Do you have people around you who love you for what you are

India
June 24, 2010 12:01pm CST
And not for what you have.. If you have people who love you for what you have it's not real love If your dear ones don't love you because you don't have money again they are not your dear ones. Are you blessed with true dear ones?
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• Malaysia
24 Jun 10
i happen to have a lot of those 'What You Have' kind of people around me... not enough of the 'What You Are'...
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• India
24 Jun 10
your what you are people saphy meluan vannie vijayanths etc etc
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• Malaysia
24 Jun 10
and i'm happy i have them around except for that etc etc guy...i don't know him
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@Jotomy (6303)
• India
24 Jun 10
our friends are missing here anna.....
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@vandana7 (62278)
• India
24 Jun 10
Not so lucky!
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@Jotomy (6303)
• India
24 Jun 10
why vandana ? I am there with you, don't worry.
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• India
24 Jun 10
Jotomy, she never counts us her dear ones? But let us continue to have her as our dear one
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@Jotomy (6303)
• India
24 Jun 10
Yes anna
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@tomcat23 (623)
• Old Forge, Pennsylvania
24 Jun 10
What you are and what you have should never mean as much as WHO you are.
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@vandana7 (62278)
• India
24 Jun 10
Great words!
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• India
24 Jun 10
that is a good one tomcat
• India
24 Jun 10
wow. meluan, with 8 words you have shown us what is life.
@Jotomy (6303)
• India
24 Jun 10
Hi anna, i have lot many friends but all are settled in different different places, some are in UK, USA, Dubai and in different places of India, but still they are in contact with me over phone or yahoo messenger. We will be meeting on the marriages or some occasions if possible. Only one friend i am missing a lot. Hope she is doing fine. I never see friends or dear ones has a status or money, they are my friends. And hope they treat as the same. My father, my in laws, my sister and my brother is always with me. I love them all, hope they too love me. All the above, i have my husband and my son and my beloved GOD.
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@vandana7 (62278)
• India
24 Jun 10
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• India
24 Jun 10
oh that is so nice to hear Jotomy.
• Malaysia
24 Jun 10
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• India
24 Jun 10
I have the people who cares for me.. bt still sometimes there is a need for that single heart..
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• India
24 Jun 10
oh, nice to note you have people who care for you. But why you need a single heart?
• India
28 Jun 10
thanks siddhu, let us hope so..
@cher913 (25893)
• Canada
24 Jun 10
i have to say that i am quite fortunate in this area. though i dont have really close girl friends, i do have many friends and family members that love and appreciate me.
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• India
7 Jul 10
hi, cher nice to note you have good friends. I think your family members are caring and loving. You must be having a good life there.My wishes to you to enjoy life to the fullest with your dear family and dear friends. I must say you are blessed with a good family and good friends too.
24 Jun 10
Fortunately I do. My partner is everything to me, even though I spoil him far more than he spoils me, but sometimes I would be even happier to have my parents if they hadn't have abandoned me whilst a baby. I've tried to make very close and meaningful relationships in my life but somehow people just move on and so they forget you or you them. I think it's entirely wrong for anyone to demand or expect money from another person (family or not) because it can send out a very powerful message of where it is their interests lie in that person, especially if it becomes a routine obligation. I've met so many people in the past whose friends and families have demanded money from them simply because they think that they are entitled to it! - I can't understand the logic of these type of people when they have no idea of the damage it creates that they assume the rest of the world owes them a living. These kind of creatures have no morals or values, but usually it always backfires so lessons do get learnt if only the hard way. It's a sad place to be for anyone whose friends and families only want to know them because of what they have even if they don't have it to give in the first place. Just watch the Jeremy Kyle show and they are full of people who treat the ones they care about in appalling ways, I'm amazed that they exist in real life!
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• India
7 Jul 10
Hi shakiraclare you said it so beautifully.You explained clearly about relationship, expectations and so on. I am sure you are an independent woman who does not depend on any one in this world. But that does not restrict a relationship.
• Philippines
24 Jun 10
i think i can say that i am blessed to have two friends who loves and accepts me for what i have and what i am not. though we are living away from each other we always keep in contact through phone and email.
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• India
24 Jun 10
That's so nice to hear midnightbliss. I also have great people around me and away from me.
@vathsala30 (3723)
• India
24 Jun 10
Hi Vijayanths I do not think i have such real friends and awaiting anxiously for such friends. May be I am not that fortunate enough to be loved. Let me wait patiently till I find one atleast
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• India
24 Jun 10
vathsala it need not be friends. You are blessed with a dear husband and two sons, right? And you have so many good friends on Mylot and that includes me.
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@incus99 (1086)
• Philippines
24 Jun 10
I'm proud to say that my wife loves me for what I really am.
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• India
24 Jun 10
glad to hear that incus. I wish you both to remain like this for ever.
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@Hatley (164759)
• Garden Grove, California
24 Jun 10
hi vijayanths my husband loved me for the person I am not for what I did or did not have, in fact back many years I passed up a million dollars just to marry the man I loved. My father had become very w ealthy and thought he could buy people to do what he wanted but he failed when he tried to bribe me with money not to marry the man I loved.So my hubby and I did not have a lot of money but we loved each other and our marriage was a great one. I am widowed now but did not regret a day of our marriage. My son loves me for me and so does my best friend Nelda.The few friends I have know I am not well to do and that does not matter to them at all.
• India
7 Jul 10
Wow, that is a very nice life indeed Hatley. I am happy that you enjoyed the life to the fullest with your dear husband. I must say that quantity does not matter much but the quality is what more important. Those days are still fresh in your memories. I admire you as a kind, intelligent and loving woman.You live as an example to others.
• Portugal
8 Jul 10
my friends dont love me for what i have they love me for what i am and im very happy for it^^ i think life without friends is meaningless and i rather be poor and have a lot of friends than being rich and people just want my money. we must always appreciate good things in life and is true that money is important to have a good life but just money is not enough^^
• Philippines
7 Jul 10
I think people around me love me for who i am and not of what i have..Because i don't have that thing i suppose to have :)
• Philippines
28 Jun 10
hi there! yes i do! i have lots of them! i have my youth ministry who's more or less 50 people, i have my music ministry around 30 people, i have my family which is 25 people, i have my church community of less than 100 people, and i do have other friends which is more or less around 20 people too. i know, and i have a great feeling that they do really love me... as much as i do love them. we've been together for over decades now, even through hardships even though at times i don't have anything to give them they were still there for me, beside me, to support me. i am so blessed because of them and i thank god for giving me this people to love and to stay with me. happy mylotting!
• Philippines
25 Jun 10
yes. because i have a family and true friends, that love's me for what i am and who i am. they are not looking at my background but my natural attitude. its happy that there is people who love's you with or without money in your pocket. thanks.!
@digidon (165)
• Philippines
25 Jun 10
yeah... they are few but proud... out of all "friends" I have... these are the people who understands me for who I am and I value them
@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
25 Jun 10
The people who love and care about me must do so because of who I am because I don’t have anything else to give them! When I met the man who would become my husband we were both in debt and had very little to our names except love for each other. Everything we have today we have built together; it may not be much but it is all our little family needs!
@ganeshsh (108)
• India
25 Jun 10
hello, vijay, I have many people around me who love me for what I am now. They are my dear ones.
@Cutie18f (9564)
• Philippines
24 Jun 10
Well, of course, my family takes me and love me for who I am but the most genuine love I get are from my pet dogs. That's true unconditional love I get from them. LOL