My problem is my cousin doesn't have any problem

ANOTHER example of how we DON'T know how to educate. Going to parties and being promiscuous with men is not something we can control because it's FORBIDDEN. When will we learn how to EDUCATE in THAT direction so that it won't be tempting at all. We have soooo much to learn. I don't know what to do about your cousin. It will take us thousands of years for us to learn how to educate. Would you like me to talk to your cousin ?

Seventeen is a very young age. It is normal to have no problems at this age and be happy because you don't have what to worry about. I suppose her parents give her pocket money and so on. If she hadn't the money I think she will start to think how to make money. And to make money you need to learn and go to school. In most cases education is to blame. Drastic measures work very well in such cases, but the parents must be aware of that. Teenagers are difficult persons in general. If they don't have a guide or an idol in life they are lost. Take care!

Hi Marie... These days the young kids tend to be like that... They are happy with non-creative life... They indulge in things and feel that they have won everything and experienced all the pain... But later, they understand that their pain in the teens was nothing... The real life starts when one starts working for money... And that is when one understands what is pain.. I advise to control your cousin by some means... Of course, there should be a way out of it... Let us save a kid from getting spoiled...

I wonder if she parties like that because deep inside she isn't so happy. But perhaps she really is. However, if she keeps this up, she won't be happy long. One doesn't live like that forever and escape without repercussions.

That is dagerous for her , if she still keep this life . Why not try to learn what is her thoughts and what is her want . If you find out her thoughts , therefore you can help her to solve her complicated problem . So I think the first important thing is to learn her heart .

She's happy now, but I think she'll regret when she grows older.

I understand your concern,but really this is her mother and fathers problem.I wouldn't let yourself get all frustrated and down because of what she has become,or what has became of her life. If she really wants it she will go and get it.I'm sorry but I firmly believe that you cannot help someone who doesn't want help.Sometimes it takes for that person to hit rock bottum before they even realize what they are doing has got to stop.Also her parents need to stop supplying her with money,then she will not have money to go and party every night.She will be forced to get a job..

I can't image my life without goal or dream need to be accomplished by myself.It is too horrible that I have nothing pride that I can flaunt to my grandchildren when I have been old. My goal always brings me energy and helps me to get rid of sense of emptiness. You cousin is still in her rebel period of time and have no correct philosophy,preaching from others maybe doesn't take any effect on her now.I believe she will soon realize that she is just wasting time along with her mature.Although she is wealthy,that does't mean what she has had is won by her own efforts.And I turst that a person with a bad habit on estate will result in failure in the future regardless of his or her richness previously.Whether you are rich or not,postive attitude is the most paramount factor.

It's normal to worry about her, cause she's a family. Maybe she's just enjoying her life to the fullest or in her case enjoying it too much. Apparently you've already identified the problem, cause the way your cousin is living her life affects other factors that is important (supposed to be) to her like her EDUCATION. But if her parents can't control her anymore what else could you do about it. If I may asked, is she disturbing or bothering you in a way that causes you any harm or your just worried for her sake? Cause the way I see it, in order for her to behave you and her family must seek professional help. Maybe they could give answers to your cousin's condition and most probably they could help her get back on track and find her goals in life. They could also make your cousin realize that their is a problem and help her identify it and come up with some solutions. If your cousin won't participate then your efforts to help her won't be as successful as you wanted it to be. Godbless.

If her parents can no longer control her, then it means that you cannot stop her either. Your worries will be useless. She is not your responsibility. After all, everybody has given her advices on how she should live her life. It is now up to her how she carry her life. Experience is the best teacher. Let her realize by herself that life is not what she is thinking. When the time comes that she finally open her eyes, she will heartily change her life. If ever she fails, she could not blame any one but herself. Then make her feel that she always has a family to turn to when everything went wrong.

just let her be and she will learn her lessons in time. all you can do is pray for her that she will realize that she must change her outlook in life before everything will be late.

well i dont know you should try to talk with her and tell her to dont leave school so soon :( she is only 17 and studies are also important to find a good job. she cant party always is good that she party and meet guys but she is just 17 i mean she cant party everyday she needs also some responsabilities in her life or how can she live on her own one day? i mean live independent. you are sweet worrying with her and try to talk with her and with your uncle and your aunt they have to do something^^

I know you're only a concerned cousin and I think I would also feel that way should my cousin be like yours. But you're right, she's only seventeen. She's very young and she has every option what to do with her life right now. As much as you would like to help her, I don't think stopping her from what she's doing is the way to go. I think she would feel offended if that would be your way of caring. I suggest you just let her do what wants to do. Experience is the best teacher right? Let her experience pain and failure. I believe only through experiencing them will she be able to learn what she's missing and what she should do with her life. =)

I think you already did your part. Its up to her if she will listen or not. Let her realize her own fault, how she wated here life. There is nothing you can do about this for she is wealthy. I think should pray to God now and help you to help her change, for only God can change her.

Maybe you can discuss with her and tell her the truth about her bad life.I believe one day she will wake up from her dream.I hope you do not give up and always give her a warning because i scared she will get bad implication if people ignore her attitude.

I think you can't stop her, even her parents couldn't. People with this kind of attitude is not easy to deal with. The more you reprimand them, the more they become rebellious. They do not listen to you at all. I know how you feel because i have also a friend with the same situation.