Can Ex be your good friend?

India
June 25, 2010 5:53am CST
I feel it is not possible...well isn't difficult to look at sweet or sour past and wonder what went wrong...so you end up not justifying the new relationship.
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9 responses
@eLsMarie (4148)
• Philippines
25 Jun 10
I think it depends because not all break ups tend to be good. There are some who can't accept the fact that it's over and that's the reason why they became so mean to their ex. There are some who thinks that their relationship won't work so they had a mutual decision.
• India
28 Jun 10
yeah maybe on mutual decision you can....but what's the probability???
@eLsMarie (4148)
• Philippines
28 Jun 10
I also don't know. I think when it comes to matter like this, we shouldn't dwell so much on probabilities because we can't really give further knowledge to it. Things just happen without us being aware or knowledgeable of it.
• India
28 Jun 10
Maybe...
@kiuhkj (117)
• China
26 Jun 10
Foe me this is possible. The opposite of love is hatred. Although it is not love, but also once loved, in that occured during those sweet, bitter things will certainly meet your EX when you have brought back, you really do not mind why?
• India
28 Jun 10
hmm still trying to understand what u have written...elaborate plz
@zel2zel (134)
• Philippines
25 Jun 10
Lovers to friends? Here we go again. To tell you the truth, no one can be good friends with their ex-lovers. Why? Because it is impossible! You have loved that person so much that you even cried every night just because of that person. Having a heart that was hurt, then, reuniting it again with the one who did it? People who says that, "Hey, we're friends again with my ex", are liars. Face reality. Face truth. Then you can face happiness.
• India
25 Jun 10
Bang on target...and especially if for the rel u had devoted everything...
@avani26 (1520)
• India
25 Jun 10
First of all welcome to mylot. I feel the same way too. I really do not think I could be friends with the person who I loved or hated once. I would be difficult to even look at the person if I have shared a sour relationship.
• India
25 Jun 10
Thanks....yes especially if the relationship had gone sour and came to an abrupt end...Though i have seen some having normal rel but Jealously have always cropped up...
@rkamurugy (279)
• Brazil
25 Jun 10
I don't think that is possible. Is a hard thing break up with someone and then after that became his fried, i don't see how. I just think that when people are married and got childrens, maybe a friendship is possible or a very good relation at least, since there is something that bind those 2 persons.
• India
25 Jun 10
yeah maybe after zillion years friendship can come into the picture with Ex..enless the person was very special...
@rastogisw (446)
• India
25 Jun 10
In my case I think I cant forget the Ex one but like to justice with present one also as present give me support when I was sinking due to Ex one , so my faith and love will increase in present one while I remember the old one as a sour momeries of mine and to never forgive.
• India
25 Jun 10
...well so isn't it better to just shut off the old...no friendship ...lose out the memory too...
• Philippines
25 Jun 10
YES. my ex bf has been a friend of mine before we became us. it is really important that the foundation of every relationship is friendship. so no matter where the course of life may take you, you and your ex may always be friends.
• India
25 Jun 10
Maybe it worked out for u...Gr8
@qianyun6 (2069)
• China
25 Jun 10
But a few days ago I saw a discussion said one lotter divorce from her ex and then they became friend. So maybe you can't say 'impossible' arbitrarily. All the same, I agree with you. It's difficult for ex be friends. For me, impossible.
• India
25 Jun 10
yeah exceptions are there...but even for me impossible...
• Philippines
25 Jun 10
I also don't think so. Even if how good the break-ups had happened with my ex-bfs, it was never become possible for us to be good friends. But we try to be at least civil with each other.
• India
25 Jun 10
true...but i feel when one enter into new rel they should lock up the old...