Do You Make Love With the Lights On or Off?

United States
July 17, 2010 12:54pm CST
How do you fell about your body? Does the way you feel about it determine whether and your partner will make love in the dark or in a room with lights on? What if your patner whats just the opposite of what you want? How would you compromise? Or would you compromise? Maybe just one lamp with a red scraf thrown over it, how romantic, don't think. Most men don't seem to care, as long as they can get to what they are after, but a woman seem to be a little shy about parading around in her birthday suit when she is a little or a lot overweight or have some kind of birth defect. Surely we can't all have a prefect figure or look like a Barbie doll. Shouldn't we be confindent enough in our mate's feelings for us that we should be able to enjoy one of the most natural and pleasurable act between two people. Being nerveous or embraassed about your body and how you think your partner will react only gets in the way of enjoy makin loving. Tell me what you prefer, I just simply don't care. It is good either way.
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19 responses
• United Arab Emirates
17 Jul 10
With lights off if someone is at home...and yes with lights on when no one is at home. Most of the times its with lights off. Who will take the trouble to get up and off the lights then.
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• United States
17 Jul 10
Hi, I hear ya! Having the lights of is a little more comfortable for some pleople to enjoy the beautiful moments that are being shared. Light on is a little mor daring and playful.
• United States
18 Jul 10
I was reading all the responses to your posts and really was not going to respond as my response is very similar to the ones already posted. My question really if that is okay to ask on your discussion panel, what do they do when it is pure daylight where turning off lights does not help.... I use to be shy about leaving lights on but really you seen one body you have seen them all. LOL
• United States
18 Jul 10
Hmmm! There's a thought. What do you do if the sun is shining bright and ya feeling the urge to have alittle adult fun? Well, it all depends. If your are a noctural lover you will just miss out, and by the time night falls, your partner's desire has gone south, if you know what I mean. But if you are daring, you could have a "hot" afternoon. I'm for the "hot" afternoon, followed by a nice shower and a nap.................
• United States
18 Jul 10
Particularly in that same order...LOL... cuddly during nap, now that is what I am talking about...LOL
• United States
18 Jul 10
You go Gurl!!!!!!!
@jenny1015 (13394)
• Philippines
30 Jul 10
i prefer haivng the lights off, coz i can concentrate more with my partner and it also helps me lessens the insecurities I have coz, after giving birth 4 times, my body isnt what it used to be.
• United States
30 Jul 10
Hi jenny1015, That sounds good to me. The main idea is to do what is comfortable for you and your partner, because you will enjoy being together and not worry about those insecurities that some of us women have after having a few children.
• United States
31 Jul 10
I agree with jenny I've had two kids I don't look horrible but I could look better so I most of the time rather the lights off but my man loves e for me so if the lights are on it's not a big issue. He's with me for me and he loves me even with my flaws.
• United States
31 Jul 10
Hi bslovers, I think that is wonderful, that your husband loves your body just the way it is. You have to remember that your body is not as taut as it use to be because you have two beautiful kids, something to be proud of, for sure. Light on or off, it's all good. Take Care
@pinky31ps (329)
• India
20 Jul 10
well i and my partner prefer it both ways. he actually loves to see me doing everything.. he is just crazy after my body. so he always like lights on but he has no problem with lights off when i want that. i am a lil shy so sometimes i go for lights off. its always exciting to hide things.. you know.. now what are you waiting for. go and jump on your hubby and give him a wild kiss..
• United States
21 Jul 10
Hi Pinky31ps, Crazy can be rewarding, yes? Making love any way you want it can be intense, and when you get all the inhibitions ,like lights on or off, out of the way, the fireworks are spectacular.
• India
21 Jul 10
ya that's right. i just love the way he looks at my body and love me so much. he just doesn't let me get off bed. and now i have gained that confidence to show my body. coz now i know that i have good one. its not just him who like it. its other guys too who dream of feeling my body. i know thats a bit creepy but i just love to make someone go crazy after me. thats we gals are here on earth. to dominate guys.. lolzzz
@goldeneagle (6776)
• United States
17 Jul 10
My wife and I usually have the lights off when we make love in our bed, but we often do it in the shower as well, so the lights are on when we are doing it in the shower...
• United States
17 Jul 10
Hello! Man after my own heart. I like that idea of lights on or off, bedroom or shower and long as love is in the air let the lights be!
• United States
19 Jul 10
I would prefer to do it with the lights on every time, but my wife doesn't always want the lights on...
@AutumnGold (1062)
3 Aug 10
Hello Angelgirl. When a couple have been together for a long time they shouldn't really mind having the lights on. I can understand some people being self conscious when the realtionship is in it's early stages though. I don't mind either way, sometimes it's nice to have the lights dimmed and that can be a good compromise too.
• United States
4 Aug 10
Hi AutumnGold, You go girl. I am with you, it shouldn't matter. However, some people are embarassed about their physiqes and don't want their partners to be turned off. I think if you are in a new relationship and you are and older person, you are more likely to want those lights off, but if you are a couple that have been together for some time, who care, let the lights shine.
• India
28 Jul 10
I prefer little deem light so that i can see him...(blushing) and he also understand this...
• United States
30 Jul 10
Hi westbird321, That souuds like a win-win to me.
@Skade24 (750)
• Romania
18 Jul 10
I like making love with lights off, it`s more romantic, and don`t feel so inhibited.
• United States
19 Jul 10
Hi Skade24, When the lights are low and the romancing is high, all is good. You need to feel comfortable, you and your partner. Because being together is very special and brings so much pleasure you don't need to have any inhibitions disturbing the mood.
18 Jul 10
Either ways light on and off are just the same for me.In making love you don't have to be somebody or someone else what we aim here is to make the person in our life happy and contented.the secret for that Is just Be carefree and moves like a wind and clouds.when your man loves you his thinking the most beautiful person in front of him your body figure no longer exist but the thought of you two being together don't hesitate this is the man you love you say and say it over and over again to yourself.give it a way.Free spirited.
• United States
18 Jul 10
Hi chamlenile, I am loving these responses that states my belief as well. Lights on or off it doesn't matter. The moments spent together are precious and should be thoroughly while making beautiful memories. You cannot do that if you are thinking about the lights being on or off.
• United States
18 Jul 10
it doesnt matter to me, if im being romantic then i like lights off and music and candels
• United States
18 Jul 10
Hi crysontherocks, Lights off do set a romantic mood, where as the daylight love making is sometime playful. There is nothing like making memorable magic in the dark with someone you care about and the feeling is mutual.
• India
18 Jul 10
i make in bothway ,some time in full light when i can see and enjoy partner beuty and body fully ,some time for a change ,light off
• United States
18 Jul 10
Hi, They say, variety is the spice of life. There is nothing worry with changing up on your rountine every once in awhile. It help to keep the relationship fresh and exciting.
• Philippines
18 Jul 10
On or off doesn't really matter as long as both are enjoying the intimate moment together. In the dark other senses get so strong and sensitive.It feels very poetic. When the lights are on it's more foolish and animalistic.
• United States
18 Jul 10
Hi, Sounds as if you know what you are talking about:-). I actually tend to agree with you. The dark does bring on a more serious sensual atmosphere and makes the moments together more romantic. Where is, when the lights are on you tend to be more playful and less serious. I guess it just depends on what mood the two are in.
@mrfdg1972 (3238)
• Philippines
17 Jul 10
I does not bother me at all, no lights or bright lights, when you make love with someone the lights are just an additional criteria to set the mood, Just like what you said, it is good either way.what's important is we take a bath or simply clean ourselves
• United States
17 Jul 10
Amen!!! There is nothing like a funky body and bad breath to kill the mood. These criterias are critical if you are to have a beautiful time with your partner, providing that your partner does the same.
@cream97 (29175)
• United States
17 Jul 10
Hi, Angelgirl16. I make love with the lights off. No exceptions! I feel more comfortable this way. And so does my husband too. It has nothing to really do with how our bodies look. It is just more about us feeling romantic as we make love.
• United States
17 Jul 10
Hi cream97 Thanks for responding. Your response was the first one that made me laugh out loud. No exceptions, uh. At least you know what you and your husband one. The main point is that you are both in agreement and just get down to business. Good for you.
@sriroshan (2586)
• India
17 Jul 10
Ladies always prefer to make the love with light pit off but later in their life, once both husband and wife get to know each other very well, then she does not mind to make love with lights on
• United States
17 Jul 10
Hi, I don't know about that. But you are right, these days women have become a little more agressive in the bedroom. Maybe the majority still has a littl shyness when it comes to the lights being on, but I think we are getting better at loosening up.
@sandyme (200)
• India
17 Jul 10
i prefer you to try it with lights on if you are scared then tell your partner about that he will surely listen to you . :)
• United States
17 Jul 10
Hi, Thanks for responding. I don't mind making love with the lights on or off just as long as I get to make love. It is a beautiful thing and I wouldn't want to be left out.
@chinoxads (255)
• United States
25 Aug 10
I like to do it with the light off, because in that way you can explore the body of your partner not seen with the eyes, you can explore the body with the touch and so in that way you can even discover some areas where you she like and even make some new move.
• Philippines
5 Aug 10
its better when its dim. the mood would be better..
@barehugs (8992)
• Canada
17 Jul 10
This is a very simple question with a simple answer- If you are Christian you will do it with the Lights off. Because its a Sin in the Christian Religion, and its best that God doesn't see you in your birthday suit. If you are a Heathen you don't need to hide anything, because you know that the Creator made you in His own image and likeness and is not going to complain about how you look! So By all Means turn all the lights on and have unmitigated fun!