A visitor who is afraid of dogs

@Porcospino (16435)
Denmark
July 9, 2010 8:22am CST
We have a golden retriever. He is a big dog, he can be a bit wild sometimes, and he gets really excited when a visitor arrives. Most of my friends love dogs and have their own dogs and in those cases his behavior isn't a problem, but today I got visitor who doesn't like dogs and who is afraid of them. My husband kept our dog in the livingroom while I was talking to my visitor in kitchen, next time she comes. he is probably going to take the dog for a walk while we talk. I was wondering what the rest of you do when you get a visitor who is afraid of dogs, how do you handle situation?
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@LadyMarissa (12165)
• United States
9 Jul 10
I don't trust people who don't like dogs; so, I wouldn't care if she never came back to my home!!! Animals know when you don't like them. Dogs pick right up on people who are afraid of them & even become somewhat aggressive. I used to have a cat that wouldn't let anybody touch her but me. My aunt & uncle were visiting. My aunt loved cats & kept calling the cat to get in her lap. The cat ignored her. My uncle hated cats & wanted NOTHING to do with the cat. The cat would NOT stay out of his lap. As I said before, I don't think I would want this woman in my house. However, if you feel you need her as a friend, I'd suggest you visit at her home in place of yours so your dog is NOT an issue!!!
@Porcospino (16435)
• Denmark
9 Jul 10
My husband read your response and he laughed and said "The thing are people who don't like dogs sounds like something you could have said" and that it true. It was a little shocked to see her reaction when I opened the door, I didn't think that she would react that way. I have had pets who reacted the same way as your cats. My pets often seem to approach the person who doesn't like them. My grandmother absolutely hated cats, she couldn't stand our cat and when she was here the cat couldn't stay away away from her. Most of the time we went her place instead.
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@hvedra (1623)
12 Jul 10
Nature has played a very funny joke on humans by making their facial expression of dislike (squinting eyes and looking away) the very thing that cats do to show approval. This is why cats head towards people who don't like them - they are getting a "come on" signal! With dogs a human expression of fear looks the same as aggression so a person who is afraid of dogs will sometimes unknowingly provoke them.
@LadyMarissa (12165)
• United States
12 Jul 10
Porcospino, I usually let my cats & dogs choose my friends. If my pets don't like them, I usually learn somewhere down the line that they have a major character flaw!!! That system has only failed me once. My cat loved my first hubby & he was a real priick!!! Guess I couldn't blame the cat. She was female & he had a special talent of charming ALL females. I had one friend who had a friend that nobody liked. Whenever they came to visit, I'd have to chain up the dog as my dog hated him & would even try & bite him. I had that dog for 10 years & he NEVER offered to bite anybody else except for that one guy!!! Hvedra...Interesting concept there!!! The part about the cat makes sense. I've always heard that dogs could sense fear & would respond to it. Never thought about it being from the facial expressions!!!
• Philippines
9 Jul 10
hi, I get that a lot often and it can be very irritating. The dog does sense when someone is afraid and thus try to dominate over them. It's all about energy that they are sensing. When someone comes and is afraid of dogs I make sure my dog is placed in the cage. Mine is a jack russell-spitz mix and attitude wise she is more of the spitz that is kinda fierce so I do not allow her around people who is afraid because she gets so wild but yours is a retriever and they are normally nice and friendly I do not think that it is something to be afraid of.
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@Porcospino (16435)
• Denmark
9 Jul 10
Yes, our dog is friendly, he can be a little wild sometimes if he is happy or excited, but he just wants to play. The visitor we had today got very scared when she saw the dog, so we had to hurry up and get the dog away from her, I think she was surpriced that he was so big, and she was afraid that he would touch her.
• Philippines
9 Jul 10
Guess your visitor is not a dog lover she will now when a dog is just being playful and when the dog wants to attack her. Can't blame her though perhaps she had a bad experience with dogs and that is why she reacted this way. I guess as dog lovers we need to reach out to them by orienting them with friendly pets. My cousin is just a perso full of phobias do not know where in the world she got it because nobody tried scaring her at home but one of the things she fears most are dogs. When I brought home my Louise she was so darn scared especially Louise was barking loudly but she was wagging her tail. Funny thing Louise followed her wherever she goes and she kept screaming and crying. Then I went down and scolded her and then walked her infront of Louise and then Louise would not bark on her anymore but start offering her paw and she was cured of this fear. I also made a point of taking her with me when I was deciding on buying big dogs. She did not cry anymore although she would not dare get too close or pet them but she does not run away and cry like she use to.
@sjlskl (3385)
• Singapore
11 Jul 10
Normally, I would tie the dog up if the visitor is afraid of him. Getting your companion to bring him out for a walk is not feasible if the visitor is gonna be around for a long time.
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@Porcospino (16435)
• Denmark
12 Jul 10
That is true. Taking the doeg for a walk is not the permanent solution and it doesn't work if the visitor is going to be around for a long time, but she usually doesn't stay that long, so I think that a walk would be okay.
@crazydaisy (3899)
• Canada
9 Jul 10
I would explain that the dog will not hurt you just don't let on you a fraid of the dog.my sister has a big dog and if the dog get excited what she dose is puts him in the other room and tell it to be good !!! and when it's good it can come out.your'e friend just have to get use to the dog ps.I am afraid of big dogs so I got myself a dog to break the fear. it work, cd
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@Porcospino (16435)
• Denmark
10 Jul 10
I like your idea of getting a dog to break the fear. Doing the things that you are afraid of is often the best way to break the fear, and I am happy to hear that it worked.
• Canada
10 Jul 10
Hell; there are many people that say they like pets, really they don't. I find this out from friends and aquaitainces by what the visitor says after they leave my house and visit them, or talk to them. If they where more honest, I have many options with my pets. I have a large fenced back yard, a large 15 x 25 pen. I take my brats with me, or I place them in 1 of our 4 bedrooms and check on them periodicaly. So when people visit I don't take it for granted,unless I know for absolutly sure, I place the pets away. As you can see by my pic, by brats r big. They r also trained very well, to the point where I can call them off an attack at any time..
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• Philippines
10 Jul 10
I usually try to explain to our vistors that our dogs are harmless and do not bite. Otherwise, I keep the dogs in a room, either mine or my parents, while the guest is at home. It drives the dogs nuts though, and they keep on barking anyway :)
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@ilann1 (373)
• Israel
10 Jul 10
I only like certain types of dogs. I am scared of dogs with wild behavior.
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@sinaj292 (602)
• India
10 Jul 10
I also don't like to see dogs in front of houses ..... Am also coming under that category those hate dogs....
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@inu1711 (5288)
• Romania
9 Jul 10
If you really need to meet a person like this at your home, it is a good thing if your husband can take the dog for a walk while she is there. I don't like visitors who are afraid of dogs, because I don't like to cage my dog for their sake. The only persons who visit us are friends who love dogs. When unknown persons come to the door (like the postman or the cable guy) and they look scared when I open the door, I take the dog, put her in the kitchen and close the door. But this kind of visit don't last long.
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@bhanusb (5709)
• India
9 Jul 10
For that reason I have no dog no pet.
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@savypat (20248)
• United States
9 Jul 10
On ranches there are always dogs, so we have not had to cope with that fear. People know if they come here there will be dogs. My problem is our dog is not alwyas a friendly as some and people tend to reach out for her before she is ready, I am afraid she might snap at someone.
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@allamgirl (2145)
• Philippines
9 Jul 10
that always happen in our house. we have a lot of dogs, although some are in the backyard. we have three dogs inside the house so you can just imagine the racket that happens when someone comes to visit. when we get visitors who are afraid of dogs, we make our dogs all go to the backyard. or if it's short notice, then the indoor dogs go inside my parents' room. but when they do go out, they're so lovable that the visitors end up liking them even if they are afraid of dogs.