My girlfriend dumped me, should i take revenge ......... ?

India
July 18, 2010 5:35pm CST
i fall in love with my assistant. after 3 years relation she got transfer from my company till this every thing was ok ......... but after her transfer i came to know that she has been using a new phone number secretly (may be she was hiding some thing ) ........ already she took a huge advantage of my love .......... and now she was ignoring me ........... and finally dumped me........ she is fully machine no emotion is there in her heart ...... always flirting with innocents ....... i found some one else like me with the same story & the same girl ....... she is my first love ...... it is being very painful to forgave her ........ i want to teach her a lesson that she stop her dirty game, to save somebody else from the devil ............ but ..... how ?
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20 responses
@Bhadine (144)
• Philippines
19 Jul 10
"hatred is like an acid. it can do more harm on the container in which it is stored than on the object which it is poured". This saying implies that hatred can only harm the person who has this. For me, thinking about revenge is just a waste of time and effort. This cannot make you a better and happy person. You can just make the situation worse. I believe in KARMA in which if a person do bad things to others, 10x of bad luck will come onto her/him. Try to forget about the past and focus on the future. Sooner or later, you will meet the girl who can love you back.
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18 Jul 10
Revenge is bad for the soul. It damages you as a person far more than the person you enact it upon. No matter what happened you should be the bigger person and living well is the best revenge.
• United States
18 Jul 10
An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind
18 Jul 10
Indeed.
• Portugal
19 Jul 10
Agree.
@mimiang (3777)
• Philippines
19 Jul 10
Move on.find someone else.
• United States
19 Jul 10
yea, there are a lot of fish in the sea.
• India
19 Jul 10
i think it is not good to take revenge !!! ...... those type of human should be punished .... i think she have to pay of what she did..... i think taking revenge is not advisable
• China
19 Jul 10
Yeah,those who are not real-hearted with their relationship will finally get penalty they deserve.They can't feel true love .They can't recognize what is really precious to them.Thus they are very pathetic person.
@T_Diamond (965)
• New Zealand
19 Jul 10
Buddy, move on. Taking revenge won't make you a better person.
• India
19 Jul 10
If u love her truly, just forget her.Let her happy with her decision...:)
@skysuccess (8882)
• Singapore
19 Jul 10
akramul, I have to say that no one can teach you how to win in love unless you first guide yourself to win over your personality. Ill temper and lost of emotional control is a bad excuse for such behavior and intent. If you are going to persist in such immaturity, this will probably afflict your future relationships until you have the wisdom to evolve yourself. Your suffering is very much due to the fact that she is able to get on with life much better without your presence - a self absorbed quality of love. Like a scoring a blatant victory over a screwed relationship; if she has found happiness outside you, perhaps you, being the source of her great misery, might just want to take some time off to introspect and decide how you want to improve your inner qualities. And most of all, your own life. If you claim love, but she is very much better off without the framework of this relationship - perhaps, letting go might demonstrate more strength than clinging on. Take care and have a nice day.
@sriroshan (2586)
• India
19 Jul 10
Forget her don't think about her anymore When she has no interest in you then why you are spoiling your life and career after her Taking revenge is again will be harmful to you only. She is not only girl in this world you will find the better girl as your life partner and who will keep you happy also All the best Control your emotion
• United Arab Emirates
19 Jul 10
Forgiveness will not change your past but it will expand your future. You have done you best. I know it hurts but she is yours she will come back to you and then you will regret taking revenge on her. Give her some time and she will come back to you.
@Hvaniday1 (550)
• Malaysia
19 Jul 10
Good Evening Akramul, just let it be. She is not committed anything or any agreement with you, therefore you are just doing things for her willingly. Don't act like a god, as she will get what for she does. Prepare yourself for a new venture, start a new life by typing more on mylot or join more program...
• China
19 Jul 10
In my country there is an ancient saying called“ There is no end to revenge".I think it is rather let it be as time goes by than take revenge. Firstly,don't judge a person only in subjective way to decide whether she is good or not.Maybe you just lose your temper and can't tolerate what she has done right now.The angry emotion is so powerful that you almost lose your consciousness.Secondly,If you revenge her,then she will probably turn it back and your life won't be peaceful any more.Not only you,but also your releatives or friends will be hurt possibly.Do you think it is exactly worthwhile to launch a endless war just because such a stupid tiny reason? Just follow my suggestion:Try to be more catholic and the world will be more beautiful in your sight.
@hestylim (1211)
• Indonesia
19 Jul 10
No, don't take any revenge. It is really not good for you. Just let her do what she wants. What goes around comes around. Remember that. So, one day, probably she will be treated the way she treated you. So don't worry. Just go on with your life and you will be fine. ^^
@twistzao (72)
• Portugal
19 Jul 10
She is a player, just taking advantage of every man she can. You can't do really anything, just move on with your live. I know you want to help other people, but there is really nothing you can do, she was your first love, she tricked you, that sucks. But live isn't a fancy dream, you had just bad luck. She is a player to get "up" in life, and she likes making people suffer. Forgive her? I understand that you love her, but don't forgive her! She may have 5 lovers right now, and even when she was with you. You have to move on. How to save someone else from the devil? Well, if you see her with another person, try to talk to that person alone. Or if you really want to humiliate your ex-girlfriend, go talk to them while they are together. But don't follow your ex-girlfriend and I advice just to move on. Just do what I said if you really NEED to. But remember, if you do that, you are going at the same level she went. As the other friend said, "an eye for an eye makes the world blind". Happy Myloting and best wishes to you.
• Philippines
19 Jul 10
you cant hold someone's heart s they have their own heart to follow, once you love someone you give everything with all your heart as you are happy doing and if they didnt appreciate it then respect their feelings. on the first place you helped her out and you did that out from your own will so why take revenge, besides if you think she didnt give you the kind of love you gave her then let it be as somehow she doesnt deserve even just a second look. just try to move on instead and look for her replacement and be happy, theres too many girls out there.
@akopoaysi (740)
• Philippines
19 Jul 10
hi akramul! well, revenge or hatred is bad.. bad for you too. well, you'll get over it soon dont worry.. maybe right now you are hurt.. but eventually the pain will subside.. this maybe the right time to be with your family and friends.. be happy because you are not because someone can make you happy.. have fun.. but dont do revenge.. not good. good day to all!
@zenki08 (700)
• Philippines
19 Jul 10
Revenge is not good at all. If she really did something bad to you then eventually Karma will catch up with her. Let it go man. I know it's hard but as I always say to my friends, It is better to be wronged than to do something bad to others. Move on dude!
@hanagi (391)
• Philippines
19 Jul 10
You should not take revenge over her. what you should do is move on. Maybe there is someone there waiting for you to be love. There are so many girls around don't be fooled by just one girl even if she was your first love. Someday she would realize your importance and by that time she would be sorry for letting you go.
@ebuscat (5949)
• Philippines
19 Jul 10
For me you not go that way because the only do that is Jehovah God let the prayer in him said your problems because he is fighting you in that girl.
@Memnon (2173)
18 Jul 10
You don't have to forgive her. Just remember that she is/ was a piece of cheap trash, and move on.
@bubulizzz (507)
• Latvia
18 Jul 10
Yes, this kind of situations aren't pleasant. Yes, there are so many people which are using others. But - don't be in the judge role. She will get her lesson in the future anyway. This maybe happened to you to learn you something - and I think you have accept it. If you will make revenge - you will do the same as she had. It also could cost you more than you can think. Forgiveness is better as revenge. (There I don't mean that you need to communicate with her, but that you must leave it, and live your life further with this experience). God bless you!
• United States
18 Jul 10
I don't think you should get revenge on your lover. I mean I read storys were this snot nose kid psoted a site on the internet of his girl friend. the site was like naked pictures of the girl and stuff. One day teh girl saw it and she god sad for a long time. All revenge does is make people sad and burns your soul. Don't do it, it is not worth it.