Hopefully Soon I Will be Dancing a Jig!

United States
July 7, 2010 8:55pm CST
If all goes well I will be divorced soon. The thing that worries me is that my ex is trying to cause me as much grief as possible. I cannot understand why because he is now living with another woman. You would think he would want to have this divorce happen as quickly as possible. This man is a control freak and wants to have the upper hand. ~Sigh~ Once this is said and done, I am severing all ties with him. Many don't think divorce is cause for a celebration. When you are living a life that is unhappy and without spark you long for relief. Good, bad or indifferent, someone always suffers either way. Thankfully there were no children involved. It was just the 2 of us. Life goes on. Can't wait to dance a jig with my new love. I am even throwing a divorce party. Would you throw a party or attend a party to celebrate a divorce?
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19 responses
@ElicBxn (60907)
• United States
8 Jul 10
I would! Especially if it was such an obviously bad marriage as you seem to express - in fact, I can think of a few other people around here I'd love to go to their divorce parties!
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• United States
8 Jul 10
That is too funny.
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• United States
9 Jul 10
My Sweetie is already inviting people to the party!
• United States
10 Jul 10
When I got my divorce papers I was divorced for 6 months and knew nothing about it. I went straight to the liquo*r store and bought my favorite bottle. I went back home and enjoyed myself. I could not settle myself down I was on cloud nine happy and free from the baggage I tied myself down to. I feel your happy dance will come real soon. I don't blame you I did the same thing cut him off and never looked back. The sad thing was my daughter suffered with this but she is older now and I talk to her about letting go and moving on. Happy days to you dear..
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• United States
10 Jul 10
I thought about getting totally snookered, but that would only make me ill the next day. Celebrating in other ways is more important. Sharing the special moment with my new love is best.
• United States
11 Jul 10
Any way you se fit is best. Just enjoy yourself.
@GardenGerty (109011)
• United States
8 Jul 10
I just might, invite me and see!! I hope things straighten around so that you can get yours.
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• United States
9 Jul 10
My ex is such a control freak that I worry about what he has up his sleeve. I want nothing more than to get this resolved quickly.
@abin1287 (114)
• India
9 Jul 10
well..i guess yes....if its such an unhappy relationship...and you just want to get out of it..then of course when you get that much needed freedom and joy you ought to celebrate..!!
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• United States
9 Jul 10
Even just a nice day out with my new love is a good celebration!
• Australia
8 Jul 10
I have been divorced for 10 years and it was the best decision of my life. He was abusive and when he turned that towards my kids, I kicked him out. He put me through hell, stalking me and doing drive byes in the middle of the night. When the divorce was final, I threw a party that lasted for the whole weekend and got blind rotten drunk. It was the best time of my life at the time and I would do it again as it was worth having a hangover for 2 days. I have a new man now who treats me like a queen and loves my kids as they are but after my first marriage
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• United States
9 Jul 10
My first husband was mentally and physically abusive, my second is the same. The man I am with one is wonderful. He has dropped hints of what he would like to see our relationship become. My heart soars when I am around him.
@Thoroughrob (11750)
• United States
8 Jul 10
I hope things go well for you, so that you can be happen and go on with your life. I wish all of you the best.
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• United States
9 Jul 10
Thank you Thoroughrob. I can finally see the light at the end of the tunnel.
@Cutie18f (9563)
• Philippines
8 Jul 10
I would have done the same thing too if only we have such a thing as divorce in our country. Yes, you deserve to be happy and be rid of that something which has caused you unhappiness all these years. Congratulations!
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• United States
9 Jul 10
Thanks Cutie18f...I would be downhearted if I had to go through the rest of my life with this man.
@wolflvr (336)
• United States
8 Jul 10
Of course you can have a party to celebrate the next phase in your life. Hopefully once the divorce is final then your ex does not cause you any more grief. I think it is crazy that people fight during a divorce. They is so much more to worry about in life. Just move on. But unfortunately the flip side of love is hate so if you still have strong feelings for a person it is very easy for it to turn to hate. So throw a party have fun.
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• United States
9 Jul 10
I don't hate the ex...just can't stand to look at him, speak to him, or ever want to encounter him again. Loathe is a better word.
@paula27661 (15898)
• Australia
8 Jul 10
A friend of ours had a divorce party and she proceeded to burn anything that reminded her of her ex! I am happily married now but I divorced my ex husband in 1989 and for me, it was no cause for celebration but a very painful experience. I can appreciate wanting to celebrate a new freedom if you’ve come from a miserable existence with the wrong person especially if you have a new love who treats as he should! I wish I could come to your party, be happy ElusiveButterfly, you deserve it!
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• United States
9 Jul 10
Maybe I should post a party for all of my MyLot friends to help me celebrate!
@spalladino (17923)
• United States
8 Jul 10
The end of an unhappy relationship does not have to be sad, no, and I think a party to celebrate the next phase of life is a fine idea! You mentioned that your soon to be ex is a control freak and that is most likely why he is trying to cause problems for you. He knows that time is running out and that you will be free of him very soon. Congrats on freeing yourself from him.
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• United States
9 Jul 10
Thanks Spalladino. Once I shake this freak I will be able to breathe a bit easier.
@Hatley (164354)
• Garden Grove, California
8 Jul 10
yes elusivebutterfly I would surely dance a jig if I had been in your'shoes. to be miserable like that day after day,no way.You had enough sorrow in your life so now with a new love I hope you all the joy in the world. to love someone who loves you is the best thing ever.So do go ahead and have a divorce party,as you sure' earned it. Yes Ithink I would throw a party for a divorce if my marriage had been miserable. Luckily my husband was a real love,,full of fun and easy going he was always very good to me.So I do wish you a wonderful divorce party.
@maiaman (97)
• Philippines
9 Jul 10
I definitely would if my past relationship was as bad as hell!
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@jillhill (37383)
• United States
15 Jul 10
Yes.....and every years I celebrate the anniversary of my divorce which is Dec. 7..Pearl harbor day....hmmmmm wonder if the anniversary's have a duel meaning.
@MsTickle (25058)
• Australia
14 Jul 10
Hi Elusive. I would not give him the time of day from here on in. There would be no divorce party but there would certainly be a party to celebrate a new beginning, a fresh start. I sure hope things work out for you and that you continue to be happy.
@sid556 (31000)
• United States
13 Jul 10
Hi Elusive, I did not throw a party when I got divorced even tho I was confident that I was doing the right thing. In my case, children were involved so maybe that's why I felt sadder about it and yet relieved at the same time.
@dawnald (84142)
• Shingle Springs, California
12 Jul 10
Good luck and God bless! I might throw a private party, just me, myself and I. Not a public one, it would be hurtful to the children.
@JenInTN (27549)
• United States
11 Jul 10
Oh yes...sometimes a party is in order. I don't know what it is about some people. They don't want to make you happy but they don't want anyone else to do it either. Crazy. If there were no children involved I would be all about severing the ties and quickly. No need to suffer any longer with his stupidity. Take care and have fun at your party!
@gabs8513 (48712)
• United Kingdom
10 Jul 10
Well I did not throw a Party no but I celebrated my Divorce It does not matter what anyone else thinks it is you who had to go through the awful time not them Good on you Sweetie Big Hugs
@Polly1 (12648)
• United States
10 Jul 10
I would love to come to your party and dance a jig with you. Its too bad you live so far away or I would be there with bells on. I think divorce overall is very sad, its sad that a marriage has broken up to where divorce is what is needed, When you are in a bad marriage, when your unhappy and miserable, divorce is a cause for celebration. You can celebrate "The first day of the rest of your life" I hope it all gets thru with soon, then you can breath and live.