what should i do cus i am in dillemma

Israel
July 12, 2010 4:49pm CST
i love her more like a best friend but i am afraid to show her that. what will i treasure most. my love for her or our friendship?
4 responses
• United States
13 Jul 10
Hold on there cowboy! Before you do anything. You need to do one thing. Date someone else. I know this sounds crazy but it has to be done. It sounds like your about 86% sure your friend wants to keep your relationship as friends only. If your not completely sure than you need to date someone else to see if she gets jealous. You don't have to lie to the new girl that you casually date. Just make it light and fun. Who knows? You might even start to like the new girl more. (I know you think that is impossible). First things first: 1) Don't lie or make up someone you are dating; she will sniff that out in a second. 2) Don't showcase the girl in front of your friend (kiss, hug, sweet talk on the phone etc.) 3) Don't talk about the girl you are dating to your friend Example: If your friend asks, "So what have you and Caren been doing lately?" Say, "ahh not much went to eat at Fridays Saturday." Say little things like that. Act casual, casual, casual about it. If your friend gets jealous, then you can say; "well I like you to be honest but I was always scared to say something cause were great friends." Then wait for her to say something. If she doesn't then she probably isn't interested. And yes. The risk is always worth it. Not because she might just fall in love with you; it's worth the risk because you will always wonder what would have been. p.s: She already knows. Act casual. Act like you don't jump up every single time your friend wants to do something. You don't have to blow your friend off, just act like you have options of things to do without naming what those options are. You can still do these things while being yourself I promise. Once in a while we have to put on different hats before we get what we want. I hope this helps. Don't forget: Casual, Cool, Calm, Collected.
• Portugal
15 Jul 10
ahah kelly thats a good advise but what if that girl accepts to be with used to make jealous to that girl and then falls in love with him? poor girl :( maybe he just better be honest with his friend and tell her ^^ im sure she wont stop to be his friend just bcs he loves her in other way. a friendship doesnt end bcs of that at least a true one^^
• Portugal
15 Jul 10
tell her how you feel^^ maybe she also loves you and also has afraid to show you how she feels^^ please tell her what you feel right now^^ is not bcs you love her more than a friend that she will stop being your friend. a friendship must not end bcs of that also if you tell her maybe she can be your gf and both be happy^^ please tell her and dont think more go be happy yuhuuuuuuuuuuu^^ wish you the besttt and that she really loves you like you love her^^
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• United States
12 Jul 10
Did you mean to say tat you like her MORE than a best friend? Like a boyfriend or girlfriend would? If so, you have to measure the pros & cons of the situation. My best advice would be let it happen naturally, and don't ruin the great friendship you have over it.
• Ghana
12 Jul 10
hi darlington! where i used to live i had a househelp who knew a guy with that same name "Darlington" what a coincidence! anways. why are you afriad to show her that you like her just as a friend? does she like as more than a friend? if she doesnt seem to like you as more than i friend then you should treasure your friendship more.