Is love learn or a natural impulses?

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Philippines
July 20, 2010 8:27am CST
Love is very mysterious when one is not seeking it would seek you. Some find it in unlikely places and even unknowing they already have meet the person destined for them but at the moment they just don't know. How it could be? Is this out of curiosity, enthusiasm, urgency or sudden passion? When a person like to know the person first before love develop. It may seem earn or learn in the process. Or in other way around it could be just an instant feeling based on natural impulses just like an instinct. Like if this ever happen to you. You see a certain person you don't know then you just exclaim to yourself like "that's him or her." She/he is the person meant to me. I just feel it. Other story could relate on that interpretation as it happen to them directly while other just could not decide fate seal through natural impulses. How about you? Is love learn or a natural impulses? 7-20-10 8:21
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@kun2349 (23475)
• Singapore
21 Jul 10
IT's a natural thing for sure Love is just a kind of special feeling that hits on us, regardless of we expected it or not.. BUt it's gonna be very rare, in order for two to meet each order.. MOst of the time, it's only a one-sided affair, and thus we see, no matter how much a gal/guy put in for the other party, but the other party never seem to appreciate it at all.. haha =D And that will be the learnign part of love.. IF he/she is not into us, no matter waht we do, it's gonna be useless.. haha
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@kun2349 (23475)
• Singapore
22 Jul 10
YEah, love comes naturally and freely for two ple.. Thus sometimes we can see, ple trying so hard to chase a gal/boy, but end up disappointed.. BUt when the other guy/gal does the same thing, the other party is touched and end up together!! lol =D THis is not bad luck or whatever, it's all fate, and destiny?? haha =D
@tomitomi (5441)
• Singapore
21 Jul 10
I can't see how Love is learned. It may not be a sudden impulse like a first love or one that takes a lifetime to develop if there is. That simply explains that it is a natural impulse. What about it when someone says that you can learn to love such as happened in an arranged marriage. I think you either make it or you break it. If you make it, it's the love not learned but developed after the marriage. It's still a natural impulse.
• Philippines
21 Jul 10
hi tomitomi, I guess that is right almost everyone say it is an impulse because it is a feeling that is not comes out as being pressure. S it is really hard for a love to be taught but learn later could be possible. But it really require a lot of effort and cooperation to fall in love in the end when at the beginning their is an absence of attraction. thanks.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
21 Jul 10
Love is a powerful emotion. It is not something that should have to be learned. Love should come naturally. If love needs to be learned, it may not be a true feeling. Just follow your heart. It will show you right path to love.
• Philippines
21 Jul 10
hi sender, yeah, it maybe have something to do too with the law of attraction two people unknown to each other get instant chemistry. Also it just a wonderful feeling when you feel happy and the day is complete upon seeing or talking to the person whom you get a natural impulses even with absence of pressure. Since it comes naturally so it works like magic the feeling itself..thanks..
• Malaysia
21 Jul 10
love is discrete and wide. I mostly agreed that love is a natural impulse. it strikes when we not notice of it at all. confusing yet pleasing. love comes in various way and leave in every way it desires.
• Philippines
21 Jul 10
hi cursoralbert, Yeah, and they comes unexpectedly. Some find it in unlikely places where they are not searching it and just a coincidence. The law of attraction just made two unknown person being pull together to meet each other without even planning. Fate decides in the end..thanks
@jenzai (390)
• Philippines
21 Jul 10
Nice query, During my high school years i used to believed that love is a natural impulses. During that time I've got a lot of crushes, that whenever i see one of them i had this unexplainable happiness, which i would thought that i am in love. But later on i was just infatuated. As i grow up and mature i discover that love is a learning process it is not just emotion, because the real love is something that is unconditional and stable. In conclusion love is learn not just a natural impulses because when you love it's an act that you have to so to show to someone that you care even if he doesn't seem to response.
• Philippines
21 Jul 10
hi jenzai, I do the same things and just found out later that it is a complex process when it comes to maturity. Relationship to be strong built with time and it just could not be achieve without each partner cooperation. At first the attraction for me i think is an impulsive reaction to like someone then if the two person vow to love each and grow to become strong requires lot of identifying each other strength including weaknesses even accepting each other fault without expecting too much to have a perfect relationship just felt comfort and connected does matter in the end. thanks.
@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
21 Jul 10
Love is a feeling and I don’t believe you ‘learn’ an emotion, therefore I think love is a natural response. Having said that I do think that to keep a life long relationship strong requires hard work and the art of compromising, sharing, communication etc are traits that can certainly be learned.
• Philippines
21 Jul 10
hi paula, I do think the same thing it just comes out as a natural reaction to a stimuli where it is not a pressure feeling but very voluntarily without falling for any influences from peers. And for a relationship to be strong those things you mention are really important to keep in mind.thanks.
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• Canada
21 Jul 10
I believe it can be both, depending on the person. For me, I fall in love slowly over a long period of time, this is because I have my guard up for everyone, I tell myself not to trust anyone without knowing for sure.. My boyfriend actually had the natural impulse though, that's why I believe in love at first site. I was at the mall one day and we kind of caught eachother's eye as we walked by.. He ended up talking to me after and we're together now. Some people may not believe its really LOVE at that stage, but it was something different. I found out this guy has been a big player for a long time and never stuck with the same girl for over a week. Never even talked to his girls really.. From the day I met him he kept going on about how he felt different since he met me, i thought it was the usual bs guys say to be nice, but now I've been with him for months.. He never partied or went to a club or bar again. His friends keep asking me what I did to change him. I have no idea. Anyway, love can be a natural impulse. I don't know how, but I guess thats something you have to experience before believing it.
• Philippines
21 Jul 10
hi for3everfamous, Anyone could learn to love even before seeing the person. Love is already nature itself and it is nurture through times. Though, you experience it i call it magic an instant attraction, a strong chemistry when two unknown people just feel something irresistible a feeling of more love, concern and trust from your own experience. The guy you meet drastically changes his image when he meet you. your such a lucky gal for having him. it only mean he is very sincere with his feeling to you... Good luck more to your relationship. May it stand strong and faithful through out the times..thanks..
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
20 Jul 10
Definately natural impulse sweetie. We cannot decide or choose who we want to love. Love works on its own terms and i have learned not to argue with that. TATA.
• Philippines
21 Jul 10
hi saphy, It is the natural reaction for the first meeting and even without too much conversation. It just a natural feeling when one feel relax and comfortable with the person who become the apples of your eyes. thanks
@olisaur (1932)
• United States
20 Jul 10
I think it's a combination of both; you follow impulses in relationships, but you learn which are appropriate as you go.
• Philippines
21 Jul 10
hi olisaur, It have something to do with the dictate of the heart and mind at the same time though and learning is the end products after/undergoing the experiences of having relationship. thanks.
@cbjones (1157)
• United States
20 Jul 10
It's an emotion that comes naturally, yet there is a lot that can be learned. What may seem like love at first will often reveal it's self to be a strong feeling of lust later on.I used to confuse the two all of the time when I was younger. Plus, love is a two way street. It can't work if it's only going in one direction. Unacquainted love for another person is quite agonizing. You have to learn that it's no possible to trick/make them feel the same way about you, as you do about them.
• Philippines
21 Jul 10
hi cbjones, yeah, and being involve in a serious relationship require longer knowledge of each other interest including likes and dislikes. I see every couple during their first meeting all exhibit good manner of behavior so likely they would not reveal their real self. Unless the relationship takes a lot of time. Thus, everyone need to dealt with a lot of setbacks be it bad or good. In the end it is the manner of acceptance including the fault or defect never expect for anything perfect.thanks
• Philippines
20 Jul 10
it is learn the most i guess and impulses i do it when i become attracted to the person. because of his image, personality or status. love requires time and observation before two get close.
• Philippines
20 Jul 10
hi janea, Especially when it is getting to know first stage and need to familiarize with his interest. Thus, both only receive the same approval with the same intensity the first time each other met.
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@dawnald (84132)
• Shingle Springs, California
20 Jul 10
Feeling it is natural, keeping a relationship alive is learned.
• Philippines
20 Jul 10
So learning is the longer process it could takes time for me to learn it as i have little experience with it. While feeling everyone have it.
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@flower21 (766)
• Philippines
20 Jul 10
For me love is a long way process. two people need to undergo lot of trials learning to know each other better. Judging a person being in love at an instant is like love at first sight. Love is effective when it involves interaction between two people.
• Philippines
20 Jul 10
Yeah, and love is a very complex feeling. The person who seek it should not dive into conclusion to court suddenly a girl without further investigation so to avoid being disappointed especially if the dream quality is lacking. So it is best not to act on the impulses alone but learn to understand the process to muster it first before embarking in a sudden impulses need lot of thinking before making the final approaches. thanks.
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• Philippines
3 Aug 10
Hi! Well, love is really something we cant understand sometimes. For me love happens in very unexpected places and circumstances. The man you met in your work, in occasions you attend or family gatherings maybe the man of your dreams. But i believe that there is always a different feeling which maybe a sign that you will fall in love with this person the moment you see him. I Think there is an aura that is elicited between you or an attraction that is brought about by you and him meeting each other. This is some sort of a connection between you that keeps you bonded so that when you dont see this person you got miss him. And since you want to see each other often a relationship is formed. I also believe in destiny, because if you are really meant for each other, no matter what the hindrances are, you will still end up with each other. An that is the connection or link i am talking about. I hope i am right.
• Philippines
22 Jul 10
Love is a feeling that develops in the right time. But we can't say in the right person or in a right place. Natural impulses fades. When we see someone and we felt that urgency and non stop pounding of our heart, that is not really love, but attraction and if you never stop thinking about him, that is infatuation. For me love never fades. or True love never fades. and love grow maturely. For how many times that I am infatuated with someone and I declared I was in love, but that is not true, I am just infatuated or attracted. And most of all love is shared by two people, you can fall in love with your friend because you have interaction or communication, but falling in love with someone who doesn't know you existed, for me is not falling in love but infatuation.