understanding between couples are important to maintain the relationships

Malaysia
June 30, 2010 10:36am CST
Don't say that you love me if you don't understand me. It's no meaning if someone that's not understand you stay beside you. We want a partner just because we need someone that is really understand us, believe us, and always care for us. And of course I don't feel like i want continue to maintain the relationships if we always misunderstanding of each other.. it's really suffering alot. It's hard to maintain a good relationship if we don't understand each other. So, many of my friends more likely to choose be a single woman than in a relationship. How about you? would you prefer to be single or in a relationship??Did you feel that sometimes it's hard to maintain a relationship?
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10 responses
• Portugal
12 Jul 10
i prefer to be in a relationship but yes is hard to be in one sometimes bcs we always have many expectations and sometimes when the person doesnt do what we thought he would we be sad and disappointed. anyway i agree with you we must be with someone that understand us and really love us and care^^ but im not happy when im single or i mean at least i need to have someone that loves me or i feel so so upset ^^ we all need to feel we are loved and cared^^
@arkaf61 (10882)
• Canada
1 Jul 10
It's extremely hard to maintain a relationship. Or easy depending on the point of view. It's based on the fact that, like everything in life, it needs some work to stay alive. Many people feel "well, I'm already in the relationship. That's it. That's all there is to it" Imagine the same people saying ok, "I already bought this car, that's all there is to it" and refuse to take it to change oil, check ups etc. Understand the other is important in any relationship be it a family one, a friendship and of course in a romantic relationship. But sometimes, even more than just understanding, wanting to understand and respecting is important. Sometimes we don't understand this or other, but if we're willing to compromise and respect the other person even though we still don't understand, then things will work out fine. Any relationship that brings pain in a regular basis is best analyzed and some rethinking is needed.
• India
1 Jul 10
Yes i like to be single always since if we don't understand any relationship that will lead to bad to worse.Its not only understanding but also taking care with true heart.Nowadays true picture is not shown during starting periods but later on if we comes to know about their true picture also their way of approach to life.Also we come across their weakness towards anything that may lead to broken relationship.Generally we believe that we can lead our lifein single and we can take care of ourselves very much than others do. This is my feeling towards my life.tks for the article
@akopoaysi (740)
• Philippines
1 Jul 10
it is hard to maintain a relationship if it is a one sided. both should work to keep the relationship... understanding is 1 part... but there is honesty, love, trust, passion, etc... many factors are being considered to work a relationship... ask guidance... pray. good day to all!! :)
• Philippines
1 Jul 10
Yes, understanding is what it takes to maintain a relationship. Associated with understanding is sacrificing. One must be willing to sacrifice for the other and in return the other will be willing also for the former. The relationship must have a "give-and-take" attitude.
• Philippines
1 Jul 10
Absolutely yes! In any relationship, most especially in marriage, understanding between partners is very important. Being in a relationship requires each person to be active in keeping the relationship alive. Couples must not dwell on negative feelings as such will fuel one's anger and resentment toward each other. Instead, they should find ways on how to manage each other's temper as well as to know how to uplift one's spirit. By doing so, this will give them the chance to make their relationship grow stronger and happier.
@phyrre (2322)
• United States
30 Jun 10
For me, I really prefer being in a relationship. I can't imagine life without my husband, but that's because, like you've said above, he really understands me. The way that I think is really different from other people and so I thought I wouldn't find someone that understood the way I think and feel, but I was really lucky and I did. He doesn't understand me 100%, but I never really expected that. I mean, he can deduce what I'll do in certain situations, but he doesn't always understand WHY I would do that because it's not what he would do. And of course being in relationships is hard. :) You're around the same person all day every day for years upon years. There's bound to be some tension that arises there and at some point you're going to get really sick of being around them. That's the real test, though. It's how you handle situations like that. When my husband starts driving me mad I know that it's time I take a night out with the girls and when he starts getting cranky towards me I know that he needs a day with me out of the house so he can hang out with his guys. It's a little bit of a release that everyone needs at some point, no matter how much you love the other person. ^_^
@sirrob (4112)
• Philippines
30 Jun 10
I would say the same. It is just too hard for a relationship to progress and move without anyone of you understand each other. But this must be a two way system and not just a one way mirror. There are so many things that needs to iron out and most of it is respecting each other.
@merma1267 (130)
• Philippines
30 Jun 10
Definitely, it's hard to maintain a relationship coz of different individuals being together BUT it needs to work it out by NOT of 1 party alone. Any kind relationship has come into test otherwise, how would you know if your both decided to be together for life no matter, if it is against all odds. How can a couple stays together if they won't believe in a very nice conversation to settle things meaning you both agree in doing so every now and then. We are all human, surely misunderstanding exist coz of different individuals per se but the question is how you both understand about being in a relationship. It will not be successful if only one party who are interested to go on. Two person who are involve that needs to hold their hands to get to understand with each other by accepting each other faults or even of what is lacking. NO perfect relationship either. It could be nice living someone you love but the question is about the destiny... if i am alone for life or i will my man no matter how old i am.
@incus99 (1086)
• Philippines
30 Jun 10
I couldn't agree more...the success of the relationship may depend on the level each partner understands the other...