do you say the very things that your mum said to you and you hated?
By MAllen400
@MAllen400 (829)
June 25, 2010 3:58am CST
I am now a Grandmother and it is very funny to hear my daughter saying to her daughter what she hated hearing from me!
You know the kind of thing. When your child falls over you say "up you get it didnt hurt" when it of course it hurt! Or the most "awful" of licking a tissue to wipe the bit of dirt from their faces.
I used to do this to my daughter (and other 2 children) and when we talked about it years later they said how they hated it. Now they hve children they do and say it to their children and cannot believe they are doing something that they hated.
Do you do or say anything your family did to you when young and you do the same to your children?
5 responses
@Comagirl (146)
• Spain
26 Jun 10
"BECAUSE I SAID SO, THAT'S WHY!!"
I cringe when this comes out of my mouth because I always promised myself it never would, that if my kids ever questioned my judgement or instructions I would explain immediately, in ways they could understand, and they would do what I said because they wanted to and respected my greater wisdom, etc etc etc.
But sometimes you need it done straight away or they have to stop doing something that is dangerous or heading for trouble, or it would take too long to explain or there aren't age-appropriate words or reasons, and then they just have to accept that on this occasion, what you say goes!!
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
25 Jun 10
Sometimes I can't believe that the words have come out of my mouth. I am looking around for my mother. Surely she was the one to say these things and not me. I can remember as a child telling myself I would never be like my parents. Then one day you grow up and your mother's word are there to haunt you.
@MAllen400 (829)
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28 Jun 10
ah that is the good thing, the time to worry is when you look in the mirror and see your mums face looking back at you lol
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
28 Jun 10
Yes I do, though I grudgingly agree. I always hated the fact that whenever my mother would say no and I would ask her why she would always say, "Because I'm the mother and I said so." But, now that my daughter is at that age that she is constantly asking me why when I tell her no, I find that my response is the same as hers was. And the licking a tissue or napkin to wipe off faces, I used to think that was the most disgusting thing that a person could do, but then I find that I too do it all the time.
@miranda521 (427)
• China
25 Jun 10
I didn't know how I will do when I am a mother.But certainly I will avoid the unhappy ways which my mother used teaching my child.I hate that when my mother told me what I should do and shouldn't do,and wanted to make me give up my boyfriend.They never know what I really want.
As a grown lady,I know what I like and what life I need.My parents can give me advice but they can't interfere my decision.Right?
Have a good day,Mallen~
@MAllen400 (829)
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28 Jun 10
Hi Miranda I think Mums want the best for the children and dont want them making the same mistakes that they did but having said this a Mum has to eventually learn that she has to let her child make their own mistakes as thats how they learn.
It is a shame your Mum has not learnt that if she wants a daughter to finish or give up her boyfriend it is best to be quiet about it and her daughter will (may) give him up eventually but she could also dig her heels in and stay with him to spite her Mum even if she really feels mum is right and he is awful! Oh Mums can be sneaky cant they.
Yes Mums have to let their children grow up eventually though and then daughters should have a quiet, not shouting, word with Mum reminding mum how old they are. Good luck x
@lilangelspreschool (1129)
• United States
25 Jun 10
I absolutely do say some things that I hated when I was younger. Do as I say not as I do, I hated that one but I do say it now! Other things, I have stayed clear of, the things that really hurt my feelings because I never want to do that to my babies. I know what you mean though =)
