It's right to leave the city I stayed for three years when disappointed in lover

@Shinyqiu (119)
China
July 20, 2010 3:25am CST
I decided to leave this city i have stayed for three years after graduated from school because i have ended my love that i have manageed three years.My ex bf said goodbye to me when he came back from abroad,the reason is that he loves his colleague. I don't know what to do,what to speak,but cried everyday tonight,but silence lonely,or faked and unexpressional laght in public......When i go back home,watch everthing will make me miss the life we get together. I don't know what to do,so that i decide to leave this city which load much memory about us.Maybe i will cure my inner heart better if i start a new beginning.It is right for me to leave?
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14 responses
• Canada
20 Jul 10
I'm with you, it's good to move and start again. But why did you have to leave the city where you're comfortable? Oh well maybe things will be better for you soon. It usually takes time to make new friends, and find your way around a new city. But when you do you'll feel much better about yourself.
@Shinyqiu (119)
• China
21 Jul 10
Haha,I don't know why i was so steady and expectant to live a new life.As you said,i want to make new friends,start new work,improve my abilities through train.I think i will feel comfortable via my insistent try.
@jennyze (7048)
• Indonesia
21 Jul 10
Well, if you think moving to other city is the best solution for you, then stick with it and grab the chances in a new town.
@dawnald (84124)
• Shingle Springs, California
20 Jul 10
I moved away from somebody after a break up and just ended up being homesick. I agree you need to get away from HIM, but I'm not so sure it is good to get away from familiar surroundings and people. Unless you have a family home to go back to...
@Shinyqiu (119)
• China
21 Jul 10
Yes,i will go back to my native land where have a lot of my classmate and relationship.So i stick to get away back to my hometown despite somebody concerned to me against to me.Hope this decision is reasonable.tks!
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@dawnald (84124)
• Shingle Springs, California
21 Jul 10
I think it is probably a good decision given that you have friends and family there.
@RONDOLAWE (776)
• Indonesia
20 Jul 10
good choice and good thinking absolutly about it , stay away from disappointed in lover make you real human for that kind , alot of love in this world
@Shinyqiu (119)
• China
21 Jul 10
Yes,i also think i can real the cure but need sometime,this choice leave this city can make me renew everything.
• Indonesia
22 Jul 10
if you dont wanted that renew in any town you must be have love in another town but just dont so far away from you home
@ehsanji (504)
• Pakistan
20 Jul 10
I think you should not be disappointed. Running away from your past is not a good thing. Yes, you can make yourself good enough to make other people fall for you, and those who left, you will regret it one day. I know what you are going through but then this is life, it happens ever now and then. I wish you all the best on this one.
@Shinyqiu (119)
• China
21 Jul 10
I was indeed fragmented and disappointed when end this long love.Maybe this is my first time to suffer the cure what guy deliver to me.There is a very classical proverb in China:There is no rainbow seen yet after a storm.I feel that i have devolped stronger in heart.This city i don't like any more,so leave to a new one will let me happier and better.Love is not entire for me.
@babshish (1390)
• India
20 Jul 10
Hi Shinyqiu, Sorry to hear that, but leaving the city is not the solution. I can understand your problem, but running away is not the solution for anything. Be brave and face the situation and try to concentrate on other things. Time is the best medicine which will heal everything. And why to leave the city for someone who don't care for you, just be positive and think that he did not deserve your love. I am sure you will get some one more better that your ex and who will love you more than you love him. Just try to forget the past and learn from it and shape your future. All the best.
@Shinyqiu (119)
• China
21 Jul 10
Thanks for you reply concerned to me.I also understand that leave the city is not the best way to cure my brief heart.But If you stay at home,the whole room fill in memories about him and me.Despite where i pass by,i will remember clearly everything.So I want to leave shenzhen to seek ask for new job,new city,everything is new,maybe to do this will let me to forget past and start a new style life.
• Portugal
23 Jul 10
aww :( i understand that you need to forget what happened and if you think is better to go out of your city and start a new life. but what about your friends and your family? will you be away from them just bcs that guy? they care for you. he already has a different life he changed yours too so he did enough already. dont go away from people that care for you. you need their support. if you go somewhere where you know noone is harder maybe :( just understand that what you lived with him ended and soon you will find a guy to live new memories with^^ dont be sad ok?^^ you will find a guy better than your ex^^ one that will love you always and no girl can interfer between you^^
@bamrahkirti (1819)
• India
21 Jul 10
I am very sorry to hear this.I know it must have been a very hard time for you.But do not lose heart.You are very young and i hope you will definitely find someone more loving,true and deserving. Like everybody said if you have family and friends to fall back upon at some other place then there is no harm in leaving the place but if you are staying here and have a well settled life then why to leave it for a person who does not deserve you. Be bold and be practical.
• Malaysia
21 Jul 10
life always about venturing new opportunities and experience new place and culture. there are lots of ways to overcome burden in your mind. missing something that long left is a good way to remind yourself of your home but traveling around looking for a new horizon also brought back new experience for self improvement. never give up hope on your love life. someone out there might be the one for you and forget about the past and move on towards what you wish to do at this moment. dream the impossible but once reach the top, don't forget the bottom which you started at.
@laydee (12815)
• Philippines
21 Jul 10
I know how you feel. I have also been hurt by someone I thought was the one. I too can't move on. But, I don't think leaving a country would heal your inner heart. Regardless where you'll go, you will always have that memory. But I think crying it out will be of good help. Sooner or later you'll just grow tired of it all and start living again. I have not healed either. But surely, we will.
@voldrox (7205)
• India
20 Jul 10
I am very sorry to hear that... :( If you have your family and friends over there then it would be better to have them with you for the time being, spend time with them and avoid running into places where you both had been to earlier.. it's hard for anyone to cope up with, you need time.. hope everything works well...
@Aurone (4758)
• United States
20 Jul 10
My ex-husband left me after he was abroad for a month. I don't know if he found another but we had been married for three years and together for over four. I moved away from the city we lived in because I didn't want to run into him or go to the places we had gone. So moving can be good but if your support system is in this city then it could be bad. You want to stay where your friends and family are so they can help you through this time. But if you don't have a support group there it could be a good idea to move away from the city where all your memories are and move to where you have some family or friends. That is what I did and its working out fairly well for me. Good luck.
@lookxx (4)
• China
20 Jul 10
thangk you for writing very good please continue refueling
@youless (84724)
• Guangzhou, China
20 Jul 10
I am so sorry to hear that. But you don't have to leave the city which you have stayed for a long time because of your breakup. Not every love can last forever. It depends on many conditions. If you leave this city this time, then how about next time? Try to face it. You have to understand that it is his loss to breakup with you. You will find a better man than him. I love China
@rosie230 (1674)
20 Jul 10
If you are in a position in which you are able to leave that city, and set up home somewhere else again, then Yes... I think you are doing the right thing. I think that if you can make a clean break then you should. It would be easier for you to deal with the heartache and breakup of your relationship, being away from the scene that holds so many memories for you, a fresh start will do you the world of good, and help you to repair your broken heart. I wish you good luck for your future!