Past...Present....& the Future.

United Arab Emirates
July 6, 2010 1:59am CST
If you come to know about your partners' past like he / she had a physical relation with someone while being with you or may be he / she lied to you that he / she is a graduate and you discover that he / she has not completed his formal studies etc. But he / she has been loyal to you in the past one yoear. Would you make an issue of the the discovery???? or would you let the dust remain under the mat....what would you do in this case???????
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@Mitraa (3188)
• India
7 Jul 10
A single truth is more welcome than hundreds of lies! If any sort of such truth is found discovered from partner, then it must be dealt with proper courage as well as peace of mind, so that the partner's mind is not disturbed! Thanks for this nice topic!
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@jennyze (7048)
• Indonesia
7 Jul 10
The one thing that I hate is Lying. I tried to be truthful to myself, so I expect everyone else (moreover my partner) is true to their words, too. I can forgive my partner for lying to me, but that would be the end of our relationship, cause I would never trust him anymore.
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@HelloMickey (1663)
• Hong Kong
7 Jul 10
Hello edwardjoy It is a really tricky in real life, it's always easy to say when happened on others, but hard to do if happened on ourselves. Maybe let the dust remain under the mat, so long as he/she has been loyal or loves me with true heart, the past is not really a matter. I hope so~~
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@mipen2006 (5528)
• Australia
6 Jul 10
My partner was honest from the beginning, but I knew she had been married before, as had I. However, I believe you are talking about young people getting into a relationship, so let me analyse your discussion. First, if he/she had a previous relationship, then that is none of your business. If they want to discuss it well so be it. If they lie about qualifications, it could be a worry. Why would someone you are learning to trust want to lie about something like that, unless they think they may not be good enough for you, so this could be a sensitive eubject. On the other hand, it could mean lying could come easy, so you should take care, as trust in each other is most important in a relationship.
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@savypat (20248)
• United States
6 Jul 10
For me trust is one of the main requirements of any personal relationship. If I find I have been lied to, how can I ever trust again?
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• India
6 Jul 10
hi eddie just came to say hi and about ur discussion?forget it i never had a girl friend. :D
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• United States
6 Jul 10
Whoa. I would definetley being going insane if I found out if that person cheated on me. There stuff would be in a U haul before I could say get out. Being faithful for a year doesn't deserve any brownie points or a get out of jail free card! OK lets get this school thing out of the way first. I'm trying to pretend the potential cheating thing didn't happen (deep breath) OK. If she is lying about school either she is embarrassed or likes to lie. Either way she is lying but as long as the fact she didn't complete the amount of school she said does not affect your relationship, I would let that one go. Now, if you think one day you will get drunk or angry and end up blurting it out I would go ahead and ask her about it now. In saying that hopefully that is only one white/beige lie. I would be careful and watch her to make sure this isn't a pattern. If this continues I would suggest that you've got a crazy one on your hands. Back to serious issue: Are you sure she cheated? Do you have proof? Does she still talk to this dude? Is this guy one of her "friends" or "exes?" I don't like this Edward!! I would get rid of her, she sounds pretty toxic. I know your in love with her but she seems like she might be using you, or leading a double life, or just scandalous. There is about a 7% chance (if she did these things) that she learned her lesson, she will never do it again, she is isn't a little coo coo for coca coca puffs, that she is a "new" person, that she learned a lot this year with you about herself, or that she has it in her to behave herself. You sound like a stable guy Edward go with your gut! And always remember: "If it walks like a duck, and talks like a duck it must be a...?? Hang in there Edward, and please don't give her any money.