What Were You Expecting After High school?

@lala501 (1533)
United States
June 27, 2010 4:42pm CST
Whether you finished high school or not, what were you expecting after you finished? Were you expecting to be automatically successful and have a great life or did you think you were going to fail in life? Did you decide to go to college and then think you were to be automatically successful? Tell me what were your plans were after you finished school, and did they come true?
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@lacieice (2065)
• United States
27 Jun 10
Hi lala. Interesting topic. I had plans to become a hairdresser while still in school, and I did go ahead and do that. I worked at it for a few years, then got married and had a couple kids. I was not a really good hairdresser, so I just stayed home and raised my kids until they were old enough to be home by themselves. Then I began working at whatever jobs I could find for several years till the kids were grown. One day, I realized that I really hated what I was doing, and I decided to go back to school. I earned a BA degree in social work in 3 and 1/2 years, graduated at the top of my class, and started to look for work. And I looked. And I looked. Finally, about 6 months after I graduated, I got an entry-level position at a mental health agency, which was not exactly what I was looking for, but a job is a job. Lucky for me, I ended up really liking my job. It was very fulfilling to help these people become as independant as possible. So...don't expect to be successful right away. It takes time and hard work to achieve success. It takes time and perserverence to achieve any level of success. Was I succesful? I enjoyed my work. I made decent money. I felt that I helped a lot of people. You tell me...was I successful?
@lala501 (1533)
• United States
29 Jun 10
Yes I believe you were successful. Even if I had a job that I didn't earn a lot of money but I loved doing in I would still call myself successful. I am glad that you got the success that you have been looking for.
@lacieice (2065)
• United States
29 Jun 10
Thank you lala...I think so too. The best part, for me, was helping thise unfortunte folks to live the best life they could and keep them out of the hospital. It's really cool to enjoy going to work.
@savypat (20246)
• United States
28 Jun 10
My main goal was to have a family, my family broke up when I was 10 and from then on what I wanted was a loving family. I married at 17 and had my first child at 18 my Hubby's family was a large loving family and I became part of that. As I grew older I had other goals and was able to satisfy them. College, and career were gained.
@lala501 (1533)
• United States
29 Jun 10
Wow married at 17 and a child at 18!!You barely had time to live life! But I am happy that you got the loving family that you have always wanted, and that you got a college education and a career.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
28 Jun 10
I could not to graduate high school. I thought my life would be so great. I would have my dream job and my dream home. I thought anything I wanted was waiting for me. Then reality set in. Life after school was full of changes and new responsibilities. It was nothing like I imagined. Some of my high school dreams I still have yet to achieve, What a wake up call to leave high school behind.
@lala501 (1533)
• United States
29 Jun 10
I hope you achieve all of your goals eventually that you set in high school. It is never too late. I think that is what most people think when they are in high school. That they will be automatically successful and that the world will be there oyster.But before that happens there is plenty of responsibility.
@juggerogre (1659)
• Philippines
28 Jun 10
After high school I really expected that college will be boring. I really love my high school days. Its was really fun. But when I got to college I found out that its also fun, in fact much much fun! In our country having a college degree is a must if you want a higher chance to land a decent job. I really don't think I will automatically be successful. Its really up to me. I need to work hard if I want to make my dreams come true.
@lala501 (1533)
• United States
28 Jun 10
I am glad that you had such a fun experience in high school and college! Mine were great too. What country are you from? Because here in the US it's exactly the same. I hope that all your dreams come true!
@xcel0684 (76)
• Philippines
28 Jun 10
To be able to finish your college is a privilege not all people get the chance to pursue their studies. If your parents are capable to sending you to college so take it and make the most out of it. In real life situation it is really an edge if you bear a diploma. After I finished my college every thing in the real world was different than what I had expected so not all my plans were followed. You have to start from the bottom again - back to zero.
@lala501 (1533)
• United States
28 Jun 10
Yes that is very true, I was lucky enough to get a scholarship and not have to pay as much as others would have to, but My parents still had to pay a lot. College is supposed to prepare you for the real world but when you finish you feel like you have nothing, but that is when your supposed to make something out of yourself.
@apresto (127)
• Bulgaria
28 Jun 10
Tottaly untrue and unexpected as planned... I planned to study in a different city but that didn't work out, so I got a chance to study for a week and passed a test so now I'm in the local University. It's not bad but it's not what I planned, so I think it's appropriate for now, maybe I'll try again next year when I graduate or in two years from now. But hey, I have a great time in my city so it's not that disappointing for this period of my life.
@lala501 (1533)
• United States
29 Jun 10
I am happy that you are having a great time being in your city and going to school. I think it's better at first to be close to home just in case something goes not as planned, and then maybe after a year move where you want.
@AmbiePam (50380)
• United States
28 Jun 10
I graduated high school at sixteen, and I hadn't planned to graduate that early. So I don't know exactly how my expectations would have differed had I gone ahead and waited to graduate until the age of eighteen. At sixteen, and being as completely depressed as I was, I had little expectations. I thought I would have a harder time in college because I was sixteen. Academically, I didn't. But I think I also thought my depression would ease, and I would "magically" feel like I fit in more there than I did in high school. I didn't. A few years after that I had the accident that altered the course of my life. I had little expectations after that. Of anything.
@lala501 (1533)
• United States
28 Jun 10
Oh wow I'm sorry about not fitting in and having to go through that your whole highschool and college years. I hope that you are living life better now and I hope that your experience has made you grow, and have confidence.
@TheAdvocate (2395)
• Philippines
27 Jun 10
I finished high school in the Philippines where high school is not considered enough qualification to work. Majority of us have to get a college degree to get anywhere in terms of employment. I was only fourteen when I finished high school in an all-girls Catholic School where boys were aliens. I was excited to go to college to meet and interact with boys on a daily basis. I told myself that I would get serious with life after 25. Of course I wanted to finish college, get a job, have fun for a while and then get married. Twenty-five years later I've done the first two, in fact stuck on the second that I have forgotten the third.
@lala501 (1533)
• United States
28 Jun 10
Yes in the US it is hard to find a decent job without a degree too.Wow 14 you must be really smart!And in an all girls school? Wow I could of never finished that early with all that drama! Well I hope that you get to have some fun, but it's never too late to do just that so good luck.
@Celanith (2334)
• United States
27 Jun 10
I got my GED in 1969 and got married. I wanted to be a successful writer and still working on that goal. I have had some things published in small areas like poetry and did write for two different newspapers for a time. I wanted to be a mother and succeeded in that having four children. 3 sons and a daughter. I actually had six children but one was stillborn, my daughter's twin sister and the other being premature lived only four hours. I wanted to buy and own a farm. I had semi-success in that but not on the scale or level I hoped for. I wanted to travel and visit the USA and Mexico, and Australia, Switzerland, Scotland and France. That has yet to happen. I wanted to be a grandmother with children happily married to sweet spouses and enjoy at times going to lunch with my dil's and family get togethers, etc. Most of that has not happened and have had family upheavel at times or turmoil and so disappointed in that. I wanted to have good health and good health care, and plan. I have poor health, no medical and very obese right now. I am struggling and on weight loss program and have lost weight a little. I did not want to be rich, but to be comfortable and we are far from that financially. I would liked to have had store of some sort and place for people to sit and relax in. So somethings successful some sort of successful and somoe yet to be and others no so good.