10
That is a really good question. I honestly think though that unless you're in that situation, you'll never understand. It always seems us outsiders, who have never been in love with a cheater, abuser, etc, will never understand why their significant other stays in the relationship. For some people it's fear. Others I do not know.
@vmt102 (50)
• Philippines
24 Jun 10
Yeah. I guess so. Thanks for the answer.
@cupkitties (6698)
• United States
24 Jun 10
If a girl is wasting tears over a guy its because she loved him and because of what he did she's also lost him. No girl is going to waste tears on some guy she couldn't care less about.
@5h1n164m1 (111)
• Indonesia
24 Jun 10
i think there are 2 reasons. First, of course the girls are broken heart and it is not easy to heal it, it takes lot of time. That is why girls cry more than once. Besides that, it is nature of woman to be very sensitive. it absolutely can not be change. The second, it because she is angry being betrayed, and cannot fight back. Well, i had an experience. It is happened when i am having group work to finish lecturer assignment. Our group consist of 6 people, 2 girls and 4 boys including me. 1 of our member (boy, his initial is "IP") doesn't contribute anything to the group. When we are gather to do the assignment, he always have reasons to escape from it. One time, when we are having final projects to substitute the exam score, we all work hard till a day before submission, we still work on it. Mine was totally complete a week ago, so i help the other members to finish their part. Finally, all was done except IP's part. Before, we thought his part was done since he never report to us. However, in the end we know that, he don't even work and the last time we gather, we ask him to come. But you know where he went at that time? he went to cinema to watch movies, but he lie to us by saying he is having birthday party. we were very angry to him. Thus, we submitted on time (i don't even sleep because i need to do his part). One day after submission, we gather him and we evaluated our self. I was the one who having this idea because i know that, some of girls cannot bear it anymore, i am afraid it will turn into grudge later on. During evaluation, the girls shouted at him but they don't it or slap. though i know they must be very angry. If it is me, i will surely hit him once at least. Finally, their emotion turn into tears. The girls cries for a hour. At time, i understand one thing, if the girls can really hit or slap him, i am sure they won't cry after it. It is because they can't, they cry because the emotion is over limit.
@braiym3 (135)
• Philippines
24 Jun 10
I guess it is impossible to cry once over a cheater unless she really doesn't love that guy. As we all know, women are more emotional and sensitive that is why women cannot cry once on this matter. Also, this is our way of expressing how we feel then after so many times of crying we are ready to moved on.
@tomcat23 (623)
• Old Forge, Pennsylvania
24 Jun 10
It is funny, while she cries over someone who doesn't appreciate her, there's a guy who would appreciate her, yet she doesn't give him the time of day. I've seen that happen many times. I've also seen women who think things will change once they are married, which is why I believe so many marriages fail. Its usually the woman who sees marriage as a way to change the man, so they really aren't marrying the guy for who he is, she marries hoping it'll change him into who she wants him to be. I've been living with my girlfriend for 13 years and we both realize marriage isn't going to change our relationship, just our status.
• India
24 Jun 10
well it is so because although the guy was a cheater but may be the girl was really serious about him. She probably was in real love with that guy and after she was betrayed and cheated it would be hard to believe that for her. And this all trauma takes a long time to settle down.
• China
24 Jun 10
When a boy friend lie to his girl friend , he do not notice that his acting will hurt his lover very much . the girl loves him ,believe in him ,but bring his lies. So the girl will keep crying over a guy who cheat her. Therefore i think that do not cheat each other , it is very important for lovers .
• Philippines
24 Jun 10
yez it is..coz mending a broken heart can't be done just for a day coz if you love someone you'll never look on the negative side but as a whole..you'd cry for that guy because you love him and you are happy being with him but if not of course you wouldn't..i've been there for many times already and done all the drama but as long as you are happy with that cheater go on..cry ones in a while and also be happy most of the time..
• Philippines
24 Jun 10
When you have a great feeling to someone and you have invested a great feeling towards him or her, we sometimes forget to see the painful reality - which includes cheating. We are blinded with that joyful feeling of being inlove and sometimes end immature - crying at someone not worthy for our attention. We just can blame those individuals crying for someone who is bad. Its their emotion and we just cant question their emotions. Sometimes, our emotions are the reasons behind committing mistakes.
@ench815 (465)
• Philippines
24 Jun 10
People cry for different reasons. Most will shed tears because they are sad. While others because of happiness, fear, anger and various other emotions. These are all valid reasons to cry. Do you ever wonder why people have tears? During the lowest point in my life, I refused to cry thinking it will make me sadder. But a wise person told me that it's alright to cry. She told me that we have tears because it is our body's way of coping with our feelings. Now girls who were cheated by their boyfriends should cry until they get all the ugly feelings out of their system. Whether they are feelings of rejection, betrayal, loss, anger, sadness and hurt, drain it out of you. Then after you had your "one last cry" it's time to move on. But don't think you wasted all your tears for a cheater. Those tears are for you. They helped you ease the pain, too. It is a cleansing process that makes you stronger in the end. Strong enough, not to hate somebody forever, but to heal and feel better.
• Philippines
24 Jun 10
Girls are emotional. When it comes to relationship, girls shed more tears than guys. We cry because we dont deserve such treatment when guys cheat. But good thing about girls is that after we're done crying, we bounce back with heads up high! Nope, we cannot hate and cry for them forever! They are humans too. But it is possible to stop crying over and over for a guy who is a cheater.
@paula27661 (15900)
• Australia
24 Jun 10
Girls cry when the guy has cheated because they have been betrayed and that hurts! They cry because they are left with a feeling of not being ‘enough’ for the man they love has turned to someone else. They cry because their dreams for the future have been shattered. They cry because it is the end of union that meant the world to them and they feel they will never have it again. So you see there are many reasons why girls cry if he cheated; he may not be worth it but the pain is very real!
• Philippines
24 Jun 10
girls used to give a love that is really unconditional, they give all their best to show the guy how much they loves them. so the moment they knew they were cheated, they would then have a hard time on letting go of the strong feeling they've once felt for that guy.they cry because they got hurt, reminiscing the moments they were together and the things they used to do, they also cry to at least ease the pain their feeling of being cheated by the person they expect to love them. moving on wasn't an easy stuff to do,it never was and it will never be...
• India
24 Jun 10
that is really a tough question. Because girls act strangely at times. some might forget their boyfriends but most cannot. They think that they still have a part of their boyfriend present somewhere in their heart. Don't ask me why. Maybe one should be a girl and be cheated by a boy to understand. We understand it's true value only when someone expreinces that. Until then we can just share our experiences like this that's all. Some can even tolerate that ther
@eurekafemme (5881)
• Philippines
24 Jun 10
Who wouldn't especially if that cheater is someone we love so much! and because of that love we are giving him chance to prove that he is worthy of our love even if it means hurt and heartaches for us over and over again. Sure, it is possible to let go but it is never that easy. We, girls keep on holding on a little longer waiting while hoping that a miracle will happen eventually. We don't cry over boys who are cheater. We cry whenever we are cheated because of the fact that we are receiving pain from an unworthy guy.There are so many deserving guys out there but this particular cheater is the one we chose to love... Sigh... lovers are blind...
• Philippines
24 Jun 10
Well this is not applicable to all the ladies. Some are so emotional, some are tough and strong. You can't blame a person if she just releases her emotion by crying, this means you're not a robot. Crying does not make a person weakling. It is just an outlet, so if you haven't experience such, just don't compare yourself with others also. Even if your friend is so gaga over a cheater, it will take time to heal a broken heart. Just remind a person that you are there to help and make her realize if ever she is over doing it already like a martyr for nothing. Men and women will never be the same when it comes to showing their disappointments and frustrations in love. Just try to think that a lesson learned should make a person stronger and cautious the next time they will consider a serious relationship. There is time for everything, time to cry, time to laugh,etc...can't expect someone to be just like you too.
@lacieice (2065)
• United States
23 Jun 10
Because she is hurt, but more than than, it's a blow to her self-esteem. She feels she wasn't good enough, or pretty enough, or nice enough, or something elso enough. She was lied to. She was deceived and played for a fool. I think that's enough to make anyone cry.
• United States
23 Jun 10
When a boy seems to "Like" or "Love" the girl, and begin spending more time with each other, the girl forms a bond with the boy, but the boy may not have formed a bond with her. So when the boy cheats on her, the bond is broken, and because she put her life for that man/boy, she feels like a bad person.
@clocks123 (1229)
• United States
23 Jun 10
i don't think all girls are like this. it is human nature to want what we cannot have. this might very well be the reason why they cry. we are better than that. let' s find a man who really loves only us and dosen't cheat on us. they are out there girls....