Love yourself

Philippines
July 8, 2010 7:46pm CST
Oftentimes we hear people saying "Before you let others love you, you should learn to yourself first." I really find it very ironic when people say they don't love themselves. In your own perspective, you always try to look on what's happening in your life in a positive way. Though you can't always be in a good mood, you can always try to control your emotions to prevent on having a bad mood. Your day may not start right. But you can always do better to end it right. It doesn't matter if people are nasty, as long as you are nice. It always feels good to be one. It's better to smile than to frown. Releases you from lots of unwanted feelings. And to begin with all of this, you should always appreciate everything you are - The way you look, the way you smile, the way you walk, the way you stare and the way you talk. Always try to be the BEST of what you can be. You will only have one life to live. So live it to the fullest before you lose it. Have FUN, LAUGH so hard, turn up the MUSIC, dance to the ocean's hymn, sing to the top of your voice.... Just simply love your life, love who you are!!! You are UNIQUE, ONE-OF A KIND individual... God made you, YOU! And you're SPECIAL!
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@tomitomi (5441)
• Singapore
9 Jul 10
Sometimes we have done that a lot without consciously knowing we have. Perhaps our greed clouds our minds. Our needs are just too many. We want almost everything especially if it's free. We should at least find time to make a conscious effort to give ourselves a treat because we love ourselves as much as we love others around us and that's when we find time to help them as well. On the other hand, I agree with you too that no matter how hard our day is we can at least try to make it right. It's better to smile than to frown and to appreciate everything that makes us Us. Interesting topic! Thanks invisiblelady!
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• Philippines
9 Jul 10
Your comment is wonderful! Thanks for your kind words tomitomi!!! I appreciate it... There are just too many problems to solve, too many brokenness to mend, too many heartaches to heal, too many struggles to overcome.... If we dwell too much on these negative things, we'll end up living in a negative perspective eventually making us hate this life. We are not the only ones who got problems. So we should atleast know how to appreciate the good things that happens to our lives once in a while. It will always make us feel better. Knowing that after every problem, solutions come!
@tomitomi (5441)
• Singapore
9 Jul 10
You are no far from the truth! Beautiful words that can only come from someone beautiful. Beauty that shines from within. And thanks!
• Philippines
9 Jul 10
Hey, now! Did you just say I'm beautiful? HA! No way! But thanks, anyway! :)
• India
9 Jul 10
Hello, How am I supposed to help others if I can't help myself? How can I ever love others if I don't know how to love and take care of myself? People who claim to love others even more than themselves are always making false statements. This is impossible. A person can't love anyone more than himself. Even when we feel sympathetic, it is because we wonder, "what would we do if the same thing had happened to us?" This is quite normal, so there is no need to deny it. We often feel others' pain simply because we ourselves have passed through difficult phases in our life. Thus, it is really important that you first look after your own well being. An unhappy man can't make others happy. Its ridiculous. Life is too short too waste, too precious to loose. We only have a few days to live, so live it the fullest. All happiness, peace and affection originates from our very soul. So our first and foremost duty is to make sure that we are happy and contented all the time. Thanks. God bless you
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• Philippines
9 Jul 10
I simply LOVE your comment!!! Thank you!!! Your statement is so true!!! We can never show kindness, love, affection, sweetness, generosity and compassion to others UNLESS we have done the same for ourselves. We end up doing good things to others because we wouldn't want others to do bad things towards us. Love yourself and love others. Then, they will love you as well. Golden rules still apply. :)
@hotsummer (10449)
• Philippines
9 Jul 10
i think we all love our self. but not in a right way. that is why there is saying love others as you love your self. as we tend to love our selves more than other people. but things can taken out of context. loving others equally as we love our selves does not mean that we love our self less. but i guess we should learn or find out how to love our selves more in a right way while we still love others as we love ourselves.
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• Philippines
9 Jul 10
That is so true hotsummer! everything that is "too much" can lead into destruction. So, we gotta be careful. We should love ourselves in a way that we can show others the right kind of love too. But to be selfish is a different thing. So... we should learn how to balance things out. In this way, we'll be able to enjoy everything that we are and what we have..
@Hatley (164534)
• Garden Grove, California
9 Jul 10
hi invisiblelady yes indeed you make such wonderfully good common sense and remind me of something my husband taught me. I was down on myself. He told me say t his: I like myself. I am unique I am the only one of me. I love my self. I am Patsie Hatley.' now say it again only yell it like you really mean it so I did the dog barked but I paid no attention . This sort of mantra made me begin to really love myself so I could love others too. And it bolstered my self esteem so much. we are each of us unique God made each one of us just a bit differently. I love classical music so I listen it it when I can a nd I like to laugh and smile so try to be more cheerful and it is so contagious it catches on with others. this is a great discussion and should perk us all up.
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• Philippines
9 Jul 10
Thank you so much Hatley!!! You are truly blessed to have a very sweet husband. I bet you are living a wonderful life with him. That is a funny, the thing he made you do. We all should need to learn to love ourselves. I've met so many people who hated their lives. And as I look deeper, I discovered that it's because they are not pampering their selves, their not spending some time to relax and enjoy, they barely laugh, they can;t even smile and etc.... So I am a believer of what you do and how you think affects every aspect of your life and personality. Yes, we should take some issues in our lives seriously but that doesn't mean we have to be serious all the time. Life is beautiful and we are all beautiful creations of God!!!
• Canada
9 Jul 10
While this is a lvoely sentiment it is sometimes very hard to follow in such an overwhelming society. I find it hard to stay positive when so much is expected of me. I have student loans, school, supplies, cell phone bill, car insurance and gas to pay for. But I'm only getting about 20 hours at work. Even though I'm available full time they offer the security guard a shift working on the floor in my department and hire casual workers. I'm overweight because I can't afford healthy food, I'm doing so much school work I don't have time to go to the gym or get a second job. No matter what problem I try to table first there is always something there to block me from getting farther ahead. I'm not trying to be a downer here or anything, I'm just saying that it's easy to be down on yourself when life keeps setting up roadblocks in your way. One can only beat down the roadblocks so often before becoming exhausted with the situation. I just try to smile and push onwards through the rubble, face each day as it comes and try not to be too overhwelmed.
• Philippines
9 Jul 10
Hello vulgarlittleprincess! Thank you for your comment. Don't worry... I understand you very well and I can feel for you. You're not alone, my dear! For whatever situation you are in right now, you live until today because you can handle yourself very well. That's a fact that you shouldn't be overlooking! You, my friend, are so brave to be going on life you have. I admire you! I cannot do all those things on my own. So you gotta be proud! You may feel down sometimes, but remind your self to enjoy each day, each moment that passes. It's good that you are smiling and pushing all those things away. That's the spirit! Don't ever let those things put you down. Don't waste your time on the negative things even if there are so many to consider. Remember, you're never alone on that kind of situation. Others may have been experiencing far worst situation than you are. Take time to relax.. Enjoy... and just chill out!!! Have a happy day! Hope you are smiling so big!!!
• India
9 Jul 10
yes,if some body loves him/herself then he/she can love others
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@bkrm_gupt (220)
• India
30 Jul 10
We spend so much of our time to be loved,hoping love will find us,searching,yearning to that special love.Feeling empty and lost without it wating someone to give us love and fill us up.so loving yourself can create love in our life.
• Philippines
2 Aug 10
So true. Sometimes we yearn so much love from others, but we can't get it because we don't love ourselves. Loving ourselves is a step towards feeling and experiencing love from others.
@pwnson (151)
• India
27 Jul 10
Well i agree that all we need is to love our self and love our self is the secret.
• Philippines
27 Jul 10
Thank you
• Philippines
21 Jul 10
Yep...:) I agree...:) Hmmm, I, you,we are all special...:) But there are people who are self less, they love others more than they love their selves...They think that showing love to those people around them, is more important than caring much about their selves... :)Of course, they still meet their basic necessities but they don't really pay much attention to their desires...:)
• Philippines
26 Jul 10
Now, that is indeed a selfless love. But for me, it is really important to love yourself more before you will be able to love others. If you love others more than you love yourself, you will end up hurting yourself. The way we treat ourselves will be the way how other people will treat us. So if we want to be loved well, we must learn how to care for ourselves first. Besides, we won't be able to show the real meaning of love unless we know how it really feels to be loved. Everything should be well-balanced.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
12 Jul 10
I don't think that I would have been able to have said this better myself. You are so completely right that it is important to love ourselves before we are able to let someone love us completely. We have to recognize that we have those things that are positive attributes of ourselves and also that we have negative attributes and we should be able to embrace all of these things about ourselves. Then, and only then can we really accept the love of someone else.
• Philippines
14 Jul 10
You are right, my friend. Some people stopped loving others when they begin to see their negative side. If we only realize how much we love ourselves, including the things that aren't lovable, accepting the things that cannot be perfected, we will know that there's no such thing as blemish free in this world. We all have our share of mistakes and negativeness in our blood. So, we gotta love ourselves completely and eventually learn to love others with all their negative aspects as well :)
@ilann1 (373)
• Israel
10 Jul 10
I don't believe in any of what you've written, mainly because it doesn't have even a bit of reality in it; nobody in this whole universe is that positive unless one is denial to the truth. You can't think everything is wonderful when you live on the street in a box. You can't say that everything will work out for you, when you see it doesn't. Although, you can try do better and flatter yourself (narcissism acts) but it doesn't necessarily mean things will get better. Anyway, what I'm trying to say is that loving yourself is sometimes either narcissistic or unreal, in order to really love yourself you gotta be realistic and not to live in a bubble.
• Philippines
14 Jul 10
Are you having the kind of life everyone wouldn't dare to have? I'm so sorry if you feel that way. But there are people who can't be that negative, you know. I've met many people who lives the most lowly life you could ever imagine, but they are still happy. It would depend on how much contented you can get. If you are not contented with your life and what you have, like most other people, then you can never really find the true happiness in this world. You can never appreciate and end up hating yourself. And hey, being realistic doesn't mean you have to be unreal. Trust me, I have experienced the most trying moment in my life, I've been broken for countless times, I've been left behind, felt so unwanted, been crashed and my family has experienced tons of problems and struggles - name every pain one can handle! But look, I'm still alive and complete! And since the day I've learned to be optimistic and positive in every way I can, my life has never been this better. And well, you gotta have JESUS in your heart to experience this :) You can't help but love yourself and love your life when you know someone as great as HIM loves you so much! Nothing can break me! :)
• Indonesia
9 Jul 10
You are right, we are as a human, as individual are unique and very special. But most of us doesn't understand how we must respect our self than only respect the other. Most difficult to love our self, that why may be we all need someone else to help us loving our self. I think if you care with the person who love you, husband/wife or boy/girl friend it make you care about your self, you will love your self inside your parter's love.
• Philippines
9 Jul 10
Owww! I know in my heart that this is so true. I'm just having a hard time accepting it because I'm a single lady. And no, I'm not bitter at all. LOL! But nevertheless, with partner or without, we should still love ourselves.... It just feels so right! And you can enjoy your life even more if you learn to love your self :) Thanks for your comment!
@hestylim (1211)
• Indonesia
9 Jul 10
Yes! I am totally agree! You must love yourself, because nobody will love you better than you love yourself. You see the man that you see every morning in the mirror? Look at him deep in his eyes. He never tells you lies, he will never leave you, he will never betray you, he will always be there for you. A perfect mate, ha? No matter how you treat him, he will always be there. When you are sad, he is sad. When you are happy, he is very happy. Who is that man? He is the man that you see in the mirror.. So, why don't you be kind with the one that will always be with you all the time?
• Philippines
9 Jul 10
Now that is something! You are right in everything you said... There are so many things that we undergo in this life... And the only thing we are left to do is to keep holding on, knowing that we can never let ourselves down.. That's how we should love ourselves!!!
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
9 Jul 10
I am a firm believer that we must love ourselves first. How can we possibly love someone else if we can not love ourselves. Pride and self=esteem are so important. Ifd we learn to love ourselves first, only then can we know how to love another .
• Philippines
9 Jul 10
Yeah... It's like when we are fighting against others - like a physical fight. You'll never want your opponent to kill you. You'll do everything just to live. Why? Because you wouldn't want to die - you should love yourself that much. You wouldn't wish for a worthless life. We always aim for the best for our own benefit. Right? That's how much we love ourselves. So if all we want for ourselves are good things...that will reflect on us by showing good things to others... Thanks sender621!
@grazian (17)
• Philippines
9 Jul 10
In physical aspect it is indeed ironic to hear someone that they do not love themselves. However in spiritual aspect those who says they do not love themeselves, but deep within, they love God are blessed. Ourselves contradicts from God's purpose. The human self loves to do things for itself and for the world. Therefore, it neglects of loving God intead loving much of himself than God the Creator. In my belief, I dont want to love the self that is a sin injected within my flesh and soul. However, I want my living better, making my life worthy for God's purpose.
• Slovenia
9 Jul 10
i agree
@ilann1 (373)
• Israel
10 Jul 10
Well I don't. That's narcissism.
• Romania
9 Jul 10
You gotta have a little narcisim on you. This way you love yourself and you learn how to love another people too.