So Much For THAT Idea....
By CatsandDogs
@CatsandDogs (13963)
United States
July 12, 2010 3:41pm CST
Hubby is out running some errands and so I took the time to call my mother's priest to tell him more of what's going on and while talking to him I got all choked up. He wanted me to explain what was going on over the phone and I tried to tell him that there's too much to tell on the phone and would like to talk to him in person to explain in better detail because I need help and guidance. Do you know what he told me? Because I was so choked up and crying, he told me to go lay down and call him back when I've calmed down because he's worried about me. WHAT? 
Then I told him that I've been a mess like this since Monday and even more so since Tuesday when I talked to mom. He told me that he was worried about me and wanted me to go lay down and clear my head and call him back. Excuse me but if the f'ing dumbazz would listen! I've been this way since MONDAY OR TUESDAY so what's laying down going to help any?! So, I'm alone in this and boy does it feel oh so good! Why don't I just commit suicide and get it over with?! Geeee! Now don't get yourself in a panic, I'm not going to do any such thing but gosh, I do wish I could though because maybe THEN I'd get some peace!! But I'd never hurt my husband and my fur babies by doing such a thing. No way. That's a selfish act but it's times like this is when I understand how a person could take their own lives. I'm in a no win situation. 
Then I told him that I've been a mess like this since Monday and even more so since Tuesday when I talked to mom. He told me that he was worried about me and wanted me to go lay down and clear my head and call him back. Excuse me but if the f'ing dumbazz would listen! I've been this way since MONDAY OR TUESDAY so what's laying down going to help any?! So, I'm alone in this and boy does it feel oh so good! Why don't I just commit suicide and get it over with?! Geeee! Now don't get yourself in a panic, I'm not going to do any such thing but gosh, I do wish I could though because maybe THEN I'd get some peace!! But I'd never hurt my husband and my fur babies by doing such a thing. No way. That's a selfish act but it's times like this is when I understand how a person could take their own lives. I'm in a no win situation. 5 people like this
6 responses
@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
13 Jul 10
Hey Leenie, hubby and I are back from mom and dad's and have been for a few hours and as soon as the 'morning' chores were done we went back to bed. I'm still exhausted but knowing I won't sleep tonight if I don't get up, I'm doing my best to stay up. I can't believe they lost their little gal. She just turned five about a week or two ago.
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@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
13 Jul 10
That's what I'm hearing about this butt end. He's not worth talking to but he did get under my skin a bit and I probably should've just skipped over him but I thought, no because if he can be down right nasty like that then damn it, I'm standing up to it because I'm not running away anymore for anybody so if he can dish it out he better be able to take it.
@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
13 Jul 10
I'm sorry about that. I guess it could have been something in the vaccine. I know they're vaccinating pets less often now for a lot of reasons. :-(
He came by one of my discussions too and made an "opinionated" comment (I'm being polite)...
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@dragon54u (31636)
• United States
13 Jul 10
I'm sure he probably just wanted to calm you down so you could talk without crying but it was a stupid way to do it. Think about it, though--priests are men who have no real world experience, no emotional attachments really, and they have no idea how to handle a REAL emotional crisis. They've been secluded and denied basic human companionship so they don't know how to handle a person who loses control of their emotions.
This man can still be useful to you, though. He may not know what to say to make you feel better but he can talk to your mom. Get yourself together so you don't challenge his ineptitude (not an insult, just a fact) and see him personally.
He's trying to help, he's just very ill-equipped to do so.
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@dragon54u (31636)
• United States
14 Jul 10
Cats, don't get too offended by #6, he or she is new and has no idea of the history behind your posting. To tell the truth, I had much the same reaction when we first became friends because I didn't know the whole story. However, I kept my mouth shut (as we learn to do as we get older) and was very glad I did as your situation is so complex. But they are right in one respect, you need to share more with your husband and listen to him. Because I'm sure he'd tell you the same thing I am--don't let your family destroy you, you don't deserve that and they can't help but do it.
Cut #6 some slack if you can, it's just an unfortunate misunderstanding.
What a shame about the dog. Maybe the dosage wasn't adjusted for her tiny little body? It's awful to lose a beloved four legged friend! 
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@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
17 Jul 10
Dragon, I took your advice to heart and did my best to smooth things over and it appears to have worked since he hasn't responded since. I'm seriously considering not posting anything more about my situation because I think it's best. It is hard to believe because it has so many avenues, twists and turns that one has to question the sincerity of what I say. Anyway, thanks for caring about my parents furry friend!
@AnnieOakley1 (5596)
• Canada
24 Jul 10
I agree wholeheartedly that the priest should have listened to you, in fact he should have invited you in to talk in person as you requested and so desperately needed. Yet, he failed you miserably, and only succeeded in hurting you further by rejection. The exact opposite to what he should have done.
I also believed that Priests are supposed to 'counsel' their constituents on a regular basis. And if they do not have the capacity nor training to do so, they are to refer them to a professional agency for that purpose, not just tell them to 'go lay down until you calm down'. That is just stupid. It is obvious you were terribly distraught and NEEDED someone to talk to. Even if he only listened, at least it would have shown someone cared. I think he is a loser.
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
13 Jul 10
hATE TO TALK ABOUT YOUR PRIEST BUT HE'S ABOUT A DORK.
. dON'T EVEN TALK THAT WAY, CATS.It's time u stood up to your parents. Have that talk & leave them alone for awhile & let them realize how much u & your husband do for them. They act like a couple of 2 year olds having a tantrum when they don't get their way. RIDICULOUS!
. dON'T EVEN TALK THAT WAY, CATS.It's time u stood up to your parents. Have that talk & leave them alone for awhile & let them realize how much u & your husband do for them. They act like a couple of 2 year olds having a tantrum when they don't get their way. RIDICULOUS!2 people like this
@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
15 Jul 10
[b]Thank you Jo. Mom and dad both are SO devastated over the loss of Sugar Plum. Mom said that both she and dad heard her at 4 o'clock this morning shaking her head flopping her big ears and a umph sound that she'd make when she needed one of them to take her out to potty. Mom thinks it was her way of telling them that she's ok. Then they had a good cry together. After I had left there, mom wanted me to call her when I got home to be sure I was safe and she told me that dad took the golf cart and went to her grave this afternoon and cried like a baby and then came inside and sat at the table and cried some more. Both mom and dad said the house is like a morgue without her around. Sugar Plum barked at just about anything and everything and the other one, Snuggles, doesn't bark nearly as much as Sugar Plum did. Plus when they'd say "Give me some love" Sugar Plum would lay her head against their chest or belly, where ever she happened to be sitting. They're really grieving over the loss of her. I'm so afraid that this is the end for them too because they're not well at all and this could take them too.
As for the 'talk'.... I doubt that'll ever happen now. I'm just so beside myself over their grief!! As they say, time heals all wounds but I doubt they'll have the time because the grief just very well may take them.[/b]
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
14 Jul 10
Sorry to hear about their puppy dog. It's just like losing a family member & know it will be hard on them. Seems like problems never stop no matter what age u get it's always something. I hope they feel better soon. U take care of yourself.
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@thumperdoll (45)
• United States
13 Jul 10
well, by what i read of your post...you need to get a grip. one your not alone, your hubby is there for you although you have chosen not to communicate with your partner. 2 a priest is not a counselor-so many people think this. they are an ear and that is all, if your ear felt that he couldn't help you because your alittle excited, then he wanted you to lay down-take deep breaths and focus. maybe you would find the answer in yourself.
@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
13 Jul 10
What hole did you crawl out of?! Till you know the WHOLE situation, butt out and mind your own damned business! Sometimes keeping things to oneself is the right way to go and this is one of those situations! I'm NOT into hurting others feelings and that INCLUDES my husband and ESPECIALLY my husband! He's a good good man and does NOT deserve to be hurt!
FYI, you obviously don't know much about religion. Priests and others of different denominations ARE counselors! They go to school to become what they are and that includes counseling! Get your facts straight before running off with the mouth! And last but not least, F__K OFF Azzhole! Keep that attitude and you won't last long here!
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@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
13 Jul 10
Hey Thumper,
This is no way to make friends here. Criticizing someone when they are obviously upsetand frustrated with a lot of things not so good happening is very thoughtless on your part. Cats has a lot of pain she's dealing with and she doesn't need yourhurtful 2 cents.
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@thumperdoll (45)
• United States
14 Jul 10
i'm pretty sure i didn't say anything hateful? just an honest opinion and in no way shape or form did i use such language as you did towards me-that is extremely hateful. why would a priest help someone with such a mouth and attitude? i'm sorry you didn't like my opinion, but that is what it was-my opinion. and if you were to tell the whole story maybe someone could help you? you came on and posted the way you did? sorry we have all been down and out in our lives but i have never insulted a priest in that manner or been so vulgar to someone that barely made a statement to me. if you take that out of contast then maybe you should seek a real therapist? again my opinion-bless you!
