does love fades?

Philippines
July 6, 2010 10:05pm CST
i have a weird feeling these past few days towards my boyfriend. We've been together for quite long. Suddenly i woke up and i felt like i dont need him or want him anymore. I dont care if he wants to play basketball with hisfriends everyday, i dont text him that much and i dont call him as much as before. Are there any chance to fall out of love by chance and without clear reason?
11 responses
@simonelee (2715)
• China
7 Jul 10
Hmmm... I'm not sure if you fall out of love. Maybe you are just exhausted of your routine being with him, sending him with bunch of SMS, giving him a call and monitoring him for the entire day and you forgot that you have your own life. To socialize with friends or family are no longer in the picture. Are you still together? If so, give your self a break, do things that you haven't done before(make sure it's moral), reflect and then if your are now certain comeback to him and talk. Either you still want him or not, at least everything will be clear to both of you. Make sure that you made the right decision because feelings are involve and you don't want to chase after him because you made the a wrong decision, right? Good luck.
• Philippines
8 Jul 10
a good comment once more...thanks!=)
@kquiming (2997)
• Philippines
7 Jul 10
This is just my opinion alright... I don't think TRUE love ever fades. If what you have for him is true and genuine, maybe you're just going through some phase. If not, then it's probably because you weren't that deeply in love with him in the first place, and it could be that, what you felt for him was only some sort of deep attraction. But again I'm just stating my opinion. And don't try convincing me to change how I think :) I mean, I'm sorry but I've always been convinced that true love never ever fades. I can't change my beliefs on that one. Not ever. In my 24 years of life. Hope you'll find answers to your dilemma soon. Good luck.
• Philippines
8 Jul 10
thanks for responding. You really have a point there. =) happy my lotting.=)
@carrine (2743)
• Philippines
8 Jul 10
absolutely yes! most especially if that person gives you a reason for you to fall out of love towards him or her. what reasons do i mean? like he/she will do the things that you dont like. i mean there are a lot of reasons why we fall out of love or why love will fade.
@elleb0418 (1107)
• Philippines
7 Jul 10
I do believe that sometimes love fades.There comes a time that falling out of love does exist.You know why?because of too much heartaches and pain that have been caused by someone you love most.But let us not question why it happened because in love you have to set it wings free and it will settled to someone where it belongs.Love has it's own mystery but we must be happy that sometimes it dwells in our heart.
• United States
8 Jul 10
Love is not necessarily a definite feeling so it can come and go like any other feelings. I don't know if exactly you are falling out of love with him, but maybe it is just a routine of needing him just doesn't interest you anymore, and you may still love him just you don't rely on him to be there.
• Romania
9 Jul 10
i think if you trueally love someone there's no such thing as falling out of love Who knows maybe you were not meinght to be togheter, i think if you don't love him anymore you should leave him and fiind someone that could make you happy
@ktroth (378)
• United States
7 Jul 10
Sometimes couples go through periods where they get a little sick of each other, especially if they spend a lot of time together. But they never stop loving or caring about the other person. Ask yourself this: If I walked in and found him in bed with someone, how much would it bother me? If it would break your heart, you obviously still have feelings for him. If you don't think it would devastate you then you should think about ending it with him. Don't string him along. Just make a break and move on.
• India
7 Jul 10
love does not fade if both care and love each other ,they should find new ways to please each other
• United Arab Emirates
7 Jul 10
yes...it does...It fades when you compare it with some one else. If you husband has problems at his work,...and one of your friends is working well...then you decide that your friend is superior to you husband...and you start feeling hatred towards your husband....this is just an example. But if your love is true it will never fade...
• Portugal
7 Jul 10
maybe you feel that bcs your relationship lately was always the same like you were always together or not new things added to your relationship. why dont you try to do something with him that you never did? go together to a place you've never been before. try new things. you know sometimes people feel that when their relation has no news anymore you know. try that and see ^^
@satz0249 (125)
• India
7 Jul 10
Love is not only texting your boy friend and chatting with him regularly ... you must allow him to play or watever he does in his willing.. it may feel as if you start falling out of love but you wont be able to loose him entirely .. thats the real truth.. so love him even if he doesn't .. be true to yourself