Should girls be required to return the ring...

United States
July 5, 2010 10:02am CST
Should girls be required to return the ring if they don't go through with the marriage. I have heard of some women who will pawn the man's ring that he spent 3 or 4 whole paychecks on after the breakup the women caused. I think the court should make the person in the relationship who is not at fault keep the ring. What do you think?
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12 responses
• United States
6 Jul 10
The ring is a gift. One does not give a gift conditionally.
• Romania
6 Jul 10
i agree the ring was a gift she cant do with it whatever she want's with it
• United States
6 Jul 10
The ring is a promise of a marriage, so I think if she causes the breakup she should give the ring back and let the guy take it back. If he is the cause then he should allow her to keep it, that is what I think.
@pjnjclyn (177)
• Newton, New Jersey
18 Jul 10
I think that it should be given back the ring was given as a promise of marriage and if no marriage has or will take place the ring should go to the person that has purchased the ring.
• United States
27 Jul 10
Thank you for your response.
@youless (91541)
• Guangzhou, China
7 Jul 10
I think the girls should return the rings if they don't want to marry to the boys. Only the wife can keep the ring. If a girl keeps a ring but doesn't want to marry to this man, it seems she is very greedy. This ring may cost a lot of saving of the man. This ring should belong to the right one. I love China
• United States
7 Jul 10
Well I agree, unless the guy breaks it off, he made a promise to marry her and if he does not honor it or does something to break the promise like cheat then she should keep the ring.
@AmbiePam (49126)
• United States
7 Jul 10
I would agree. If the man who gave the ring to the woman breaks the engagement, she should keep it. She didn't back out (although if he broke it off because she cheated, I'd take a different side). If she calls off the wedding, she should return the ring to him. No way could I keep a ring a guy gave me if I was the one who ended the relationship. I'd feel too guilty.
• United States
7 Jul 10
That is so true, thanks for your response.
@aguas_aj (501)
• Philippines
6 Jul 10
i agree with you. ring should be returned especially if the reason was caused by the bride to be..after all its the sign of their acceptance of marriage.It should be returned in all cause
• United States
6 Jul 10
Thanks for your response
• Portugal
5 Jul 10
i think you can keep the ring why not? sometimes in a marriage one stop to love but the other one not so i think is good to keep some souvenirs of our life^^ nothing wrong if they keep the ring not bcs the money it cost but bcs the meaning it had^^ why return the ring? if the guy broke up is bcs he doesnt want to remember it anymore so for what he wants be with it? thats stupid when a guy asks a girl the ring back just bcs it cost so much
• United States
6 Jul 10
I would agree for that except if the guy is not the cause of the breakup then he deserves to be able to return the ring and get his money back.
• United Arab Emirates
5 Jul 10
I have never heard of that....Most of the times i have seen people return the ring.
• United States
5 Jul 10
There have been court cases about the ring and people have had serious fights regarding it especially if the man spent a lot of money.
• United States
5 Jul 10
I always thought that if the girl breaks off the relationship then she should give the ring back. If the man breaks it off he's out of luck, though if it's her fault for the break up then she should give it back.
• United States
5 Jul 10
Absolutely in agreement with you. Thank you
@maean_19 (4662)
• Philippines
5 Jul 10
If you are referring to the engagement ring, I think it is but proper to return the ring because of the fact that the marriage did not push through. If the guy would not take it and wanted me to keep it then that would be nice. Yet, as a matter of respect, I would probably return it. I think at this situation, there will be no court intervention yet because there's no marriage that binds the supposed couple. The court will intervene only to cases where there is a breach of promise to marry. But if the break up is a mutual decision, then the parting should also end well.
• United States
5 Jul 10
I understand but this is not the case, this is if the break up was the fault of one of the parties. However, your answer was interesting, thank you for responding.
@lacieice (2065)
• United States
5 Jul 10
If the man breaks up the relationship, it seems to me that "right" thing to do is for the girl to keep the ring since she is the injured party...unless, of course, there are extenuating circumstances. By that, I mean if she is the one who caused the relationship to go bad by some action, then she should return the ring. If the woman is the one to call off the relationship, then the ring should definitely be returned.
• United States
5 Jul 10
I agree with this 100%, thank you for your comment
@t0mmyy (8)
• Netherlands
5 Jul 10
kchem... :? i think they shouldn`t. even if you didn`t go through with a marriage,you shouldn`t give it back. it is a present. It is silly to give presents back.
• United States
5 Jul 10
I think it is a promise, when the guy gives the girl the ring it is his promise to marry her and her promise to marry him, therefore once the promise is broken, the ring should be given to who ever broke it.
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
3 Aug 10
I think that it is only right to return the ring regardless of who is at fault. An engagement ring is a promise to marry. If the relationship ends then it is only fair that the ring be returned I think. I know some would not agree with me on this and especially if the guy were at fault for the breakup. Unlike other pieces of jewlery, I don't consider an engagement ring a "gift". Now if you are married and then divorced, then I would say it is yours to do what you care to with. I did not give my husband back the ring after we divorced. I was going to save it and give to one of our daughters but times were tough. I went to have it valued and was going to sell it. Come to find out he was the one that stole my grandmother's very old diamond that was left to me and had it set in a modern setting. Without it's original setting the value of the diamond was reduced to next to nothing.