How do you spot married couples from gf/bf couples?

Philippines
June 30, 2010 12:15am CST
As I was sitting on the restaurant I noticed different couples around me and I tried to figure out if those are married couples or not. I think it is not because of the ring that you will tag them as married. Married couples especially those who are long been married doesn't show affections in public but gf/bf couples do. Married couples do talk about finances but gf/bf couples talks about sweet nothings. For you, how would you spot the difference? Do you agree with my statements?
9 responses
• India
30 Jun 10
Here is how you will be able to differentiate between unmarried and married couple. Unmarried Couples: 1. You will find them exchanging sweet smiles often. They will be holding each other’s hands all the time. They will stick together. They will be ever peeking in each other’s eyes. 2. They don’t look at anything else but at each other. 3. You will find them whispering sweet nothing in each other’s ears. Sometimes it is just nonsense a lot of cheesy stuff. 4. The boy would act as a gentleman. He will pull her chair for her before finding a chair for himself. 5. You will find the boy carrying her bag and other things. 6. The boy would be paying the bills. 8. If the girl happens to trip the boy would looked concerned and worried. 9. They would be quite oblivious to whatever is happening around them. Married Couples: 1. Seated in a restaurant together; they would sit far from each other. 2. They would barely look at each other. Boy would be eying other females and the girl would be busy looking at other things. 3. They too would do lot of talking but their topic of discussion would be finances, domestic problems, and of course what they would have for dinner. 4. The guy would invariably forget to pull the chair for his wife. He would go and sit first and make a sign to her to sit on the vacant chair. 5. You will find them complaining much against each other. 6. The wife would be carrying her own stuff and lots of other things but the guy will not make an offer to help her. 7. Mostly the wife will pay their bills. 8 If wife happens to trip, the guy would ask her to be careful after she has already fallen. Then he would reprimand her mildly saying, “You are always so careless”. 9. Both of them are concerned about everything else but about each other.
• United States
30 Jun 10
Those married couples sound trapped.
• United Arab Emirates
30 Jun 10
If its the first year after marriage you will not notice the difference. But later on you will see the differnce. Usually Gf/bf they hold hands, look at each other very frequenly and you will notice that they will sit next to each other. Married couple will eat food without a word and you will notice them sitting on the opposite seats.
• Philippines
30 Jun 10
Yeah that's what I noticed too, why is it that sweetness will diminish when you become married couples? are they not proud to show off that they are happy being married?
• Philippines
1 Jul 10
The things when they have children companion especially having a baby or with a husband with a stroller. Also when the woman is pregnant then have a man companion then he always there to assist him. Also when they always have a sweet talk or with their gestures. Almost couples whom I seen around the mall never exhibit public display of affection like many youngster show since they already gone it before they all decide to get married.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
30 Jun 10
Unmarried couples are usually easy to spot. They are still trying to capture each other's attention. They try harder at the romantic moments. Married couples have nothing to prove, They only need to love each other and that is enough for them. One look at how couples react with each other is usally a sign of being married or not.
@rosebinas (181)
• Philippines
30 Jun 10
Yes, I agree that most married couples do not show affections publicly. On the other hand, bf/gf couples are more into holding hands though sometimes shyly, purposely doing more body contacts, wearing much brighter faces and happy smiles. Married couples wear more confident but serious faces. This is spotting the difference from a distance.
• Philippines
30 Jun 10
i totally agree with you. gf/bf couples are a lot sweeter in public than married couples. gf/bf spends more time together than married couples, the married ones tends to be busy to keep up with their needs. gf/bf can be seen happy always but married couples seem to be frowning or worried at all times as if the world will end just because they have a financial dilemma....
• United States
30 Jun 10
Did you know that you can determine this with 5 minutes of study or less? I don't know how, myself. I read about it in Malcolm Gladwell's book, blink. A lot of the focus has to do with tone, more than anything else. Same applies (as the book puts) with lawsuits against doctors. By putting conversations with doctors through an audio filter that focuses on the tone, people could successfully determine after a few seconds of audio had been played, if the doctor would get sued. Do you know what it was based on? How condescending the doctor sounded. The more condescending, the more likely. Also, with the couples, there is/was a sort of blueprint that the couple would repeat. If the blueprint was a successful one, the couple stayed together, for many, many years. If not, the couple would usually break up. Gladwell has some awesome stuff to read. lol I almost feel like putting, "End of advert; we now return you to the normal TV programming."
@lissa12p (99)
• Philippines
30 Jun 10
It's true that majority of married couples don't show "PDA" of public display of affection. But a small percentage still do, in a descent way. Not grabbing all the attention (like how bf's and gf's are, well most of them) to wherever they are at. Like they're the only people on earth! Hehe.
@much2say (38813)
• United States
30 Jun 10
Well, I'd have to say it's not always easy to assume. My hubby and I have been together for a long time and we still show affection in public . . . we hold hands, give each other kisses, etc . . . but if you mean the type of affection where people think we need to get a room - we're not that tacky. So show of affection is not necessarily a factor in assuming whether a couple is married or not. They could show lots of affection too if they are newlyweds, right? Or they could not show affection too - my sister and her boyfriend are that way - you would never think they were a couple. There are many girlfriends and boyfriends who live together these days and finances can be a hot topic too. Also, it's possible that someone could be on a date and being affectionate - with a married person (it's horrible, but I'm sure that goes on) . . . so it's not always easy to tell. Now, I was going to say we have kids . . . we happened to be married, but there are those who have kids but are not married. Not so easy to tell - especially these days!