Is it your attitude to give compliments to your responders...???

@mobhomeir (7558)
Philippines
June 28, 2010 4:38am CST
Hello mylotters, this is my first time posting from a long period of hibernating. Honestly, one reason i seldom submit discussions here is the number of respondents I would send back my comments and compliments. For me, I feel awkward and unfair to those respondents who never given even just simple "thank you for responding". It is because if I would be one of the respondents, I would try my best to respond the best I could from a certain topic submitted. Of course, I need also a comments from the author of the topic. Just a sort of compliments after all the effort I exerted for the benefits of every readers and members. On my part, I hate not to give any comments and compliments from the topic I submitted, though it would be perspiring effort to do so especially you would have to reply say..25 respondents..takes really time doing it... How about you what's your stand about this...? Thanks.. Mobhomeir here..
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de_toya
@de_toya (2429)
• Indonesia
28 Jun 10
Well, I always try to comment back to member who has responded to my discussions. I feel guilty if I didn't comment back to their response. Perhaps, they think I never read their response I got. Never comment back to response that we got is like throw a problem and then you wash your hand. I found some member like that and honest, I have been irritated since they never comment on my response. I think what I've done it in vain. I don't want other member feel upset so, I try to comment on response that I got. Just ask your friend Oldchem about me
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mobhomeir
@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
29 Jun 10
Hello de_toya..I appreciate that..I guess you're one of educated people who knows what is compliments to those people who are working hard just to keep the author be satisfied. Our social site here is international. Some people here has some problem in their English language but they are striving hard to express themselves on the topics posted and some author just feel nothing for it..would that be fair? Am sure your answer si NO WAY!!! Thanks for responding my friend.... Mobhomeir here...
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de_toya
@de_toya (2429)
• Indonesia
29 Jun 10
Some people here has some problem in their English language and so do I. I am not proficiency in English but I always try to the best I can do. When other member who started discussions never comment back on my responses, I feel irritated. I've just placed myself in responder position whenever I started discussions. Sure they will get irritated if I didn't comment on their responses. Comment back on their responses mean that I really read their responses and this is kind of appreciate their work. By the way, thank you for choosing my response as the best. I feel very honored for this. Thanks a lot.
zhouxi
@zhouxi (1752)
• China
28 Jun 10
yes,i would like to reply and say thanks to all my friends who responded to my questions.if i was very busy ,i would respond them with mylot code.it's interesting and quickly.all my friends could understand me.
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mobhomeir
@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
29 Jun 10
Yes my friend I appreciate that... same as you I hate not to give comments on all my responders...Thanks for responding my friend... Mobhomeir here..
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zhouxi
@zhouxi (1752)
• China
29 Jun 10
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TexLadyPj
@TexLadyPj (1328)
• United States
28 Jun 10
Herro mobhomeir I think I made a substantial comment of people acknowledging comments, however cannot remember the contents. When I start a discussion I put thought into it. I also do a search to insure it isn't a duplicate discussion. It is my understanding that simply saying "thank you" isn't appropriate. It is important to acknowledge the contents of the original discussion. Sometimes it is extremely difficult. I thought just crossed my mine. If a person starts numerous discussions at the same time it might be difficult to acknowledge all responses. I personally only have one or two discussions at the same time. I complement and tie my response to the original discussion. I go back and give best response unless there is only one or two comments. When I am searching for a discussion, I rate comments that are well-written and comprehensive. I think I covered everything. Prosperous mylotting
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mobhomeir
@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
29 Jun 10
I understand what you mean my friend..i like your attitude..keep it up.. thanks anyway for responding... Mobhomeir here...
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dong1970
@dong1970 (1572)
• Philippines
29 Jun 10
I seldom to that,but if i have my chance to make compliment on their discussion i am trying to make some comments.Brother you are a good respondent on my discussions and surely responds too on your post.....
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mobhomeir
@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
29 Jun 10
Yes brother how are you, hope your doing great. I usually comments to my responders who are worth and deserving to be commented with, like your topics..keep it up, I already miss those.. Mobhomeir here...
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JenInTN
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
30 Jun 10
Hi mobhomeir! I hope you have been well. I do always acknowledge all the responders to my discussions. I can't start a discussion if I don't plan to be active in it. I also appreciate the responses of everyone and want to thank them for their participation regardless of how they feel about my discussion. Take care.
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mobhomeir
@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
30 Jun 10
I miss you my friend after a few months of hibernating..yes..don't you know that you're my idle of commenting back your responders? It was from you where I got this words "Thanks for responding"... Yeah..and thanks for responding... Mobhomeir here...
JenInTN
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
30 Jun 10
Awww...that's very sweet! You have made my day friend.
ckyera
@ckyera (17332)
• Philippines
29 Jun 10
hi daddy! huh! how come i didn't see this one in my inbox? tsk tsk... anyway i am very happy to see you back! when i am just starting, i don't usually comment back to my responders and i really feel guilty about it. but now, its already something natural to me to comment back and show my appreciation to those who takes time to read and respond in my discussion. even a short thanks will be fine as long as you were able to tell them that you acknowledge their presence in your posts. hehe but it will be better if we can still say more to discuss. after all discussion is what we need here. hope to see more of you here daddy..keep on posting, many are missing you already!
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mobhomeir
@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
29 Jun 10
Hello eloime yes..just like old times..old time friends here...just focusing here..but nowadays? where are those people I usually replied with? Well, maybe they found something more interesting and more compensated... but I am glad no matter what, there are still few people who really knew where they came from before what they are now..though they are so busy, may it be on their other online and offline businesses or something else but they still care to drop by here..I don't want to mention some of them because I am afraid I would miss one...HELLO GUYSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS Just like old times okay!!!! Mobhomeir here...
ckyera
@ckyera (17332)
• Philippines
29 Jun 10
haha...for sure sooner they will popped out here in your discussion. tings are just so busy these days, but those friends we have here are still visiting once in a while and catching up with each other. there's no place like mylot! haha that's why people keeps on coming back no matter what. just like me! yeah just like the old times and its also nice seeing our good friend dong back!
derek_a
@derek_a (10874)
•
29 Jun 10
I always thank people if they take the trouble to respond to my discussions and if I feel it's appropriate, yet I will compliment them on their answers and insight. I don't tend to do this for the sake of it, because I don't think I would be showing my true feelings. I always try and be as polite as I can, as I don't see any value in being rude to anybody. If people are rude to me, and that hardly ever happens, then I just don't respond at all, there no point in having any unpleasantness here on myLot. _Derek
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mobhomeir
@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
29 Jun 10
I got your point my friend..at least you would do your share for the benefit of our friends and members here...thanks for responding my friend.. Mobhomeir here..
Sreekala
@Sreekala (34312)
• India
28 Jun 10
Hello Mobhomeir, How are you? Hope you are doing fine? I too came after a long time. I was on my vacation for one month and when I reached back I got busy with office works. Now I am not sure about how things are going on in mylot. If you refer about those people who are not commenting back to their responders, earlier also people were there, just concentrating posting discussions only. The experts in mylot never do the same because they knew that how commenting back will work for them positively. So better you please don’t give much importance on that.
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Sreekala
@Sreekala (34312)
• India
29 Jun 10
Yes if there is no comment from the responder, I don't take it as serious but if I receive comment I will be very much happy on that. We can't change other's attitude..... Nice to hear from you after a long time. take care and have nice day to you.
mobhomeir
@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
29 Jun 10
Hello sree long time no hear, so was I. I got what you mean sree, I respect that. I guess we have different point of view. On my part, especially if I would replied the best of my ability I would expect comments based on what I replied.. just for a compliments..well at least I know from you it would just be alright with you, on your part...have a nice sree... Mobhomeir here..
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Patsie Hatley
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
29 Jun 10
hi mobhomeir did you not read the guidelines. we are not to thank the people who responded to our discussions,instead we are to make real comments telling us what you think of our responses or adding something but no thanks as its against mylot rules so thats why I do not say thank you but t will say I think this is a great discussion and i think so and so . this is a complement but not a rubber stamp thanks. those mean nothing too easy to keep repeating, just like have good day becomes silly after awhile. as for 25 responses I get a lot more and try my best to give a good comment on all of them.. now remember mylot says do not say thanks,instead write a good comment .yes you are right we must all acknowledge the work people put into their responses by making complimentary comments.
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mobhomeir
@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
29 Jun 10
Yes my friend...that's what I suppose to mean..for me compliments is not limited only of thank you..any form of commenting after replying it I considered compliment. Something you can say after responders of course replied you posted topic. The least would may be "thank you and blah blah. Knowing that at least your replies was being read by the author of the topic. Anyway, at least I know from you that it would just be alright with you if you would not be commented after your replies. At least I would not be worried if I could not comment on your reply on my topics... Seriously I respect highly on your opinion, you're one of my idols here... Thanks for responding my friend.. Mobhomeir here..
Daddy Neil
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
2 Jul 10
this is one reason i for one of the many members here, do not create a lot of discussions. there are still lots of members who start discussions, a series of discussions in a day. but they almost forgot to give comments back to their responders. frankly, i did this when i was new. but when i get older here, as they say, i found out that this is not proper and will not give you much earnings. yes, i seldom start discussions. i may start a discussion daily, but not discussions everyday. i want to give concentration in one discussion i created. i always try to give my best comment to each and every response that i get. and i start a discussion only if i am really interested to it.
cerebellum
@cerebellum (3863)
• United States
29 Jun 10
I have only started one discussion and I tried to reply to all the responses I got. It did take a good bit of time, but if the person took the time to respond, then I felt I should also. After all, it is supposed to be a discussion and not just posting of your thoughts or feelings. I don't usually give any compliments. There is not a reason, I just don't think of it. It seems there are some people who start discussions and then that is it. I can't see the sense in doing that. Unless they are just trying to make money. I don't consider that a discussion.
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mobhomeir
@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
29 Jun 10
Yes I understand what you mean my friend. Nonsense topic just to make money is not worth to be responded with..thanks for responding my friend... Mobhomeir here..
oldchem1
@oldchem1 (8132)
•
28 Jun 10
Hi Mobhomeir Welcome back to the Mylot fold There seem to be two groups of members on here - the ones who just post a discussion and leave it at that and those who will endulge in a full blown discussion. To me those who don't leave any responses are wrong, is just NOT a discussion! When I post a discussion I look forward to people responding and to be able to keep the discussion going for awhile.
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mobhomeir
@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
29 Jun 10
My friends oldchem and richnai thanks for responding. I appreciate your attitude, the way you treat your responders. Hope majority of us here would act the way you do guys...Keep it up, I salute you for that.. Mobhomeir here...
kukueye
@kukueye (1759)
• Malaysia
28 Jun 10
Complimants to responders are good to encourage ea - Reading each responds is good way to increase knowledge.
Yes i try my best to respond to and give feedback to the responders because it allow good communication and it is interesting to read each other comments. It also acts as an encouragement to me to continue to contribute to this mylot .Beside it really increase your knowledge base and learn more about other people and stuffs.Responding to each other overall increase the whole mylotter to be active and keep Mylot alive!
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mobhomeir
@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
29 Jun 10
Perfectly right my friend..hope everyone has an attitude like you do...I really appreciated it my friend... Mobhomeir here..
kukueye
@kukueye (1759)
• Malaysia
30 Jun 10
In my country giving comments is not like our culture everybody keep quiet and scare of giving comments because scare being said a fool or cause problems.Because we are multi racial and multi religion we have to keep quiet sometime to keep peace.
qianyun6
@qianyun6 (2067)
• China
28 Jun 10
I comment only when I have something to say. Because myLot guideline tells us to post "meaningful" posts, So if I have nothing to say about a response, usually I won't only give a "Thanks" or something like that.
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mobhomeir
@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
29 Jun 10
Hello friends both of you are definitely right...a little compliments would be enough to those responders who strive hard to express their opinions on the topics posted..Keep it up.. Mobhomeir here..
shibilyt
@shibilyt (252)
• India
29 Jun 10
hi mobhomier, welcome back, I am a newbee to mylot but i like mylot very much. and i started a few discussions here. and i try my self to keep active in the discussions i started and give compliments to others who respond to my discussion. i also try to keep in touch with others discussions also. my lot is really a great site. i am happy to be a member of it it gave me good opportunities to learn about many things. thanks for starting this discussions May GOD bless you!!