Which life do you prefer?

United Arab Emirates
July 13, 2010 10:18am CST
Do you prefer the life before marriage or after marriage? Assuming that you have been married to the same person. I have been married and I would prefer the life before marriage. We used to meet a few times in a week and we were ready to sacrifice anything for each other. This has been reduced now.
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@p3ks626 (6552)
• Philippines
13 Jul 10
I think that is expected after marriage. I also like the life before marriage because everything seems so fine but that changed now. My sister is not married yet and I already told her in advance that changes are expected right after marriage. Its just sad but they are so true.
• Bangladesh
13 Jul 10
I don't know why everybody thinks like you think. But most probably after marriage people get bored with responsibilities after a certain time. we have a proverb in our language...if I translate it then it'll say that.."when needs or desires comes to your door, then love escapes through window". likewise after marriage we face so much burdens that to love someone becomes a burden. I can't understand why things are so complicated after marriage, why it can't just be as same as before.
@jose431 (164)
• India
2 Aug 10
I have never been married,so I don't have any prefer for that.But some of my friends told me that they can enjoy their life before married and they used to get freedom,some told me that they enjoy their life after married because they know about real life..
• Portugal
15 Jul 10
i feel sorry for it :( maybe now that you guys are married you are more busy or something :( anyway you guys must work and try to make things like before^^ remember you guys are together like before right? only thing that changed is that you guys are married now but your love continues the same or even more strong now^^ please care for each other, love each other much, go on dates again to places that both love^^ just fight for it^^
• Canada
15 Jul 10
I would have to say life before marriage. Being young and having no responsibilities and no kids is so much easier than the married life. Being around somebody every single day can sometimes get irritating. No matter how much you love the person you will end up fighting. I like the life before marriage because you are grateful for every moment you have with the person you love. You get to experience so many different emotions from being with them, and then missing them.
@_Honey_ (781)
• Philippines
15 Jul 10
Hi Edward, I feel sorry for what you feel. Probably you have to talk it over with your wife. I'm not yet married so I wouldn't know how it's going to be by the time we get married. But I would hope that by the time it happens, I would still choose my life after marriage. In case things don't go well, I would try my best to work things out and remember we fell in love so deeply in the first place.
@pastigger (618)
• United States
14 Jul 10
I prefer after marriage. I feel like together we are making a life. We have more stabality and a wonderful daughter now. Yes the comfort level has set it but I like it. I like the fact that we are a family and have commited to that and our daughter. So I am happier now. I don't mind having joint responsiblilites with my husband. I like that the house we live in is our home that we picked together as a married couple. I have been married since I was 19 and yeah we have had our good times, our bad times, and the time we thought that it was over but I still prefer after married. My husband was there to stand up for me when our daughter was in the NICU after she was born he was my rock then and I think it would have been different if we just would have been having a baby together and not married and commited to each other.
• Bangladesh
13 Jul 10
I have never been married so I don't know how it feels but I saw my friends and relatives who are married already...they also think it's good to have a life before marriage. Now I'm 21 and I have lots of dreams with my married life. I have no bf so all my emotions are preserved for my husband. So I hope and pray to God that please give me such a life after my marriage that I will wish to have again and again in my another life. Amen.
• United States
13 Jul 10
Marriage somehow always changes the relationship and I understand exactly how you feel. It seems like the responsibilites OF marriage.. put more of a strain on the relationship than just casual dating. Once you marry someone, things get split down the middle... that person becomes a part of you. I felt like me and my husband were closer before we got married and I really wished we would've waited longer until we did. We had planned to get married 7/7/07 as our lucky date... but we didn't get married until October of that year. We've been through the wringer and back and now we've been separated for a long time. I still love him, but somehow I think that through all of the changes.. it not only changed our marriage and our relationship.. but it changed us as people.
@jkar1234 (147)
• India
13 Jul 10
I have not married yet so i cannot say anything about life after marriage but i am enjoying my life before marriage. I have a girlfriend and we both love each other. we meet almost daily and spend our evenings together. Things do change with time but i wish that our love grows more with time.
@LadyMarissa (12165)
• United States
13 Jul 10
I've been married twice. With the first, I preferred before marriage. With the last, I preferred after marriage. Sadly, married people sometimes take each other for granted. Their life becomes so busy, they lose site of the love & respect each deserves. It takes WORK to keep a happy marriage!!!