Should the custodial parents deny visitation when child support is not paid

United States
July 5, 2010 10:21am CST
There are many people (not just men) who fail to pay their child support payments and the children suffer for it, however do you think that the custodial parent should be able to deny the right to visit the child if the support is not paid?
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5 responses
• United States
5 Jul 10
From what I've heard if they don't pay their child support they are denied visitation. However, I understand the custodial parent needs the money to help support the child. But I think as long as the non-custodial parent is not of bad influence you are hurting the child by not allowing them to know that parent.
• United States
5 Jul 10
I think that is absolutely true, thank you for your response.
@goldie77 (168)
6 Jul 10
No way should fathers be stopped from seeing their kids unless the father is a really bad influence or a danger to the child. It really hurts the child if they can't see a parent. As a parent we need to put our child's feelings before our own and weigh up all the pros and cons. In my case,I allowed access for 3 years and even encouraged it even though my emotions were in turmoil every time but in the end the matter was taken out of my hands when he stopped travelling up to see his son. This has hurt my son so much,it has also hurt me because I hurt for him
• United States
6 Jul 10
I agree with you goldie absolutely.
@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
16 Jul 10
This is a case of two wrongs don't make a right. No, they should not do that as it will only hurt the child.
• United States
27 Jul 10
Absolutely thank you.
• India
10 Jul 10
I think it is justified to deny the visit, because if they permit none will pay the support money, they should stick to principle rigidly.. Professor God bless. Thanks for response. Professor.
• United States
10 Jul 10
Thank you for your response.
@lilybug (21148)
• United States
5 Jul 10
I was told that child support and visitation are 2 separate things. If you have court ordered visitation it is against the law to deny visitation. I do not allow my daughters father to see her, but it has nothing to do with the fact that he does not pay child support. We do not have court ordered visitation, but the one time he came back from his house with welts on her butt I never let her go back.
• United States
5 Jul 10
I applaud you for keeping your child out of harms way, that is totally different but I think that in a situation where child support is not paid the father should still have the opportunity to see his child, however, not at the expense of the child's welfare. Thank you for your response.
@carolscash (9500)
• United States
26 Sep 10
No, my husband was paying child support and the courts allowed his ex to continue to deny him visitation. I believe that courts should see that parents are parents whether they can pay support or not. I believe that with the economy the way it the courts have to learn to be a little more lienteint on the payee.