Why do they do it?

July 17, 2010 7:29am CST
Why do men make all the promises in the world and seem like you can trust them they walk away at the sign of commitment?? I was with who I thought was the 'one' for nearly 3 years. Then things got tough as I found i was pregnant - he ran!!!! Anyone have anything to say, or a why perhaps?? Still very low as i lost my child through miscarriage
12 responses
• Philippines
6 Jan 11
Good Day! Oh, you're situation is hard. I don't want to have a child yet unless I got married so that it wouldn't be hard for me when my partner left me. Some guys are really selfish. They don't care about us, girls. They just want to get what they want from us. They'll pretend that they really love you but they're just only after your body. I'm not saying all of the guys are as bad as what I'm saying of course there are few who's faithful and no matter what happen he will not leave you.
• India
18 Dec 10
i feel very sorry for you at the same time i feel to kick that person and punish him i was also in to your situation but got to know about him before i could do any thing wrong. some person who really loves you will be around you so don't give up start a new life and be careful now onwards
@Baluyadav (3644)
• India
15 Dec 10
hi,i am sorry to read this..but one thing you have to note... we can't make sound with single hand [claps]..so there must be some or at least little weakness or loose mentality or weak mind..... Any how be careful from now onwards.All men are not same and all women are not good.
@besthope44 (12145)
• India
14 Dec 10
Sorry to hear, some men are highly scared to take up responsibilities, that must have been the reason, they fear to face the situations and world as most women does! Anyways its good, you got a chance to understand him. But you dont lose your confidence, you are brave women and prove it to the world!
@khayshenz (1387)
• United States
1 Aug 10
I don't really have an answer for why some men do this, but let me reassure you that not ALL men are created equal. I'm sure that one day you'll find the one. I know it's easier said that done, but keep it simple - one day at a time. The most important thing right now is for you take care of yourself and learn to love yourself. How do expect someone to love you if you can't or don't even know how to love you? Take care!
@Luvers (170)
• United States
31 Jul 10
And im sure you will get throw it Maybe he might run back dun dun duuuuuuuuuuuunn... :D
@Luvers (170)
• United States
31 Jul 10
some guys run becuse their scared to commit
• United States
31 Jul 10
Firstly Welcome-welcome to myLot! I am very sorry that you have gone through this rough time, but please take this as all in life as just that life experience. It takes time and persistence to get over a love one. It is only when we are in such situation that we tend to generalize as it would be unfair to say all men. Perhaps most men you and I have encountered, however think about this way you are a great person and there are a many great other persons out there, you just have not come across them. Please take this experience as another lesson in life, next time you are involved with someone will be able to view the warning signs. Although at times those warning signs are difficult to see when we are in love we get blinded. Good luck to you and please know that sometimes, although we can't see past the situation, things do happen for a reason. Imagine if you had still been with him and a child, would he be the provider and love to keep your family strong.
• Malaysia
31 Jul 10
What did you have too offer him?? What can you bring to the table?? broken promises are not cool, but, you can't expect a guy to do everything. Are you independent with a career, or do you just lay around the house all day?? Well, relationship are 2 way. Maybe he did not keep his promises because you did not keep yours or because you were not what he was expecting. That what i though.
@skylark35 (386)
• United States
17 Jul 10
Im sorry about that but don't give up there is someone out there for you.
@Dezzaan (80)
• Sweden
17 Jul 10
I am sorry that this happened to you. He seems to be such a stupid and irresponsible man. I can't answer your question though. But I need to tell you that not all men are like this, just because some of the men in this world are stupid then that doesn't make everyone stupid. Never give up on love. I wish you all the luck!
• Philippines
17 Jul 10
Oh no, seems like you had it really though, and I'm sorry for that. :( But do realize that not all men are like that. But as for the jerk who left you, know this, he definitely doesn't deserve you. And i think it's better that you found that out earlier than let's say you were married and had two or three kids then found out he cheated on you, then ran away. That would be such a bummer.