how to mend a broken heart?

broken heart - how to mend a broken heart?
India
July 10, 2010 5:31am CST
people may say no one ever died of broken heart but when youre suffering from one, it sure doesnt feel that way--at least
6 responses
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
14 Dec 10
Yes, heal of a broken heart should be loved more..heart has to be given an heal, a peace and support. To focus on a different activity, work and giving heart a time to rest itself out of all sorrows.
• Philippines
12 Jul 10
its hard to say move on coz i know it is.but if you look into the other side of your life..there must be a better life for you than getting stuck with your broken heart..there are many opportunities waiting for you. do things that could help you move on.
• India
11 Jul 10
Hi, The main obstacle in mending your broken heart is the assumption that your heart is broken. Unless you don't let go of the feelings that you've actually lost something, there is no possible way of returning to the normal life. Now lets try to describe the things that lead to a heart break. You like some feature of someone and try to know her more. Then as you get closer, you create a sense of possession within you. You grow up a habit of having her around you. You start depending on her for your happiness. But this not happiness as happiness is something that springs from inside your soul, and you don't need to depend on anyone to be happy. What is it then that makes her company so comfortable? Its desire. Its a want for pleasure. Believe me or not, pleasure harms you more than it benefits you. When its there, it makes you forget everything else. It may even overshadow your sense of judgement. And then when its not there you long for getting it back. Then everything seems so dull to you that you even become lethargic. You are saying that your heart has broken. But is it the heart that actually governs you in falling in love? It doesn't. Its all in your mind. You've allowed your mind to get accustomed in a new environment. You've allowed yourself in growing new habits. If this thing can be made possible then the opposite is also possible. Just reverse and rewind everything that happened. Grow exactly the opposite habit. Try to understand the pleasure in being alone again. No connection is all the way better than a malfunctioning connection. You must feel blessed to get rid of it all, and that too with the slightest possible intervention on your part. That means, you don't have any reason to blame yourself. Isn't that something? Now, take responsibilities for everything that happened to you. Don't blame yourself. Don't end up in repenting for the entire life. You've done mistakes, so does everybody. Just take an oath that you will not be repeating these mistakes ever again. Thats it. Then you cut the supply to your pain. Our sorrow gets all its nourishments from our thoughts and attentions. Stop paying it attention, and it will slowly die out as a plant without sufficient water. Start avoiding every thoughts that relates to her. Replace these thoughts with positive thoughts. Grow good hobbies and try to contribute more positive things in your own life. Try spending more time improving yourself. Build up new skills. But please don't do one thing. Don't get into yet another relationship. It will be too early, and you will be terribly dissatisfied with your next relationship, if you don't allow yourself sufficient time after break up. Thanks. God bless you
@ET28LV (1890)
• Latvia
10 Jul 10
Yes I too have experience about heart break first time It was happened about a year ago. Yes in the first moment is very hard to do something, because pains are very painful. When my heart was broken I thought I never feel in love, but then I join to some acctivities. And one day I forget about my broken heart. In initially It is painful, but time would heal your heart. You do not die If you have a broken heart. Take care, Have a nice day!
@LeoWyatt (169)
• Bulgaria
10 Jul 10
well, it is not easy to mend a broken heard, but the only solution I know is time! time heals and as time flies you will be okay, i know it's tough when you got your heart broken but you will be okay, believe me even if you don't.. you will meet someone else and you will be fine
• Philippines
10 Jul 10
TIME, broken heart is like a wound, there will come a time that the wound heal and all the pain will vanish.. if not, use a glue.. like what kurt cobain said in one of his songs "my heart is broke, but i have some glue. help me inhale and mend it with you.." find ways to make your heart fixed again. try to find love with other people... you have friends and you have family.. :D