Is marriage a lifetime commitment or just a legal contract?

Philippines
July 2, 2010 10:46am CST
I have witnessed a lot of failed marriages, really sad but it happens everywhere. I have also witnessed a marriage where the couple have proven their vows, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health... Those are really precious and very rare marriage commitments. How about you where do you stand? What do you believe in?
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@common_man (1799)
• India
2 Jul 10
HI santosh, I firmly believe that marriage is a life time commitment. Even if there are some differences in marriage, it should be sorted out amicably and marriage should be maintained and managed. Because breaking out of marriage is more painful.
• Philippines
3 Jul 10
Yes. I agree with you. Marriage should be a life time commitment.
• India
3 Jul 10
Thanks!
• India
2 Jul 10
Marriage is surely a lifetime commitment..If one knows to understand and forgive each other and accept ones mistake..all relationship will be successful
• Philippines
3 Jul 10
Yes, I think the key to a successful marriage is acceptance and respect towards each other. Thanks for sharing and happy MyLotting.
• India
2 Jul 10
Well you know what they say. Promises are meant to be broken. No marriage is really successful until one person's soul completely dwells or lives in another person's soul. That;s what i think. And i have also seen many marriages fall apart due to silly reasons and then nobody remembers about their vows to keep their husband/wife safe. They are so practical that they forget that human's have a special part of the body called heart. Many never have it or some have it but don't use it. They just listen to what their mind says and then life goes on and they move on. I don't know about your place but here marriage is considered sacred and ritual and the people who bonded in marriage will have to understand each other very well. Cheers!
• Philippines
3 Jul 10
Marriage should really be considered sacred. Thank you for sharing.
• India
2 Jul 10
Hi, Marriage SHOULD BE a life time commitment. But it all starts from a legal contract. If you are marrying your own boyfriend then, of course, the case is different. But in all other cases it starts as a mere legal contract. Then two persons lives together and learns more about each other. If they are compatible to each other they also learns to love and respect to each other. Soon they learn to STAY together. It is at this very moment when a marriage transforms into a lifetime commitment. Failed marriages are often the result of incompatibility. On most occasions immaturity on the part of any one of them may entirely ruin the relationship. Both should be matured and ready enough for this relationship, as this is the most important serious relationship that a human being ever makes in his entire lifetime. Thanks. God bless you
• Philippines
3 Jul 10
Hi! I believe that compatibility is the key or simply accepting your partners good and bad side. Marriage should be a happy event in ones life. Thank you for sharing.
@besthope44 (12145)
• India
3 Aug 10
Its a heart to heart commitment
• Portugal
11 Jul 10
i think it depends if the people that will go to marry really love each other or not. if they love really sure it can last forever but if they marry for other reasons like those religions that put people that dont know each other deeply to marry thats a complicated situation. you might fall in love for that person or be unhappy :( also those that marry for money.also some just to have other country nationality. anyway i think we must marry just for love and not for any other reasons^^
@jugsjugs (13045)
4 Jul 10
I think that there are alot of people out there that get married for alot of different reasons and ending in divorce.When i married my first husband,which our marriage lasted only 3 years he was a really nice person,but after being married a year he changed,hence a divorce.The husband i am married to now,which i have been married to for near on 14 years takes me for who i am.He knows that i have health issues and i told him if he wants to walk away i would not blame him neither would i stop him.He is here with me in sickness aswell as with all the problems and he says he is not going any where.
@Suny0610 (48)
4 Jul 10
maybe it is an approach to promise. and a limit to some activity. but the two who love each others do not think so, it is the way they can stay together forever.
• India
4 Jul 10
Hi santosmarichris I believe "God decides the partner in heaven and marriage happens on earth " I feel marriage is a life time commitment and i will see marriage as legal or contract one. and marriage is a great moment in life rather than occasion Happy myloting :)
@Memnon (2173)
3 Jul 10
To me marriage is a lifetime commitment, and I expect to do this only once. The whole of my parent/ step parent group have been divorced at least once, but then the concept of living together was less acceptable. For those in the public eye, I can understand some legal binding, since matching two people with highly successful careers may not work out as planned.
• Philippines
3 Jul 10
marriage is a lifetime commitment.I don't believe that marriage is just a piece of paper with agreement.marriage is a lifetime relationship.it is very important to be more than 100% sure that you are marrying the person that is more than 100% right for you.I would rather stay unmarried than be with someone I don't see myself growing old with.
@KMaroon (269)
• India
3 Jul 10
Hi santosmarichris I do believe that marriage is a life time commitment and I believe marriage means belief and understanding between both wife and husband. I think I am blessed by god because I am happy with my marriage.
@smartjack (521)
• India
3 Jul 10
when you decide to commit to someone you should see that whether that person is truly the one you wanna spend your life with. People marry without understanding their partners and then their marriage results in a divorce. Couples fail to understand each others needs. They don't understand each other. They just decide to get married. It is important that couples spend sometime with each other before getting into marriage. Marriage is a lifetime commitment. It is a lifetime bond. It is a holy commitment and breaking it is a sin.
@shia88 (4582)
• Malaysia
3 Jul 10
For me,marriage is a lifetime commitment. We have a partner to share happines and sadness together.When there is a problem occured,we have to face it together. We are no longer having a freedom after marriage. The most important is to trust and respect each other in order to have an everlasting relationship.
@meirhu (367)
• Israel
3 Jul 10
It was easier for marriage to be a lifetime commitment when the life span was about 40 or even 50. Nowadays why SHOULD anyone commit for something so long. I think the handfasting ritual of the Wiccans is more reasonable. They choose the period of their commitment. It can be anywhere from a year and up. Then if they want to stay together they have another ceremony.
@ebuscat (5949)
• Philippines
3 Jul 10
For me as what in the bible say it is lifetime process.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
3 Jul 10
A marriage should always be seen as a lifetime commitment. You are joinging your heart and your love and your life to another. It should never be viewed as just as a legal contract. A contract is just a piece of paper.
• Australia
3 Jul 10
Oddly, marriage evokes no more of a lifetime committment or legal obligation than not being married. While the tradition is appealling to many, the fact is that a great deal of couples are together for life without being wed. And with laws the way that they are today - in many countries, at least - those unwed couples can enjoy the same legal options as married couples. In many respects, it is almost completely unneccessary to get married. The marriage certificate can easily be looked upon as nothing more than a piece of paper.
@derek_a (10902)
3 Jul 10
I would say that marriage is what you want it to be. If you want a loving relationship with your partner in life, you can have it, providing you work at it. If you regard your marriage as nothing more than a legal contract, you will begin to feel that way and perhaps just feel it to be an obligation and a burden. As a counsellor and therapist, I have discovered through my experience and training that honesty is openness is what brings people closer together and the longer they are together, the stronger the get. When there is cheating and dishonest, the opposite can happen and people slowly drift apart and eventually split, or make each other very miserable. But sometimes it is karma that two people split up as they are not really meant to be together. Total honesty in a relationship, is not easy, but it is exciting and very rewarding as gradually both partners begin to feel a safety living with each other, and start to enjoy each other's company when together, and feel OK about being apart from time to time. This is what I have found from my many years in my work where I have had many couples come to sort out their problems. Some found it better to call it a day and split, but other found their relationship to each other going from strength to strength. _Derek
@marguicha (87964)
• Chile
3 Jul 10
I had a marriage that was a life commitment. But I canĀ“t speak for the rest of the people. I discovered some years after I got married that even if all the legal stuff burned, I would feel as married as if all the papers were there. I was lucky. More than lucky in fact: I was blessed.