It's easier to give advice than to receive advice.

@laydee (12813)
Philippines
July 20, 2010 8:30pm CST
I think it would be cliche if I'm going to start with "I just recently lost my 5-year relationship..." Therefore, I won't start it that way. I guess you get my point. Now that it has been about 3weeks. People still tell me unsolicited advices on how to live my life. I know they're only there to help me out, but sometimes, I don't understand how they could just tell me to 'move on' as if I could do it instantly. People start to compare themselves with my situation, when clearly, it's different. I just wish there would be someone who would just let me cry it all out, to just help me express my pain. Instead of nagging me of what I did wrong or what he did wrong to me. Whew. I don't know anymore.
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@babyEj (1525)
• Philippines
21 Jul 10
Since you don't have anyone to consider personal friends who could shut their mouth in awhile and let you burst out all the mingling emotions of pain, then better locked yourself in your room lay down and cry as much as you like. Until "a thought" of realization comes. DO it everyday if you like. I just want to tell free yourself from what has been inside. Cry out loud. Then a moment of "ENOUGH" will come.
@laydee (12813)
• Philippines
26 Jul 10
I wish my "enough" moment would come soon.
@spalladino (17924)
• United States
21 Jul 10
That's what really good, personal friends are for. Do you have anyone like that in your life...who you can call and say that you need a shoulder...and a closed mouth for a bit? Just hang in there.
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@laydee (12813)
• Philippines
21 Jul 10
Sadly, I don't. I have always been the 'strong' person, and it's tough for me to find someone I could just cry to. There is that someone, but she tends to nag.
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• Philippines
21 Jul 10
Hello laydee, Maybe you should LET IT ALL OUT, the pain,frustration. I understand, it's not easy to give some one's advice when you yourself isn't following it or having a hard time following you're own advice. Pray to god and asked him to let go of what you feelfor this guy,.
@Ashton1 (32)
• Bhutan
21 Jul 10
There are two ways to view your situation. The one that you mentioned is a situation where you want other people to know how difficult it is to 'move on'. Its totally understandable that everyone has thir own experience and yeah we tend to compare our experience with those of someone else, which is not fair as evryone's experinces are different and so is the situation. Now the other way to view the situation is to know that, what your friends wants for you is your happiness. They know that you are hurt and that's why they give you advises relating to their experience. It's all about emapthy. I am sure you would have done the same thing if you were in their place and if it was one of your friend in your situation and not you. It's difficult for them to leave you unnoticed and leave it all to you. They are concerned and so the only way they see to comfort you is to tell you to 'move on'. Empathy is the key thing. I hope you understood what I mean. Wishing you good luck.
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• India
31 Jul 10
For me I think that giving advice is easier than receiving advice,because we are able to help those people who are following the wrong path.Where as while receiving advice it become very difficult to follow their words and do according to their rules.
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@Rainegurl (2158)
• Philippines
31 Jul 10
I think I get what you mean. I am a bit bull-headed and I honestly do not like people telling me what to do. Unless of course I go and ask them what I should do. I am a bit allergic to unsolicited advice. And I tend to rebel, defy what is expected of me. I just wish you well, laydee. I hope one of these days, you would come across a friend --or a stranger-- who would just give you his time to let you rant and say whatever you want to say, with sense or without. Take care.
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@abhi000 (235)
• India
24 Jul 10
Half of one persons joy is the experiencing of another persons joy,when you make someone happy it make happy too.When you give you are both giving and receiving which is far more awarding than just receiving.
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@nuj_kmr (171)
• India
23 Jul 10
I think that giving advice is easier that receiving advice from other because it is difficult to get in and following their words .When we are giving advice to other we feel uncomfortable ,the person who are receiving advice may feel bad about it.
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@nuj_kmr (171)
• India
23 Jul 10
I think that is easier to give advice than to receive advice because when we gives advice to other is easier but when we receive advice from other is difficult because it takes a time to get in and follow a words from other.
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@george000 (166)
• India
23 Jul 10
I think you should do what is right for you.
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@rtsh_gup (186)
• India
23 Jul 10
Ya ,it is easier to give advice than to receive and for your relationship , i would say that you don't have to feel sad because he is not the right person made for you or maybe god have created much better than him.So be strong and feel great.
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@jlamela (4909)
• Philippines
23 Jul 10
Yes, I do agree, personally I find it hard too to take other people's advises especially if my stubbornness will prevail, I just ignore it often times because I want to set my heart on the decision I wanted to make. But in giving advises of course it's pretty easy because you only have to utter the appropriate words without involving too much emotion.
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@swn_chik (266)
• India
23 Jul 10
I do understand but not to make the other person insulted, you just nod and after that you do what you think is right for you.
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• United States
21 Jul 10
Do what I do. Take the advice, nod your head, smile, and then do what ever you want.
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• United States
22 Jul 10
Hi, laydee! It really isn't that they're trying to be hurtful, but it certainly turns out that way. I'd tell them I'd rather not discuss it at all yet and walk away... Do not feel any obligation to take my advice or anyone else's!
@Angelgirl16 (2177)
• United States
21 Jul 10
Hi, Ending a relationship, whether you called off or your partner did, can be and most times is a devastating affair, especially if you have invest many years into it. There is no way one can just get over it in an instant. I think crying purges the soul, and if that is what it takes, then you cry yourself a river and don't let anyone put the plug in until you are ready. It was your party and you have a right to handle it your way. Loving your friend who is going through rough time, sometimes means just being there for them and being a good listener rather than a talker or a peacher. God Bless
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
21 Jul 10
I think it is easier to give advice. This puts in the place of power and control. Your words are offered to help someone. Receiving advice can be a little harder to take. Someone else's words are there to persuade you. You are sure of advice you give. Taking the advice of another may not be something you trust in your heart.
• India
21 Jul 10
For me its very easy to give advise, but hesitate to . But if some one start advising me.. i feel like sitting on a hot stove..
@savypat (20246)
• United States
21 Jul 10
Go ahead and cry, rehash each mistake made in the relationship, in fact make a list these are tried and true ways to get past the first pain. I look forward to each little bit of advice I get, there is often a grain of wisdom and I know that others are taking their time to give attention to my problem. What ever took place in your life try to look for the lessons taught. Blessings