How to Strengthen Relationships at work?

India
July 12, 2010 7:29pm CST
While immersed in the squabbles and stresses of the typical workday, we sometimes become so focused on our differences that it's hard to believe we have anything at all in common. Conflict in the workplace is likely to last longer, it’s difficult to be more intense to resolve if the people in conflict barely know each other. Learning about each other helps people not only strengthens relationships but also transform negative relationships into positive ones, I tried this with some of my the peoples I work with, it worked in some cases but not in all. It becomes difficult to work together on same agenda if there is a conflict which is just going on most of the time. Everyone understands the problem and perhaps the solution as well; does not know what are the things that stop us to understand others which help no one and end result is not acceptable to anyone. Ideas/suggestions as to how we build relation with the co-worker which can help us to work towards a common agenda which helps organization and the one working on it?
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@p3ks626 (6552)
• Philippines
13 Jul 10
One of the things that we can do to strengthen relationships at work, is through being ourselves. We dont need to pretend for people to accept us. I think that's the reason why I am not having a very good relationship with people here in my workplace because they were plastic to me and I discovered they were talking behind my back, so I dont have any reasons to deal with them anymore.
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• India
14 Jul 10
Being ourself at work is difficult for me. All the peoplr around us are not as good as we expect or may be close to that so if I am myself at work, that would be a very silent person and not talking much about anything , just to the point, this will not help much. We know that peoples are not good and same time we have to work, there is no choice, so in that case have to pretend. Thank You for sharing.
• India
13 Jul 10
As for any machinery to run smoothly its moving components must have a layer of lubricants likewise, the working environment too is like moving machinery. As in machinery, the bearing surfaces should match; there ought to be no rough and tough edges; likewise, in a working environment there ought to be no rough and tough edges in temperaments. It is equally important to build up a cordial relationship. At workplaces, there is a general tendency to prove one more efficient than others. Then there are know all types. They want to cut others in size to show they are taller than others do. Some want to curry-favor the bosses to remain in good books with them. Those who work alone cannot help. Much depends on the boss to build a healthier environment.
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• India
14 Jul 10
This is a perfect example and if everyone working with me get to understand there will be no problem for sure. There is no visible issues as such but the who is working from long can smell that things are not on track. As you said there are people who want to be always known as the hero and they do bad things to down others reputation. Thank you for sharing.
• United States
13 Jul 10
how to strengthen relation ships at work is to learn whats on that person mind becuase it is very hard to work where you hate it you know i try so many times to work in palce weird i can be friends but best thing learn to do is make life a little better you know is try to agree with the what that person is talking about you know becuase it suck sometimes and i dont know why it like that but hell who knows about ever day work problems i bet your boss dont have know problems you know if you work with mean clinets all day then it very hard to have that problem and cant work with your strengthen relationships at work so you take care hope it work all out for the best and the furture to
• India
14 Jul 10
Good suggestion but its not always that you can agree to everything, may be what they say is true but not always. They think that I do not support them , its like support 1 and others are not happy as I did not agree to them. Its not possible to agree to all when they all have different opinions. Seems that they do not want to co-operate at all. Thank you for sharing.
@kristeena (358)
• Philippines
13 Jul 10
There are ways that some companies are implementing to strengthen relationships at work. Team-building activities, seminars and meetings can be a big help to erase the borderline between the people in the working area. This also lessens the stress and can create a worry-free environment at work.
• India
14 Jul 10
Yeh, there are team building and other trainings but they work only if peoples are really interested to learn and follow the things. Thank You for sharing.
@vandana7 (57466)
• India
13 Jul 10
Hi Ajay, education level of the person with whom you are trying to develop and the nature and social situation also make a difference! Out here, I tried four different work environments, what worked in one didnt work in another!!! So it depends upon other factors. You need to observe then. As to my life - I was unmarried and therefore, without any liabilities. I had a colleague, who was married to a drunkard, who didnt work. My colleague had a daughter. After I crossed 40 - a regular remark was - since you dont have children why dont you adopt mine! It was very annoying - more so because my colleague had that nagging nature which I didnt particularly approve of. Another colleague of mine was married to a boy who worked. Both were earning well, but she got a baby girl. Now, baby girl in our community is a bit expensive affair. Dowry problems you know. :) So she wanted to try for a second child. She happily offered her daughter to me - you dont have children, you will know what it is to have one, take mine - I too can try for a male progeny. When I refused I was labeled as a selfish person. I think that was silly. There are so many people in orphanages who dont have either parent, if I can take on that responsibility (I already have my parent's responsibility), I would go to orphanages, isn't it? :) After a couple of hundred times, I did turn towards the drunkard's wife, and tell her, well, if your daughter was good looking enough I would have done it. I felt they were infringing my rights. A boy gets to refuse a girl in arranged marriage, even when she brings in dowry, why should I not have that right! Anyway, it was a bit below belt because I was the more mature and more educated and more secure person. I do regret that.
• India
14 Jul 10
This is correct Vandana that we need to deal differently with different peoples all can not be happy with the same actions but there should be something common which all can like and work towards a common agenda, that is what I am trying to do. I have done arranged marriage and believe that both the parties, boy and the girl should be given equal chance to present their point and only if they agree a go ahead should be given. Arramnged marriage does not mean doing things forcefully, if girl does not like boy, so simple just decline. Thanks Vandana for sharing.
@smartie0317 (1612)
• United States
13 Jul 10
Sometimes, it can be really hard to get along with coworkers. One idea could be to bring in something, like say a cake (which can be really cheap if you make it at home), and share it with cowokers. Another idea is a potluck where everyone brings in something. Sharing food can help people bond, when you do a potluck, everyone brings something in.
• India
14 Jul 10
We get cake only when there is a birthday or anniversary but this is a good idea to get cake other then these occasions as well. This would be really good if people can co-operate so easily. Thank you for sharing.