how do you find your parents?

Philippines
June 27, 2010 10:22pm CST
The most important person in my life now is my Mama, the only parent I have because my Papa just died last year. Mama is a wonderful parent and I love her more than my own life. Yes, there may be times that we do not agree with each other but as a daughter, I need to accept everything she says because I know, she only wants the best for me. Mama doesn't work. She's just keeping our house and serves me everyday before I go to work and when I get home. I feel her love and care especially to me because I'm the only one in the family who provides our needs. I love her, too. It makes me so sad hearing stories that they don't feel their parents love them. I know someone who feels the same thing. Her mother always scolds her and tells her that she hasn't given any contribution to the family so she has no right to complain. Her mother always blames her for every bad thing that happens to them. I feel sorry about her. How about you? what can you say about your parents?
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@knicnax (2234)
• Philippines
28 Jun 10
My parents are okay, I guess. They've come a long way. Both managed to provide a great life for all of us kids. We could never say that we didn't have the finer things in life. They worked hard so that we won't experience what they did when they were kids, and they were very successful at that. I can't say that they're the perfect parents though. They have their lapses, and I always seem to be the first and only one who experience them. I'm eldest among 4 siblings, so I almost always get to experience things first. I'm the testing ground and it sucks. It's unfair how my siblings get to choose their college courses without the meddling directly with the choices. I wanted a different career path, I qualified, and was one of the hundred who passed among the thousands of examiners, but they didn't let me. They let my sister enroll in her preferred course, she got honors and everything. A consistent honor student all through out college. Everyone's proud of her. Including me. But I can't help but think of how unfair the circumstances were. My sister was playing her strengths in college, while I was playing my weakness. I flunked a lot of subjects and got average grades on others. Actually, practically anything I wanted to do, they disapproved. Since I was a kid, I was frustrated at how un-talented I am, as opposed to my other siblings who's talents come out naturally, and those that didn't they took their time to hone, as for me, the didn't even if I showed the skill and enthusiasm. I liked photography ever since. I always show my dad different shots that I too. He'd just look at them and say "ok" or "ganda". Nothing more. A few years later, he'll train my sibling and not me. During highschool, I was great at taekwondo, but my mum doesn't want that sport. She didn't want me to compete even if my coach was very confident that I could win, and eventually, she made me stop playing the sport. She stopped funding my tuition for the class, which I gladly paid just so I could train. But then she stopped fetching me and told me I can't train if no one will fetch me. Those are some of m frustrations but I know they'll never change. They'll just keep on stopping me and I'll just keep on following them because I love them dearly.
• Philippines
28 Jun 10
Oh, Knic, that was bad. But hey, I find you great! With all those things, at least you didn't think to become a rebel. Most of the children who experience the same, become rebellious! Maybe your parents just want the best for you, too, just like my Mama. Sooner, you'll learn and understand why they did those things. Maybe when you finally get to have your own family and kids! You're great!
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@knicnax (2234)
• Philippines
28 Jun 10
Thanks mavhe :) I find you great too :). I know my parents want the best for me, they just go overboard most of the time. They notice it early and they don't do it to my siblings. Haha. I think my parents think I'm rebelling or I used to rebel. They're weird that way. haha. As for kids, I don't think I like having them. It's scary. Haha
• China
28 Jun 10
My mother is also the most impotant person for me.My father who is very straightforward do not like to contact with others,so most things is decided by my mother.we all cannot live well without my mother.
• Philippines
28 Jun 10
i can see that your mother is strong and so much responsible.