Is it normal to a girl older than 30 not married?

@llbo1981 (1242)
China
July 13, 2010 10:21am CST
In old times,people think that girls older than 30 years old should marry with someone.Or else,the girl is not normal.Maybe they think the girl has some defects on body or on thought. In modern times,so many girls not married older than 30 years old.Do you think it is normal for the phenomenon?What is your opinion?
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@Torunn (2810)
• Norway
14 Jul 10
I think it's quite normal for both men and women over 30 not to be married. (I also think it is quite normal for women over 30 not to be called girls, at least I don't really consider myself a girl anymore :-) And I've got no plans of marrying either *he he* Too much hassle) Idon't think anyone wonders about why they're not married anymore, that's sounds a bit like the 60's to me, like the generation of my parents. (they never married either, but that's another story ) I imagine there might be different opinions about this in different countries, but in my opinion it is quite stupid to think that it must be something wrong with someone just because they're not married :-)
• Bangladesh
14 Jul 10
I don't think it's bad for a woman over 30 not to marry but I always want to consider myself as a girl. I'm happy that God sent me this world as a girl, it really feels good to consider me as a loving, caring daughter, lover, wife and mother. Though I'm only 21 and not married but want to marry before 30. I guess 23-25 is the best age for a girl to marry but no offence who don't want to marry between this age and over. Just want to experience the life after marriage, wanna be a caring wife and a loving mother. That's all. And I think after 30, most of the time it's kinda difficult to give birth of child and take good care of him. Because when he/she would be their young age, you are already old then. Really confusing. Actually we all should do whatever we think perfect and feel comfortable. Age doesn't matter all time except some specific situation.
@Torunn (2810)
• Norway
15 Jul 10
Yes, age doesn't matter, and when the best time to marry is depends on the bride and groom, not on society in my opinion. It's not a question about biology and whether you can have children or not, some people marry but have no plans to have children. I also can see no reason to marry before you have children, except that you get less paperwork after the child is born :-) ('cause here you have to sign a paper about who's the father if you're not married, kind of stupid, as everybody knows that marriage doesn't guarantee that the husband is the father) And of course nature has set some limits on when you can get children (mainly for women) I don't think it's a problem with parents over 30. Both my parents were over 30, and I never thought about them as old. As a child I found it great that I could boast more of what my parents had done than the ones in my class with really young parents :-) I'm not sure whether it's always healthy when women do everything they can to have a baby when they're in their fifties, but on the other hand those babies will be wanted and loved and there's enough unwanted babies around the world.
• Bangladesh
14 Jul 10
I can't say about other countries but In our country it was a serious fault not to marry for 30 years old woman. She was treated like a criminal. Everybody though that she must be characterless or have physical or mental sickness. Everybody blamed her family too but now many things have been changed. Women are studying, working outside home, they are more active than before. Our mentality also has been changed. Before we thought that women are just for giving birth of children and managing family but now they are working beside a man. So women in this society are busy and they want to lead their life of their own. They don't want domination. So it's quite easy for them not to marry. But still here is some restrictions. Parents and relatives always want to see their daughter to be married and have a happy family with their husband...so they request then to marry but can't force because now a days women are more conscious about their rights. Marriage is our personal choice. If I don't feel to marry someone, then age doesn't matter. But I think it is good to marry before 30 if you want to be a mother without any problem because it is true that after 30 it is really not secure to be a mother and sometimes it is harmful for your child too.
@Angelgirl16 (2177)
• United States
14 Jul 10
Hi, In the old days, girls were expected to marry and have babies because there was nothing else society offered them. However, the world has changed, thank God, offering a whole world of possibilities for women who don't think marriage and having babies are for them at all or they put them off for later in life without people judging them or thinking something is wrong with them physically or mentally. Freedom of choice is what we are given and that is a good thing.
@kakunuri (11)
• India
14 Jul 10
Yeah, Now people have there own targets that they want to reach, In olden days ladies use to be House wife..... That got changed now, they are working hard to reach there targets... and earning well and have thoughts of getting a hubby who meets there ideas... I think these all factors are effecting of getting married in 30's or 40's and also human perception now a days got changed accordingly
@ET28LV (1895)
• Latvia
14 Jul 10
Hello! I think that there is nothing bad in nowadays is situations that real seniors is marry. Yes earlier women's was married after they reach majority. My mother too was married when she had 18 years old. I have read in other countries law allow to marry when you are 16 years old. I am interested in Indians traditions, because I have heard that when kids are small like boy and girl then they are selected together with family's and when they grew up they can marry only selected girl. I am not sure If this is true. Take care, Have a nice day!
• United States
14 Jul 10
The question should be how many females more then 30 years old that are not married?
@echomonster (2228)
• Greenwood, Mississippi
13 Jul 10
I think it's quite common now so of course it's normal. I'd much rather see more people not married than forced to marry and being stuck in unhappy marriages. True, some of the over 30s are unhappily single, but at least they have the freedom to continue looking for their right mate. Some may also never want to marry -- we should respect this choice, too. It's not like there's much danger of the human race dying out in the near future...I don't think it's really other people's business whether a woman of a certain age is married or not!
• United States
13 Jul 10
im 41 and not married? of course not by choice-because of society. im very much in love, have a beautiful family and even grandchildren. my family excepts me, my peers except me, my co-workers love me, lol. but yes the life of a lesbian in this world doesn't allow marriages. but society will not stop my happiness or my families happiness. life goes on....
@jayen28 (84)
13 Jul 10
Now a days that we consider a cyber years and women are impowered to choose all carer they want to be, For me is not issue the aged of the woman when they want to settle down. The important is, if they are ready and they find the right man that they wanted to rest of their life. even though the women are older than 30 or young than 18 it doesn't matter.It's for my opinion. GOD BLESS!
@lacieice (2065)
• United States
13 Jul 10
Hi llbo Of couse it's normal. Many women, and men as well, put off marriage until later in life for one reason or another. In older times, a woman of 30 who wasn't married was considered an old maid with the possibility of marriage over. That is no longer true. Many women want to establish themselves in their work berfore they start a family. Many men do, too, and there could be many other reasons why they haven't married. Maybe they just haven't found the "right" person yet.