is it guy's attitude to just left without any words

Philippines
June 26, 2010 6:45pm CST
as what i mentioned earlier and few months ago, the guy left me being pregnant with our baby and he didnt say any words to me like goodbye as he doesnt love me anymore nor he doesnt want any responsibility and etc. he just gone just like that, does guy really like that going on with their life leaving things behind without any words. i mean does words is hard to say to make things clear. whats the reason behind it.
13 responses
@yspmyl (3438)
• Malaysia
27 Jun 10
I think is a man trying to avoid something from a women, he will hear nothing, say nothing and talk nothing. As this is his nature way to facing problem at least it is true for most of the guys out there. Do you all guys agree with this? Man have their ego and tend to ignore things that they think they cannot handle and settle. And also for things that they doesn't like. This is all due to the nature of the man. But if a man responsible enough, he will not do this. He will definitely take the responsibility as a father.
• Philippines
27 Jun 10
yes a man who have the guts to do things but dont have guts to say things for clarification, like if he need to go coz he think that theres something in me then how will i know if he will not tell me as perhaps what he knows was a big mistake nor a big lie nor just jumping into conclusion without clarifying things.
@juggerogre (1659)
• Philippines
27 Jun 10
That's really sad in your part. I think he's just immature and irresponsible. I don't think every guy will leave without saying any words. Those are just for guys who don't want to take any responsibilities.
• Philippines
27 Jun 10
Hi! I think his not just immature and irresponsible his a big coward too! Sad.
@rosdimy (3936)
• Malaysia
27 Jun 10
Not all guys behave like that. Other than being selfish and irresponsible, he can also be said to be immature, and prefers to remain so. Mature men would accept what has happened, and accept the responsbility. I have heard several reasons given by these fleeing or disappearing men. They include 1) I am not prepared for a married life. If it is true then he should have abstained from having a physical relationship with you. 2) I am too busy to be domiciled. 3) You are starting to get on my nerves. This is a sign of pushing away the responsibilty. 4) I don't have a steady job. Things may change for the better if we think positive about what we really want in life and work towards our goals. 5) My income is not enough to support a family. Then why start it in the first place? I believe there is a way around it if he really wants to do it. I have been through it with 12 kids. In short there are jerks around, and there are those who are on the other side.
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• Philippines
27 Jun 10
yes, too many reason but i guess those are not enough to just go without explanation to clarify things for atleast everything will be settled than hurt someone, besides im not that selfish to hold someone if he doesnt love nor want me anymore but atleast theres goodbye
@mspitot (3833)
• Philippines
27 Jun 10
he is so bad. if i were you, i would try to be in front of him and give him an insulting look. then walk away. he is so irresponsible.
• Philippines
27 Jun 10
actually when he didnt give us a look i told my friend to stop calling him, my friend was the one who was angry for letting him go just like that if i can do something like through him my shoes or shout a loud to get his attention. but i was just thinking i dont deserve to be treated that way and he doesnt deserve to give my attention anymore. i look at the other way and promised to myself that i dont know him anymore and that someday if he will show his face to us perhaps i will treat him the same way as what he did to us, and thats to ignore him.
@mspitot (3833)
• Philippines
28 Jun 10
that's okay or you can also show him that you can still be happy without him.
@eurekafemme (5881)
• Philippines
27 Jun 10
Hello, Homeshoppers.:-) How are you? I hope things are well with you and your pregnancy. As for your question, there's no other reasons behind that but his being coward. Cowardice of facing his responsibilities being the father of your soon to be born baby, and responsibility to you as his partner and mum of the kid. He has no backbone because he is thinking that he can't support you and the baby. The fear of uncertainties and not knowing if he can handle the situation obviously gets the better of him. He chickened because he did not want to see you hurt by him and he did not want to deal with the guilt upon seeing you cry. He just don't want to feel any of this and doesn't want to be part of it anymore. So, the best way he can do was to run away from it without much ado. Not leaving even a word or two. Never mind him. He's too coward to be kept and cherished...
• Philippines
27 Jun 10
i really have no idea why he need to go without any words as financially he is well equipped, his a consultant in different firms so i think thats not the problem, there might be some other problem but i have no idea really. if he can only tell me then i will be nice enough to accept it and let him go.
• Philippines
27 Jun 10
You have to learn to face the fact that he is immature. Not all men who seems equipped has the balls to face everything. Not all men are man enough to handle responsibilities and face whatever situations presented to them. You are kind and very patient, Homeshoppers. I'm pretty sure he will soon come to realize what he is missing big time! Cheers!
@Hatley (164448)
• Garden Grove, California
27 Jun 10
hi homeshoppers Very few men are like that, only louses who are so stuck on themselves they have no love to give to a girl after they made her pregnant so they just scoot out of their responsibilities as they are the ultimate in selfishness. I think the reason behind his walking out on you once he had his fun and realized you were pregnant and that as a man he should have to take responsibility,he did not want the hassle at all. You are much better off without him, but he should be made by law to pay for the upbringing of the child he helped to make.You will one day meet a real man who will love you and your child for yourselves.good luck and God bless.
• Philippines
27 Jun 10
i dont think he just want to have fun with me for we both matured already, im on my 30's and his more older than me, he would like to settle down and even wish to have a baby in fact he was happy with our baby at first, he made a lot of plan about us and his with me and even pay for every expenses during my prenatal check up. before he was gone we still have good talk and when he need to go for his job assignment as he said he will be assigned in a particular place for a week, the last time we talk he just told me that he will sent money for my prenatal check then after that he just vanish without any words, i was thinking maybe he was into accident or something but when i saw him yesterday looks like he didnt see nor hear us, i really have no idea whats going on as i know he was excited with our baby.
@elleb0418 (1107)
• Philippines
27 Jun 10
Guys who do that are coward.They are selfish too.I hate guys who are like that,no courage to tell what is real or the truth.For us girls its more painful when a guys left us without saying any word.Yeah,its also painful when he will say it infront of us but it's more acceptable because he did it. If he has the reason why he do it,he must tell you what it is.Thats the best way of being fair.But lets pray that maybe someday he will remember what he did to you and he will have the courage to say sorry to you and to your kid.
• Philippines
27 Jun 10
yes your right no matter how painful it is at least i will know the truth behind why he need to go than let me hanging here thinking why as we used to be happy and he even excited with our baby so i really have no idea why he just go, if he can only say something at least it become cleared to me so i can also avoid it in my future relationship.
• South Africa
27 Jun 10
Men are cowards at times and it is easier to run than talk a situation out for alot of them the best to do is to stop asking why, whatever it was you will only know if he comes back and tells you. The best and healthy solution is to think about you and the baby and no one else.
@ensims (21)
• United States
27 Jun 10
Your situation is very sad and unfortunate. There can be so many reasons why a father would leave the mother of his child during pregnancy. However, you will never know for certain until you hear it from the horses mouth. At some point in time he will have to accept his responsibilities whether it's through court action or a guilty conscience on his part. The most important thing at the moment is to think about the well being of your unborn child. Your health right now is more important than worrying about why he left, you have enough time in your life to worry about that. Enjoy your pregnancy and look forward to the day you are holding your beautiful baby in your arms. Any man that would do that to you, isn't worth a second thought and isn't fit enough to be in you're life or you're child. Keep your chin up! Have a Blessed Day, Homeshopper!
• Philippines
27 Jun 10
Sometimes we keep on asking our selves why? Don't bother anymore, it's just a waste of your time. Always remember, it's his lost and not yours. ;)
• Romania
27 Jun 10
Is just the way they are educated. TO NOT EXPRESS THEYR FEELINGS
@xasasa (323)
• United States
26 Jun 10
It just shows the guy to be a coward and a chicken. He didn't want to tell you that he was a loser and didn't want to help you with the baby.
@elmiko (6640)
• United States
26 Jun 10
thats just sorry on his part.