Who would you choose? The one you really love or the person who really loves you

Philippines
July 9, 2010 8:44am CST
I have some experience here, when i was still young i used to think that i will go for the person that i love, but right now that i had the relationships that thought me lessons i changed my mind that i now look for the person that really loves me. So input your opinions who would yo go for? the person that you love or the person that really loves you. Thanks :)
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@maiaman (97)
• Philippines
9 Jul 10
Classic. I know a lot of people will say, go for the one you love, but the question didn't say does the one you love love you back? If the answer is yes, then why the hell wouldn't you go for the one you love if you both love each other. But if on the other hand the one you love does not love you back, then why should you choose that person. In fact isn't there a saying, If you love him(her) set him(her) free, if he(she) comes back he's(she's) yours forever. I'd say, if they both love you then go for the one you love, but if your love is not reciprocated go for the one who loves you because the human heart can learn to love those who loves you!!!
• Philippines
10 Jul 10
I like your comment, did you had the same experience with this one? I believe in the saying "you'll never learn a lesson unless you have been through it. Love is so complicate that when you try to think why things has gone to the way it is it will just blow up your mind.
• Philippines
13 Jul 10
Thanks! It's complicated. I had an ex boyfriend before that came back to and said that he changed and he's better, but that time I also had someone courting me who at first I didn't gave much attention to because physically he's not really my type. I have to say that I was soo in love with my ex before we broke up that it crushed me when it didn't worked out. I gave them both the chance but after knowing that my ex hasn't really changed that much, I gave the other guy more time and attention. I'm glad I did because this other guy treated me way better than my ex. I ended up with this other guy and now I can say that I love him sooo much, so much more than the love I gave my ex.
@checapricorn (16066)
• United States
9 Jul 10
I will choose the person whom I love and who loves me also, it's is very difficult when it is one-sided!
• Philippines
10 Jul 10
What if you can't have the best of world's then? What would you do?
@m2heart (80)
• Philippines
4 Apr 11
I don't want to choose because my answer would be both. It's nice to know that you love each other rather than you only love the person or that person loves you.
• India
3 Aug 10
I would go to the person who love me not the one to whom I love.Some times it happens that the person whom we love hurts us and betrays us but if some one loves us really then it would be better to go with that person rather he would keep us happy .
• India
28 Jul 10
"Love the one who loves you not the one whom you love" some one had confidently wrote this proverb. It's true ,I was cheated by my love whom I really loved, I used to ignore the person who loves me. But after cheated my by love and I followed above proverbs and accepted the one who really loves me without knowing me perfectly.
• India
27 Jul 10
If I had to choose between both,I go for the guy who loves me very much.If he loves me sooner or later I love him too.As a "love a person who loves you not the one whom you love".So I prefer to love with a guy who loves me and I am always there for him.
19 Jul 10
its really my problem now..huhuhu help?
• Portugal
11 Jul 10
if i had to choose between both i would choose the person that really loves me^^ if he really loves me sooner or later i will love him too but if i choose the person i love what if he loves someone else and never love me? i dont want to be with a guy that loves someone else^^ i would feel always sad. neither me neither him could be happy. but if i choose a guy that really loves me if he really cares i will do everything for him and will love him too^^
@meirhu (367)
• Israel
11 Jul 10
Why choose ? Take BOTH of them (for as long as you can and as long as it interests you).
@maezee (32955)
• United States
9 Jul 10
I agree with you 100%. Plus, in my opinion, while it's not 100% ideal, you could learn to love someone who loves you. Everyone wants to be loved and appreciated.
@merma1267 (130)
• Philippines
9 Jul 10
I will choose the PERSON WHO LOVES ME MUCH. coz i know and feel that he loves me, let say i am sure enough of that THAN choosing the one i really love.. How do i know that he loves me? what if, in time he leaves me coz he didn't love as much as i love him? HEARTACHE isn't it? what i only wanted is to be HAPPY with someone that i know that he loves me more than i live him. is it a selfishness? maybe... but LOVE develops and i prefer my love will develop coz i believe will remain forever. Means, not easy to change.. means stable enough. I guess, that's me.
• Philippines
9 Jul 10
Oh it's hard to go with someone I dont love. I would prefer someone whom I love and the person loves me back. Its hard to fake love most especially if youre thinking of a long term relationship.
• United Arab Emirates
9 Jul 10
Its is said...for women, marry the man whom you love you. i will definately live with the women whom i love...i kno she also lobves me and i will do anything to gain her love...i would go to any extent. I have been married for 2 years and i have been very lucky to know that my wife loves me lots....i will do am=nything to keep that love forever.