Im afraid so....

@bestie (1458)
Philippines
June 24, 2010 10:05pm CST
Is it possible that you will just fall out of love one day with your partner or decide to leave him/her when your fed up already? I"m living together with my partner and we've been in a relationship for 5 years now.we've only live together n just a couple of months and I always feel bad coz i feel like I'm always seeking for his attention.
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@maean_19 (4662)
• Philippines
25 Jun 10
I think I can relate. But I cannot say if falling ot of love is that possible unless there is someone else. In my opinion, falling out of love is just a reason for the other person to get out of the relationship. I guess, it is a girl thing to be like that especially when you are living together. Of course, there is another level of your relationship now, same is through with your demands. You are acting like a wife already and expecting more. I am living in with my current bf too for almost 8 months now and I see several differences in me. It seems that my world is only him. There are things that I cannot do anymore. There are things that I wanted him to do, but he doesn't. He is going out at night and I expect him to come home early, and I end up waiting for him. Oh! I don't want to tell more. By the way, assess yourself my friend. I cannot say much today because I am sick.
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• Philippines
25 Jun 10
or when the person is actually feel cold and timid to the wife or husband just because the spouse is into another hobby. well, you two can always talked about it and then sort things out and ask why is he going out when he should be going home. communication is important, he can't just do things on his own and let you wait for him, does this happen too often?
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@maean_19 (4662)
• Philippines
26 Jun 10
Between the months of May and June, he actually have many out of the metro trips. And then when he got back here, he goes out from 9:30 pm till 3 am in the morning, but last wednesday, he already arrived 5 am. Every time he asks permission, I would not say anything like holding him up not to go because I don't want to lead us into arguing on that matter. However, I got sick lately and the cause of it is having lack of sleep and thinking some stuff like I have this instinct that he is seeing someone else. Last Thursday morning, while he is fixing the bedsheets, he saw some strips of tissue besides my pillow. What irritates me is that he just asked if I was crying, just that and he did not ask why.
@knicnax (2234)
• Philippines
25 Jun 10
The problem with people in relationships is that one tends to feel much "at-home" with the other that they think their partner won't leave. The fact that you live together heightened his sense of security. Try asking him to go out sometime or for you to do chores together so you could spend more time and the chores would be more fun to do. You have to take the initiative because if you'll wait for him to make a move, it may never come and you'll just hurt yourself and get fedup with waiting
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@bestie (1458)
• Philippines
26 Jun 10
I find it difficult to do so coz he's spending more time with his friends than with me and that's my problem...
• Philippines
25 Jun 10
It is always said that it takes two to tango. I think since you two are living together your partner is secure that you are just around and could be the reason that you felt that you are constantly seeking for his attention. Why don't you talk to him about how you really feel so that he is aware of it. He might be thinking that everything is doing well. Open communication is really important to work out a relationship don't wait until such time that it will get worst, act on it now. God bless!!!
@bestie (1458)
• Philippines
26 Jun 10
thank's a lot dear...
• Philippines
25 Jun 10
Hello bestie, That's why courtship shouldn't end after marriage. always find a way to spice up the relationship and make a giggle out of each other. five years is a long time already and it's alright because it's part of the phase that you two are going through. but regardless that he is upset or not for you seeking his attention, always prove your love to him.
@bestie (1458)
• Philippines
26 Jun 10
thank's...you're probably right!
• Malaysia
25 Jun 10
i think when we love someone we will keep on seeking their attention to make sure they still have the same feeling. i'm also in a relationship and i still seek my partner's attention most of the time; not only when we are together but also when we are apart. i think when two people really love and accept each other chances of breakup is very small.
@bestie (1458)
• Philippines
26 Jun 10
thank's for that!
• United States
25 Jun 10
you need to keep communication very open. tell him you feel like your being needy. listen to what he says. then be honest about what could make you feel better. maybe just having a certain phrase he can say to let you know he loves you but is busy. keep in mind you cant change him only yourself. so if your feeling bad for seeking his attention, stop! what did you do to fill in your time when you didnt live together? keep up with your hobbies and time killers. if your lonely, call a friend and chat. most men require down time, its good to give it. then they respond better the rest of the time. good luck!
@bestie (1458)
• Philippines
26 Jun 10
yeah you're right! thank's for that...
@utakgaga (17)
• Philippines
25 Jun 10
We feel exactly the same. But whenever he says he won't give up, it gives me hope that he will really never leave me. I think, it is really up to one of the couples for the relationship to survive. If one is already fed up, the other one should know how to comfort you. I've tried breaking up with my boyfriend, but it actually makes everything worse. You only end up missing him, seeking for more of his attention. So, I think, the best thing for you to do is find ways to fire up the situation so it won't die down just like that. Keep your hopes high :)
@bestie (1458)
• Philippines
26 Jun 10
thank you dear...you give me hope,you brightens me up...
• Portugal
8 Jul 10
thats normal bcs he works and you work so you cant just give attention to each other but if you feel he doesnt give you enough attention talk with him and tell him you need him and his attention^^ that this hurts you that he doesnt show care as much as he used to show before right? talk with him^^ dont keep it to yourself and you will see he will change his attitude^^ bcs if he is with you is bcs he loves you and maybe he is so focused in his job and didnt even notice you are unhappy. talk with him ^^
@jugsjugs (13045)
25 Jun 10
I think that there are alot of people that feel the same way as you do.I have been married 14 years and we have 6 children,that puts a bit of a strain on us at times as we do not get much time together on our own.I think that in a relationship it has to be give and take aswell as you both show your feelings rather than it just being the one person doing it all.
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
25 Jun 10
Hi Bestie, Sounds like you guys are probably in that stage where you are just really comfortable with each other. It doesn't mean that he does not still love you at all. You have recently taken your relationship to the next level and are living together. Rather than seek his attention all the time, you should find interests of your own and spend time with your friends when he is busy doing his thing. That way when you are together, you have something to talk about. Also time spent apart will make you both more appreciative of the time that you have to spend together.
• India
25 Jun 10
Its all depend on our desire.. Situation made the diffrence. whenever we failed to reach our expectation we feel bad. Only u can find the solution
• Philippines
25 Jun 10
If you really love him, instead of thinking about the possibilities of falling out of love, you should think of ways on how the two of you can work out your relationship. Don't keep your feelings to yourself. Be honest about your feelings. Your partner has the right to know about it too. When you are in a relationship, it is important that you are able to communicate openly to your partner. Ask him out for the things he want to do, ask him to be honest if he is getting bored of your relationship and what he wants to happen next so both of you can think of a good solution to save your relationship.
• United Arab Emirates
25 Jun 10
yes, it is possible to feel. This may happen when you compare your husband to some one you have a crush on. You may also start concentrating on things that you dont get rather than feeling happy for what you have got. This may inclued physical love, time and fun times to gather. But I would always advise you to start thinking from his perspective as to what would he go through when he comes to know of it. He may be trying to earn some extra bucks or putiing in hard work for a promotion, wouldnt that make you happy. I would always suggest thet you communicate your feeling for each other, rather than regretting later. Finally i can say is, " our thoughts decide our future."
• China
25 Jun 10
Then in my case, I will never try to seek my boyfriend's attention. There are always so many things in life I want to learn and want to do. I just often feel time is so limited. So sometimes I even feel extremely happy when he leaves me alone.
• Malaysia
25 Jun 10
I think it is normal to seek attention from your partner but that is just my guessing. I have been in a relationship for three years and still i seek my partner's attention. I think it can't be help...but i think if we are not too clinging that won't be a problem.