Best friend has spread a false rumor about me!

United States
July 12, 2010 7:06pm CST
I don't know why he has and I don't like it! Trying to talk to him will make things worse because he'll deny it or say nothing is wrong! Well that is not nice and I am hurt! The rumor going around is I dated a guy I and my best friend worked with at one time! It is totally false! I can't stand the guy! The guy is immature,irresponsible,extremely annoying and clueless to most things in life! He is a loser and I want to get back at my friend for doing this! It is uncalled for and I know I have not done anything to pissed my best friend off! I am getting sick of telling people this never happen! I want revenge! Advice?
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21 responses
• United States
13 Jul 10
First stop calling this A$$hole your best friend . No real best friend would Ever do this to you. Then stop all contact with him , I mean have his email blocked and lose his cell number.then think about a secret he told you and tell Everyone. And I mean Everyone! Then when he tries to contact you , ignore him.
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• United States
22 Jul 10
That is kind of hard to do! He happens to be one of my work supervisors! I don't call or refer to him as my best friend anymore! Right now I am ignoring him and only talking to him,about work,when I have to! I still want revenge and I have dirt on him! He'll apologize for that false rumor he started when I spread a rumor around on him that I only know! I am so sick of being used I might do revenge from now on when it happens!
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• United States
22 Jul 10
That's the ticket. Don't get mad , get even. But I suggest that you spread something that doesn't point to you. If he is your boss , I don't want you to get fired over all this bullsh!t. Oops. Forgive me , I swear when I am pi$$ed off. Lack of respect pi$$es me off.
@sid556 (31018)
• United States
13 Jul 10
Hi Blue, Can't imagine a good friend doing this to you but I really don't think revenge will in the long run make you feel better. I think the best thing to do would be to tell these people just what you have said here....the truth. In the end that will be your sweet revenge. She will be exposed for the liar that she is as well as being a bad friend. It's natural revenge.....the truth. Also, you may want to re-think this friendship. She doesn't sound like a very nice person. How does this guy feel about the rumors?
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• United States
21 Jul 10
My best friend is a man and I have know him 17 years. I have no idea why he started the rumor! I did tell the guys who had heard it that it was all a bunch of lies! They believed me and promised not to mention the guys name again! The guy who I supposely dated has no idea this is going on! I have not seen him in a very long time! I don't care to talk to him! The person I need to talk to is my best friend! Once I come up with the right way to do it I will! Maybe I should start a nasty rumor about him!
@Memnon (2173)
13 Jul 10
Not good. What is wrong with people? I wonder what made him do this, since you have not hacked him off. Some clueless type of jealousy? If he won't own up now chances are he will not later. Revenge? I can understand that. It probably would be quite easy too; but what would you gain by it? Easy for me to say, sat behind my keyboard, but chalk it up to experience. You are already one up on him since you now know he can't really be trusted. There is a saying... "Keep your friends close, and your enemies closer still." If you fall out with him he is most likely to make it his business to slate you to everyone anyway. Keep him thinking that everything is OK and you will probably minimise the damage. If, later, you still want to get your own back, do so when you are not upset about it. He will have forgotten, and won't see it coming. Try to be cool for the moment. Other friends will respect you more for it. T/C.
• United States
21 Jul 10
I have been trying to take this easy! Believe me at times it has not been easy! I have thought of talking to him and ask him why he did this! Your idea sounds better! Maybe I will let this slide and maybe things will be better!
@Memnon (2173)
21 Jul 10
Easier said than done I know. Think this every time you are tempted to find an answer that you will not get.... He's a plank. He's an even bigger plank to believe that you will fall for his crap. You have the satisfaction of knowing that you cannot trust him.
• India
13 Jul 10
some time collect proof and eyewitness regarding his statement ,then speak to him politely and firmly ,tell him that you do not like these things ,perhaps things will get sorted
• United States
22 Jul 10
Right now I am not collected and calm! I am ready for revenge! I not letting this so called friend off the hook that easily! I don't like being used and I plan on a rumor I know that I only know about on him! Then I will see how he loves those apples! Two can play at this game!
• United States
13 Jul 10
will you could put him on sarectaics and sared the hell out who ever liyng on you know but dont let get you mad because everone is going to think it true you know thats how it is some times it is hard to kkep things to self even thoguht you didnt do any thing if you show them that your mad they will belive your friend you know and thats why you should find a tv show and get him back that or her back that way just think on a way how you can get them on cm,area and then put it on youtube you know thats idea but you take care
• United States
22 Jul 10
The people who really thought this rumor was turn I told them the whole lonhg story on why it wasn't true! I even went to another person if he had heard and if he did it wasn't true! I want revenge and I would of never thought of Youtube! great idea! I just might do that!
@jonnah91 (63)
• Philippines
13 Jul 10
Take on to the process. You should know first the truth before confronting anyone else. It's the safest thing to do. You shouldn't waste your time on that person whom you consider best friend from the start. Make the best decision out of it and be guided.
• United States
22 Jul 10
He isn't my best friend anymore and I am ignoring him! I will get him back! I will be spreading a rumor on him in the near future on some dirt I know he only knows I know! At first I wasn't going to do anything but now I want to! I am sick and tired of being used!
• Philippines
13 Jul 10
hi dear!..we both wear the same shoes, however, I just ignore her because giving my attention to her simplifies that I was affected. Rumors will gradually die if you ignore it. Show yourself to the other people that what was spread by your best friend were all false and unsubstantial. Do not allow yourself to be controlled by his false judgment instead hold his neck tightly by smiling and ignoring him. The best way to put your enemy into shame is our act of kindness.
• United States
21 Jul 10
The past week I have been ignoring him! I also have been explaining to others who heard this rumor that it was all lies! He has been off the last two days and I have not seen him since last friday. Maybe I could use the over kindness thing! I might do that!
@ElicBxn (60069)
• United States
13 Jul 10
When they ask, tell them he's covering up for actually dating the guy himself...
• United States
21 Jul 10
I like that idea better then the one I got put down for revenge! That would be a great way to get him back!
• Australia
13 Jul 10
Hi Blue, I too am having problems with my best friend but not like your problem. I think maybe this guy is not as good a friend as what you think because friends let alone best friends don't tell lies behind each others backs. My friend and I may not be getting along too well at the moment but we are still friends and neither of us would ever say lies about the other. I would suggest that if you are really serious about getting revenge that you don't think of him as a friend anymore so maybe you could wait awhile and then do the same thing to him. Remember that revenge is a dish best served cold. Good luck.
• United States
21 Jul 10
Nice to know I am not the only one going through this at this time! When i think about revenge I think I am doing this right now! My best friend doesn't even know about Mylot and that I am doing this! I would call this revenge in away? Wouldn't you?
@patots (1)
• Philippines
13 Jul 10
i can't imagine how your good friend do this to you... what is the real score behind... you trust him but he betrayed you...but i think revenge was not good way of getting back...try to be patience... look for other way to talk to him maybe that guy was afraid of what he's doing....stay close to your friend and forgive that guy if he try to aks for forgivenesss...
• United States
21 Jul 10
For the life of me I have no idea why he did this! If he did it as a joke I don't know but it has not been fun! I had to tell others who heard the rumor the truth and the rumor was a flat out lie! That was hard to do and even told my other friends not to mention the person's name I suppossely dated! When the time is right I will talk to my best friend! I will not let him off in the long run!
@maiaman (97)
• Philippines
13 Jul 10
If I were in your position and I am most certain that my friend was the one who spread the rumor I will confront my friend and tell him exactly what I feel. I will tell him, even if he denies it, that I don't like what he did and it hurts me a lot. I will let him know how I feel about the other guy. Maybe your friend is gay and is jealous or whatever. Or maybe your guy friend actually likes you and he just wants to hear from you what you feel about this other guy. No matter what the reason is you still have to let him know how you feel and that you want him to understand that. If he still wants to be you friend then he must fix the damage that has been done and apologize to you for hurting you. Otherwise it maybe better to cut the ties of your friendship for good because it is not the right way to treat a friend.
• United States
21 Jul 10
First off I am a straight woman if you have not figured that out by now! My best friend is not gay! He is not jealous of me! He is married with 3 kids for goodness shake! I have known him 17 years! I know he isn't gay! Right now I have no plans to talk to him. maybe I will confront him soon! I still an pretty pissed off at him!
@Angelgirl16 (2177)
• United States
13 Jul 10
Hi, Best friends never want to hurt or humiliate or lie on, each other. I am wondering if you are the only one of two who thinks that you are best friends. That being said, I would have no other choice but to ask my best friend why he felt the need to do this. If you are sure, without doubt that he did this, you must, tactfully approach the issue. Then, depending on his answer and if you accept his apology, you can decide if you are still best friends. Could you trust him not to do it again????? Take care
• United States
21 Jul 10
My best friend is a guy and I am a woman. I know his best friend is a guy he has known from childhood. It really doesn't bug me that I am not his best friend. Maybe someday I will talk to him about this! Right now I plan to let it slide and see what happens. I don't know if I could ever trust him again for what he did!
• United States
15 Jul 10
you sure the loser guy isn't the one doing the spreading?(or at least some of it) i've had that happen to me when i wouldn't date this jerk and i wanted to punch the guy in the face.
• United States
14 Jul 10
If this "friend" of yours is maliciously spreading false rumors about you; and you want to "get back" at your "friend," you two are not really friends. Friends don't act this way with each other. Friends should be able to discuss the situation so both will know the truth and can deal with it.
@jlamela (4909)
• Philippines
14 Jul 10
Try to defend yourself against those rumors and as much as possible avoid your friend but don't show it obviously, you must distance yourself from this friend. Do not think of any revenge because it is a sign of weaknesses, just try to prove yourself worthy to others anyway the truth will prevail in the end. Personally, I also encountered this type of situation before so what I did is wrote a long article about the incident and presenting my version and put it on my blog site and let my friends read about it, in the end my friends finally understood my side. Writing is the most artistic way of taking revenge.lol!
• United States
13 Jul 10
you say nothing to the friend and when they come and ask you want is wrong and i hope it is in the room full of people that was listening to the rumor and blow up in her faces so everyone can here it and then they will know it was fault but there is no reason to hurt the guys feelings men have feeling to belive it or not
@LucasDM (38)
• Brazil
13 Jul 10
well, I think he is not your best friend at all. Get over it an move on.
@maximax8 (27048)
13 Jul 10
I think that your best friend has been very nasty spreading a false rumor about you. When I was working in an office my friend thought that I liked a particular guy that I didn't fancy at all. I would have been very upset if she had spread false rumors about me and him dating. We didn't date but we did have to work as part of a team. I suggest that you keep your eye on your best friend and make sure that they tell the truth in the future. I don't think getting revenge would be the right thing for you to do. If you did that your best friend might say something even worse. Good luck.
• United States
13 Jul 10
Is there a possibility that your best friend is innocent and the one really spreading the rumor is the guy that you were suppose to date? You really need to ask your friend about this and see the reaction that you get from him. In the mean time if you are asked about this tell the truth. If your friend really started the rumor then you need to realize that as much as you like this person he is not your best friend, end of subject. For a friend, and especially a best friend, would never do this to a friend.
@ifa225 (11098)
• Indonesia
13 Jul 10
whoaa...i guess u should make press conference so everyone know that that is only rumor