Matter in regards with your family…

Philippines
July 14, 2010 3:47am CST
Is it my obligation to my brother to do transactions regarding his very personal matter? I am ready to help but I guess I should put some limitation… What do you think friends? Thanks….
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@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
14 Jul 10
I don't think i want to really answer you on this. You have your own life. You cannot hold your brother's hand, you know. TATA.
• Philippines
14 Jul 10
you are right my B Sometimes I should stay out of it I have a life of my own too
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
14 Jul 10
Now you are getting there my dear Prime.
• Philippines
14 Jul 10
yes and I am happy, and do you know who taught me about that?
@Hatley (164756)
• Garden Grove, California
15 Jul 10
prime hi again.well yes you are your brother's keeper but only to so far. He does have to eventually stand on his own two feet. You have a life too ,and if I remember right you have a love of your own too on my lot if I am not mistaken. Guide your brother but let him do his own footwork and pay some' attention to your own life and love too.Good luck to you and to your brother too.
• Philippines
15 Jul 10
oh thank you hatley for this very kind message from you... and yes, you really have very good memory, i have a very special someone here, the only love of my life.... mylot for always....
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
15 Jul 10
Hatley sweetie, don't you just love it when my dear Prime blush like that? Hello Prime.
• Philippines
15 Jul 10
hmmmmmmnnnnn hello my angel.... I really miss you, don't you know that? Hi hatley, she is finally here
• United States
14 Jul 10
It all depends on the task and your brother. If your brother is the type of guy who doesn't mind you asking to help him , then help him. But.. if he is like me, and he wants to to things his own way , alone. then just step back and let him do it. Be there if he asks for help but don't push.
• Philippines
15 Jul 10
oh, that is a brilliant idea sarah. thank you so much, I would take that opinion....
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• United States
15 Jul 10
You are so welcome. I hope everything works out ok.
• Philippines
16 Jul 10
that is very nice sarah.... thank you again.... I guess I already fix it...
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@SomeCowgirl (32271)
• United States
20 Jul 10
There are some things family should do for one another but if it makes one or both parties feel awkward, then that thing should be done alone, or another person should help. I feel like you should just let your brother know that maybe it's not a good idea to help him in his personal matters, if you don't feel comfortable with it.
• Philippines
20 Jul 10
thank you for this thoughtful response my friend yes I agree with that now somehow, he should solve it by himself... it is not neglecting him in any way.... it is just letting him to work out in order for him to learn from the thing we had been through at this moment.... God bless friend....
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@SomeCowgirl (32271)
• United States
20 Jul 10
Yes if it is a learning experience for him all the better. Glad to know you are not burdened with the worry of this any longer. Glad to see you here mylotting and hope to catch up with you more.
• Philippines
20 Jul 10
yes I just able to manage myself friend and he is a good brother anyway we just argue in some matters and I just want him to stay on his own... speically in terms of his own family.... and I would be here sure.... more talks hehehehehe
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• Philippines
17 Jul 10
prime it is very normal to us to help our brother and sister in time they need our help..the member of family first who will be the one who call for help before getting into other..but we have to put it up with a limitation..sometimes we have to neglect for call of help, to let it them do it for there self when we know that they can..we have to put a limitation to aware to depend on us every time they are in trouble..we have to do this to stand for there own problem and to learn to fight with it and to solve for there own problem..do this for there own good..
• Philippines
17 Jul 10
you are really my great adviser cherwin thank you so much for this nice opinion I should take this God bless and happy mylotting
@babyEj (1525)
• Philippines
15 Jul 10
You are right that you must put limitation. I have a brother , just a year younger than me but he's too immature. When he got some problem I tried to talk to him and give him suggestions. Letting them think in their ways may teach them how to become independent.
• Philippines
15 Jul 10
that is true friend... let them stand with there own somehow... thanks for this nice response.... mylot for always
@marguicha (90259)
• Chile
14 Jul 10
I think brothers and sisters should help each other but there are limits and every situation is different. If I had a brother who is either very sick or mentally ill, I feel I should help him a lot. But if he leans on me just because it is easier, I would set limits for his own sake. People have to grow and we must let them grow. I just answered a post from one of my friends. She was irate with a 64 year old man who came to see his very elderly parents and let them rake leaves and do the garden while he was inside resting. The man is not ill: he is spoiled. I say that because I just had notice that he was leaving his parents house to go hunting. If he can hunt, so he can help, I imagine. Help a bit but live your life. And set limitations. Luck!!!
• Philippines
15 Jul 10
What can I say? This is all I wanted to get from this topic friend... how is your arm now? mylot for always....
@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
14 Jul 10
Erm, maybe you can try to guide him from afar? Or give suggestions, ideas and advices. And leave the rest to him..have a good day, Prime..
• Philippines
14 Jul 10
hello bro sed,, thanks for the nice idea.... God bless bro....