How do you choose your friends on Mylot?

New Zealand
July 11, 2010 5:15am CST
If I like a discussion, I'll click on it. Read it. Post my opinion and that means I'll probably send you an invite to be friends because I'll be looking forward to reading more discussions from you. What I don't like it, are people sending out friend invites just so they can attract visitors to their page and sign up for their PTC sites or some other GET RICK QUICK online scheme. Usually those people have not done anything more on Mylot, not participated in any discussions and have only made..."friends"...
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@mdude53 (29)
• Romania
11 Jul 10
Right now I have just one friend. I recently descovered this site (couple of days ago)so I accepted the friend request. And my new friend it's like you described: 0 discussion and here just to attract refferals. But I think I'll add more friends and hopefully I'll find ones that I can discuss with.
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• New Zealand
11 Jul 10
funnily enought that was my first friend request as well. Also the first one rejected lol. These type of guys are targeting as mylot newbies to fall into their referral schemes =/
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• New Zealand
11 Jul 10
Oops, should say: "These type of guys are targeting "us" Mylot newbies..." =)
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@eurekafemme (5881)
• Philippines
12 Jul 10
Well, I'm not as choosy as you are. My friendship is open for everybody. Plus, when I received an invite I just couldn't ignore it even if the sender is just interested to me as her/his referral.LOL. Anyways, it doesn't hurt me having lots of friends in my list. :-) But, when it comes to discussion, my friends' posts are always my top priority before scouting the pages of other Mylotters. I've got friends who have a great deal of discussion posted enough to satiate my restless brain.;-)
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• New Zealand
12 Jul 10
I know what you mean lol. Everyday most of my friends have something on their mind they want to share, it's always scary looking at the unread messages in my mail box haha.
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
12 Jul 10
I am a social being. So that explains why I have many friends in my list. I find mylot as one of the best social networking site that promote camradeliness in the cyberworld. Some might not be active here for reasons of their own but I still allow them the priviledges to grace my friends' list as I believe someday they will wake up from their dreamlands and participate actively here. To start anything takes an idleness of thought in order to have a beginning. For that belief, I take in anyone that request for my friendship. I need friends support as much as they need me in establishing a strong presence in mylot.
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• New Zealand
12 Jul 10
I like that Zandi, "I need friend's support as much as they need me." Thanks for your thoughts.
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@jugsjugs (13045)
11 Jul 10
I am like you i tend to add a few friends that i like their discussions or even the way that they have replied to a discussion that i have started.I agree with you that there are alot of people on here that send theuir links to join up on a site that they are members of.I belong to alot of different sites and if anyone wants the links then i will send them if they ask,but i would never send them unless they have asked for them.Thaqnks for the add by the way.
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• New Zealand
12 Jul 10
Thanks for accepting the invitation and replying to my discussion Jugs, I'll see you around Mylot!
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@geojb90 (471)
• Romania
11 Jul 10
All you say is true and I also add someone to my friends list if I find his / her discussion interesting. I often get friend requests from new registered users who don't even respond to any of my discussions and I ignore them because I might think they're just occasional users who only promote websites / services messaging.
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• New Zealand
11 Jul 10
I'm glad you can agree Geojb90. Thanks for your comments!
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• United States
11 Jul 10
I do not turn anyone away. I accept everyone who sends me a request to friend as I was a newbie about one month in a half ago and did not bring any friends to myLot with me. So I know what it is like to not have mutual friends to chat with on here. What I totally despise is when I do accept friend request and then soon after get a pm message to "check this out". The common phrase which is always about a make money site. After opening the message I just do not do anything with it. I have been fortunate not to be bombarded with too many though. I believe of all the accepted friends I have received maybe three like that so that isn't too many. I have never received more than one message of this sort repeated by the same person. So it isn't too much of a burden. I have my referral banners on my profile but have never referred anyone to them nor do I respond to messages saying go to my profile for any reason. When I respond to messages and or friend request it is with the hopes that I increase my discussions daily. I suppose there is nothing wrong with removing the friend if it becomes too much of a burden with their referrals. Fortunately I have not had this problem yet.
• United States
16 Jul 10
Yes I agree completely. Have a great day!
• China
11 Jul 10
I will add anyone I can see to be my friend.By the way,I am a new comer here.
• Philippines
11 Jul 10
You will soon get picky or choosy in adding friends when you get tired of opening your email, reading and deleting all those notifications that your friend so and so have started a new discussion in MyLot, and when you check out the discussion, it's all nonsense or a spam like discussion promoting an income opportunity online.
• New Zealand
11 Jul 10
I don't like being picky, but at the same time I don't want hundreds of messages in my email with discussions from friends like, "Do you want financial freedom?" or "Get rich quick now!" I definitely see where you're coming from Mag
• India
11 Jul 10
To some extent you may be right , but personally I approve everyone who wants to be friends with me here and so far i have not regretted that action. I am here basically to make friends and talk about anything and everything that catches my fancy, therefore increasing the number of friends has never had an alternative for me.
• New Zealand
11 Jul 10
Hope I wasn't sounding too picky in my post lol. I generally accept anyone who wishes to be friends with me.
@debsgw (256)
12 Jul 10
I also accept anyone who wants to be friends with me (at least so far I have lol), although like you T_Diamond, I only request friendship from those that I have found with similar tastes or opinions in their discussions so that we have something in common and I then am more likely to be able to respond to their future discussions just like in a regular friendship :)
@34momma (13895)
• United States
12 Jul 10
for the most part i will only friend someone who have have a high number next to there name. that means they have been where for a while and they are busy making post or posting to other's discussions. unless it's someone that i know i will add them if they just joined
• New Zealand
12 Jul 10
Ah going by the numbers. That's a good method. So what do you consider the minimum number to be?
• Philippines
12 Jul 10
i dont choose friends here in mylot as i accept anyone who wants to add me as friends, besides theres nothing to loss if i did. yes your right some of them will send you referrals link though i sorry for them coz i just delete it, besides if im interested with the site i will be the one to look for answer. i hate those who invited me with their referral link without having any proof of payment, i might be appreciate if they can show me their proof of payment first and if im interested then i will reply to them and ask what the site. on the other hand i will be the one to look for site that can be legit enough and not because someone offer that to me.
• New Zealand
12 Jul 10
Definitely Homeshopper. I see what you mean. Good on you for deleting those messages.
• India
12 Jul 10
After I have responded to someone's discussions 3 or 4 times and I find the discussions interesting then I send my friend's request. The aim is that I must know as and when the person posts more discussions. There is no other criterion for choosing friends.
• New Zealand
12 Jul 10
Thank you for sharing your opinion, Achilles.
@CTHanum (8254)
• Malaysia
12 Jul 10
yes i absolutely agree with you T_Diamond!!! i like to give response and when it comes to inviting friends,i will look at the discussion first.sometimes i forgot to invite but very sure they will come with other discussions as most of them are active member.and there are some guys out there who just mentioned are using mylot just to promote their websites and get someone to be their refferals friends.but they are some who really give a great helps in helping others to earn more.thanks to this group of people!
• New Zealand
12 Jul 10
That's awesome CTHanum. Glad you could agree =D. I'll see you around Mylot.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
12 Jul 10
I like to choose mylot friends in different ways. I like to add people whose discussions i admire. I also like to add newbies. I know how i felt at my first friendship here. i would like everyone to feel welcome here. happy mylotting!
• New Zealand
12 Jul 10
Aww that's nice of you to Sender, adding newbies to make them feel welcome. Good on you! I'll do the same ;)
@Amanda81587 (3046)
• United States
12 Jul 10
I usually just add anyone who requests an add from me. If they send me a message then Ill respond but other than that I really dont have a way of picking friends.
• New Zealand
12 Jul 10
heh, that's cool.
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• Canada
11 Jul 10
I usually just accept whatever friend request I recieve. I do not often send out requests. I just don't think to do it, even when I read a very good topic.
• New Zealand
11 Jul 10
Mm, I forget to do this myself sometimes lol. When you're starting out, I guess you'd want to have a few friends at least. So you're more likely to send out friend invites. However, after you reach a good dozen friends, you're not to bothered about it anymore are you?
@sach143_u (859)
• India
11 Jul 10
Friend i want to tell you onething that friend should nt be chosen it should happen. Weshould nt choose anyone it is not the thing or animal or tree or any thing else to select.
• New Zealand
11 Jul 10
Thank you Sach, I see where you're coming from. I did not mean to say friends were an "it" something you choose. It can just happen, but you do need to make an effort. Remembering back my first day at school I didn't go around looking at people thinking to myself "Mmm, that guy has black hair...I don't think I want to be friends with him. "She's taller than me...no it's a bad idea to be friends with her" etc lol. My first group of friends, I met during a handball game outside at break. Ball rolled out, I grabbed to pick it up, the guys thanked me, I asked if I could join and off we go!
@Memnon (2173)
11 Jul 10
Quite agree. There are lots of opinion forums for which you get rewards, but many come with some catch. MyLot is one of those that appears up front about itself. If you read the FAQ etc, you will learn how to earn reasonably well from here. No promise of lavish earnings,. You can earn a little by just being a good communicator and enjoying the site. Like anywhere, there will also be snags and hiccups too. To me the idea of making 'friends' somewhere such as this is principally social. The money reward is a pleasant bonus. To an extent you help each other by posting discussions that others can comment on, and therefore earn. For me the most important thing is that anyone with a problem can seek advice. They do not have to take it, but it is there for free, and often from those with the very same experiences. It's old hat, but 'A friend in need is a friend indeed'.
• New Zealand
11 Jul 10
I agree with that, "The idea of making friends somewhere such as this, is principally social." Thanks for your comments, Memnon.
• India
17 Jul 10
To tell you the truth, I have never gone looking for friends. I just jump into any discussion if I feel the discussion is interesting. And there, in the discussion, I observe all the answers. And, I keep a eye on those who give quality answers. And, if the same persons' name keeps appearing in almost all quality discussions, then I go out of my way to become friends. This is my route to choose friends on Mylot
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
12 Jul 10
I like to add mylot friends in different ways. I add people whose discussions i admire most. i also like to add newbies. Everyone deserves to feel welcome here! Happy mylotting!