Trying so hard to make someone understand how blessed and grateful they are.

@cream97 (29166)
United States
July 11, 2010 11:44am CST
Have you ever tried telling someone how blessed and grateful that they are. Have they seen your side of the story for their own eyes yet? I have been telling my mother-in-law this for many years now. I always tell her that she should learn to be more grateful. She has treated me like dirt and she has teased her own granddkids in harsh ways. I have told her that, she should stop being so mean and nasty. I have also told her that she is blessed to still be alive. Most grandmothers are not alive to be around their grand kids like they would desire to. My mom never had this chance at all. She is their only grandmother that is still alive. Why do people take life for granted? Don't they know that life is so fragile? I really feel that my mother-in-law takes her role as a mother-in-law and grandmother for granted. She just don't know how blessed that she is to still be alive an able to have a chance that others have always wished for, or never had. It would be best, if she treated me with more respect. She will be nice to me, then the next thing that I know, snotty insults come out of her mouth about me or about my kids. It is time that she start to be a better person in life.
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@moondancer (7434)
• United States
11 Jul 10
A person in my family is that way too. I have told them that they need to get pills for depression. So maybe they would stop being so negative all the time. I also told them if they did not have something good to say about my kids or anyone else then not to talk to me at all about anyone! I said this and I meant it, this person knows I did too as they stopped doing this with me. It's sad really because these type of people want to know why no one comes around or no one talks to them very much any more. I have told them why! They need to know so they can try to make changes in the way they are.
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@carmelanirel (20979)
• United States
11 Jul 10
Some people are just unteachable and doesn't want to change. My family for instance is so unteachable, that when I post the truth up about something, they come out like leeches and attack me..Just last night I blocked my nephew and may block a couple more people for their ignorance... Of course that isn't something you can do in real life. I am fortunate my family lives too far away, but for you, all I can say is try not to be around her as much as possible and make sure that you let the grandkids know that they are precious and that you love them..
• United States
11 Jul 10
Clearly she's someone who needs to learn the old addage "if you have nothing nice to say, say nothing at all" or just plain keep her thoughts to herself. Sounds like an issue at many possible angles... like a Dr Jekyel (sp?) & Mr Hyde kinda personality I have an uncle like that. He's an awful man when he's nasty wich is atleast 50% of the time.
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@Hatley (164506)
• Garden Grove, California
12 Jul 10
hi cream I just tried that with this elderly lady who has come to be our fourth tablemate. she complains without ever stopping. I told her she should be grateful to have a place to live and to be alive at our age.she just grumbled, well that's one way to look at it. She on the other hand does not like Gold Crest ,she does not like the care givers, the people here, the food, and she spends each meal telling me how awful everything is;we just finally have just kept quiet and not answered to any of her tirades.But at dinner tonight I excused myself and told her I was leaving early as my son was in my room visiting me and i did not want to miss any time with him. she really smiled and wished me a nice evening . maybe we will make a nice lady out of her yet. he he he.
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@much2say (39987)
• United States
12 Jul 10
I think some people just don't know how good they have it even if it is served to them on a silver platter. People who are constantly negative seem to be comfortable in being negative - it's like they don't know how to be any other way - and there's no telling them anything to change their ways. I tried to convince a couple friends to have a better outlook on life - but eh - they don't see it that way - and perhaps they never will. Negative people just drain us and believe me, I've been around plenty of them. I try hard these days to stay away from people like that - even if it's family . . . because take away that silver platter - they just might see how good they HAD it.
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@JOIEMARVIC (2342)
• Philippines
12 Jul 10
Sometimes it is really hard to convince people to change their points of views in life. Things that they have been accustommed doing. But when it comes to dealing with the elderly,it really seems to be a very hard task to be able to convinve them to change for the better. I love the older people, but sometimes they can really be stubborn with things in life.
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• India
12 Jul 10
Yes I always keep on saying my mother-in-law since 12 years. She always will be very harsh to all...with very loud voice.
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@sender621 (14956)
• United States
12 Jul 10
Every life is blessed whether we acknowledge it or not. Making someone else see that in themselves can be a trial. Helping someone else to see how blessed and grateful they are for what they have oin life also enriches our own lives. Take the time to help others see their rewards. You will both be blessed and grateful for it.
@celticeagle (119388)
• Boise, Idaho
12 Jul 10
i can't answer your questions. SOme people are just that way. They have experienced things in their lives that make them that way. All you can do is stay strong in your beliefs and teach your children well. I believe that you have to do well in your own little corner of the world. Keep up strict boundaries, be positive, teach your children the difference between right and wrong and be a good role model. You can't make others feel the way you do or believe what you believe.
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