Will you give up some of your friends for the one you love?

@roldango (231)
Philippines
July 12, 2010 7:00am CST
There are cases when your partner would want you to stop connection with certain friends that he/she doesnt like. This happened to me before and certainly became one of the issues in our relationship. We ended up broken and i still have my friends with me.....
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30 responses
• China
12 Jul 10
I think I am luck than you . My girl friend never interfere in my making friends . She support my any decisions . Why your lover want you to stop keeping a touch with your certain friends ? Are not they kind people ? or they have a bad habits , which will affect your life ? Do you know the reasons ?
@roldango (231)
• Philippines
13 Jul 10
I think my partner just thinks some of my friends might steal some of our time together...
• China
13 Jul 10
I think that is because she loves you so much , she wish you always stay with her . May be you should spend more time in your next girl friend .
• United States
15 Jul 10
no,i won't.especially if i've had the friendship longer because i may not stay with them in the long run. what i usually do is introduce all my friends at the beginning (as many as possible) so they know who they are,and they don't shoot them snarky looks in the future. if they don't like it,too bad.
@samaire (154)
• United States
16 Jul 10
I agree with you. My boy friend doesn't like my friends but he is trying, unfortunately he's not trying so hard. He answers their questions but at the same time he is always playing with his cell phone.It is so annoying and really impolite. If we fight at home about something, they always understand because of his behavior! I don't know what to do! He is like a big kid!
• United States
13 Jul 10
yes. i would absolutelly give up anything in this world for my boyfriend. (soon to be fiancee) i love him dearly. and he deserves all of me so if it was needed... i would absolutelly give up someone for him.
@roldango (231)
• Philippines
13 Jul 10
that is so loyal of you my friend.. hehehehe
@kristeena (358)
• Philippines
12 Jul 10
True friends are really hard to find and so is true love. But,a man or woman who truly loves you accepts everything in you and everyone you love. So, why would he/she lets you choose? If your friends really affect your relationship, maybe you can distance yourself a little and give time for your family but not totally give up on them.
@roldango (231)
• Philippines
13 Jul 10
sounds good kristeena.. tnx
@Porcospino (23300)
• Denmark
12 Jul 10
I have given up a friend for my husband. When my husband and I started dating I had a male friend who was always flirting with me. He was interested in becoming my boyfriend, he was very persistent and he often called me. My husband didn't like the way that he flirted with me and showed his interest in me, and I decided to give up the friendship, because I undersood my husbande's feelings. If it had been the other way around I wouldn't have liked it either.
@roldango (231)
• Philippines
13 Jul 10
your giving up that friendship sounds reasonable.... i would have done the same thing.....
@Andyvil (793)
• Philippines
12 Jul 10
I also experienced this before. My girlfriend before was jealous of my ex who happened to be one of my closest friends. She wanted me to stop communicating with my ex cause she was jealous of her. I told my ex about it and she was mad at me because there was nothing between us. Anyway to make the long story short. I ended up breaking up with her and asking forgiveness from my ex. That will be the last time I will give up a friend for my partner. If she can't accept my friends then she can't accept me as a person.
• Philippines
15 Jul 10
I'm choosy regarding having friends for keeps; but I'm not discriminating for some not so close friends. If ever my boyfriend tell me to give up some of my friends, well I think it's not the proper way to stop my connection with my best friends because we are friends before he came into my life; he has no right to impose his rules.
• United States
14 Jul 10
The one you love needs to understand that friends are very dear to a person and you're not much of a friend if you abandon them for the sake of what might be.
@cerebellum (3870)
• United States
13 Jul 10
I have been in relationships where my partner didn't want me to associate with certain friends. I didn't do it, I just saw her less, and it was the cause of a lot of fights. This girl was married, but was having an affair. I thought it wasn't fair to me to think that just because she does something I will also. I didn't agree with what she was doing and I wouldn't have done it. That was her not me. Anyway, she isn't having the affair any longer, and the guy is gone and she is not. I would never even cut back on time spent with friends, for a guy. If he cared about me, he should be able to accept my friends.
• India
13 Jul 10
Oh...God it's really a very tough situation.horrible..unbearable...thank God my partner is very understanding nature that i have not missed any of my friends till now. We respect our friends like he mine and me his.....
@digidon (165)
• Philippines
13 Jul 10
if they are your friends, they will understand
• India
13 Jul 10
My beloved one never forced me to break relation with my friends but it is all about how much you are able to maintain balance between these two relations. But in my personal life i have seen that after i have engaged with my boy friend many of my friends maintain a distance as being jealous and they never give up a single chance to pinch me. So i myself now maintain a distance from them and u know my boy friend is my best friend as he always inspire me to look something positive when there everything is negative.
@sinaj292 (602)
• India
13 Jul 10
i will never give up my friends for the one i love........ I actually never love one like that....... first i will leave them... i think besides leaving our good friends it is better to leave the lover first............
@verabear (797)
• Philippines
13 Jul 10
My straight out answer would be no. I think it would be a horrible thing to ask of my partner and I will definitely think badly of him if he asked this of me. Sometimes though we have to admit that time for friends sometimes isn't as much as it used to be when you're with someone, but that doesn't mean giving them up. Besides real friends would understand too. :)
@Dezzaan (80)
• Sweden
13 Jul 10
You shouldn't give up on your friends because your partner doesn't like them. As long as they respect you and your partner, doesn't try to break you up or are treating your partner bad then you shouldn't give up on them. If he doesn't like them then he can chose not to spend time with them but he should not try to force you to stop seeing them.
• United States
13 Jul 10
you might have to some times you know if you love some one and your friends are in the way then you be best letting them go for while i not saying that you need to never talk to them but just let them you have to be with your lover but if your freind what you to go out all the time with them just becuase they dont have know body in their life just let them know you thinkg about your furture becuase in the end it is al about what you want in life if they jump off a brigde would you do the same thing to no right then there your answer right their but its all up to you know so you take care until next time
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
13 Jul 10
You have to decide what is more important in your life. Friendships are important, but so is the one you love. Loving someone can bring great joy or sorrow. Friends are there to support you when you are in need. If someone really is committed to you, they would accept you for who you are. They should not ask you to give up a friend.
@jonnah91 (63)
• Philippines
13 Jul 10
I won't give up my friends just for the one I love. Only my friends, comforted me after I had left broken. They are the ones who's there with me when my boyfriend left me alone. Boys do change, but my friends won't.
@anne25penn (3310)
• Philippines
13 Jul 10
I will not choose my partner over my friends because when the going gets tough my friends will always be there for me. While partners may come and go. I have friends who I grew up with and during the most trying of times in my life, they have always been there for me. And they already know me, like sometime in May they were trying to call me and I wasn't answering. By some voodoo instinct they knew that I had a problem. They were the ones who gave me the strength to pick myself up and move on.
@lbbaby (489)
• China
13 Jul 10
Well, I don't think so. In my opinion, friend is the same important as the one I love. I think it depends. True friends will not let you in such a condition. They will know you. And the same with the one I love. I will try hard to balance my time for them.