Why am I not pregnant yet?

@p3ks626 (6552)
Philippines
July 22, 2010 3:23am CST
I have been married for 16 months already and my husband and I are excited to have a baby. My in laws are even more excited but We dont have a baby yet. I have seen a doctor and took some medicine but there's nothing. Some says it has something to do with the timing. Did anyone among you here waited for a long time to have kids? What did you do while you were waiting? Did you have to go and see the doctor?
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19 responses
@hanuma34 (821)
• India
22 Jul 10
Feminine members may enlighten you better on this. From my knowledge on the subject I feel you ought to relax about the delay and not remain so anxious. That can change some of your harmonal balance. There could be some genetic trends also - I mean if your mother or your husband,s had delayed pregnencies. A good gynacologist could check up and your husband too has to undergo some check. All the same you are only married for 16 months, and I can advise you to take it easy.
@p3ks626 (6552)
• Philippines
23 Jul 10
Thanks! I need to be reminded about taking it easy. Sometimes I just think that things are unfair cause there are couples who didnt wait for marriage and they did it and they had a baby. In my case that I waited to be married then try and make a baby and it doesnt happen. Dont you think its somewhat odd how things are?
@babyEj (1525)
• Philippines
23 Jul 10
Oh it's not odd, it's not just the right time maybe.Hmmm.... I will look for some links to be informed well I'll send it to you. But just always do the "things" for you to become pregnant don't get tired of waiting I know it'll come.
@hanuma34 (821)
• India
23 Jul 10
By the way p3ks were you on contraceptives by any chance? I guess this requires a gynic to restore your normal rythms. Do not get perturbed or succumb to unnecessary anxiety. All will be well.
• Pitcairn
23 Jul 10
Oh God, did you say 16 months? As I have learned during my college life, if a couple has been trying to conceive for at least 12 months and nothing happens, they are recommended to undergo sterility test. The problem may be due to hormonal imbalances especially for women (which I believe the reason why your doctor prescribed you of some hormonal meds), and low count for men. I know I'm giving a very common information here but I think it would help. Uhm, it is also helpful to trace your family history of sterility.
@p3ks626 (6552)
• Philippines
23 Jul 10
I dont think anyone in my family has a history of sterility. All of my family members have kids. Well, its good idea to have fertility test so that we will know if something's wrong or not. The doctor prescribed me some sort of supplement. I dont know it can actually do something about my fertility. I dont have a problem with my period. I have regular menstruation every month but I am not sure about my husband if the count is low. That's one thing I need to know.
• Pitcairn
23 Jul 10
Uh oh.. Did I just say sterility test? Wrong! It should be fertility test.. Sorry.
• Philippines
22 Jul 10
try consulting a specialist...
@p3ks626 (6552)
• Philippines
22 Jul 10
I already did. A few months ago, my husband and I went to this very good doctor who helped a lot of couples conceive and then last time she found out that something's wrong with me and she cured it. Its okay now and i dont have problems anymore. Its just that I am still wondering why when in fact I am already taking the prescriptions she gave. !
• Philippines
22 Jul 10
it will come a time... and it takes Faith also, to make extra things unbelievable to happen, and More Prayers also is a most....
@rosie230 (1675)
22 Jul 10
Yes I did... especially with my second, it took me almost 3 years. A lot of people say it will happen when it's time to, but I found it very frustrating, and I began to think something was wrong with me. In the end I took a vitamin called "Evening Primrose Oil", sounds disgusting I know, but they came in capsule form. I took them everyday, and after a month of taking them I fell pregnant with Justin, who I gave birth to January 2009. I am not saying that they were the reason why I fell pregnant with him, but I do believe that they helped me. The reason being, is because they are a vitamin to help keep women maintain a healthy hormonal balance. You can buy them over the counter as they are a vitamin. Try taking them and see if this helps, you never know they may have the same effect as they did with me.
@p3ks626 (6552)
• Philippines
22 Jul 10
Thanks for this suggestion. I am going to check out on that later. I am going to be out from my workplace now and I am going to ask if its available in the market. I also took something last month, the name was "rejuvenex soft gel". It was a supplement and my doctor recommended it. But it seem to have no effect in me at all. I dunno but its really expensive and I dont wanna be spending a lot for nothing.
@rosie230 (1675)
22 Jul 10
These vitamins really are not that expensive I don't know where you are, but in the UK, I got a tub of 60 pills (which technically at one a day would last round about 2 months) for less than a fiver. You do not need a prescription for them either, you can buy them over the counter and most supermarkets should have them. Just take one per day. Good Luck.
@shia88 (4582)
• Malaysia
26 Sep 10
Hi, Having a child can not be rush and it is depend on the GOD. For me, I was pregnant after married for almost a year,but both me and my husband are not really planning to have a child,we just let the nature takes course, and when it comes, we will just accept it. Since you guys have visit gynae and on medication,let's pray hard that you will have a good news soon. Having a healthy balanced diet and have enough rest will enhance your good health. I believe when the good news come, both of you and your in-laws will be extremely happy. Good luck!!
@p3ks626 (6552)
• Philippines
3 Oct 10
You are right about that. I was also thinking about it that way and that God has a purpose why He havent given us a child for some reasons we dont know. Its just that I cant help myself from envying others who already have a baby. There are even some who had s3x before marriage and they had the baby. As for us who waited to have s3x after marriage, we dont have it yet. Unfair!
@pogi253 (1587)
• Philippines
20 Aug 10
When trying to get pregnant the one thing you should know timing is everything. Have s(e)x too early and you risk not having enough (s)perm in the area to fertilize the egg. Have s(e)x too late then you risk missing the golden opportunity for egg fertilization. Women on a 25 to 28 day cycle can get pregnant fairly easily barring there are any underlying medical conditions in both your partner that would prevent pregnancy. Women with a normal cycle can expect ovulation to occur between the 14th to 16th days of the cycle, including menstruation days. A good Ovulation Predictor kit will pin point the day ovulation will most likely to occur. Hope this helps..
@p3ks626 (6552)
• Philippines
3 Oct 10
I did try that and become conscious about the signs if I am ovulating or not. But sometimes because I am trying so hard, it makes me disappointed at the end of the month and find out that i am not pregnant again. Sometimes, I am already hopeless.
@akopoaysi (740)
• Philippines
17 Aug 10
hi! have you tried going to your ob-gyn? i do, i am 2.5 years married and we want to have babies soon. that's why i go to my doctor. i found out that i have PCOS so that's why i dont ovulate. but after taking the meds. i have my regular ovulation monthly. ill be on my 5th cycle of clomid. hopefully to get pregnant soon. i actually thought i am pregnant this month because i was delayed and i have spotting. maybe it is only due to hormonal imbalance. so i schedule myself for doctor's appointment again. go to the doctor so you will know why.
@p3ks626 (6552)
• Philippines
3 Oct 10
What is a PCOS and how do you know if you have it? My husband and I already agreed to go to see the doctor after the end of the year and if nothing's going to happen yet. I just waned to know why its taking so long.
@yresh12 (3222)
• Philippines
26 Jul 10
Hi p3.. Yes I think that it all goes with timing. Just keep on thinking positive things., You can try to think of ways you check it online the internet can provide you lots of information on how to get pregnant the natural way. Just stay healthy and always watch out for your health/.
@p3ks626 (6552)
• Philippines
3 Oct 10
I guess health is really important. I think I was so stressed out for the past few months because of my job and not that i quit my job, I am expecting some improvements in my health too.
@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
23 Jul 10
Hi p3ks First of all try not to think about trying for baby as it is said if you try to hard it will not happen, there is the cycle to yes but again just try to be as normal as possible It took me a year to fall pregnant I then lost the baby, after that it took me another 8 months to fall again But I was told I would never have children well I am very lucky to have 2 Just try to relax, shove things out of your Mind, do not go by timing just let nature take its cause and if in another 12 months nothing has happened then I suggest you get your Doctor to run some tests
@p3ks626 (6552)
• Philippines
3 Oct 10
I think that would be the first thing that my husband and I are going to do on January of the next year if nothing's going to happen by the end of the year. At least consulting the doctor would let us know what's wrong and we can do something about it already.
• Malaysia
23 Jul 10
well, keep continue your effort and don't give up. it's just been 16 months after marriage though. still a long way to go. but if it continues without any results, I guess both of you should do checking again on both fertility level between yourself. There must be reason for the situation though. Everything have reason to happen.
@p3ks626 (6552)
• Philippines
23 Jul 10
I guess have to wait again. After two years of trying to have a baby then there's no result, I think we need to have the check up again. And you are right about every thing has a reason. I also know there's a reason and I definitely want to know what it is.
@nra091501 (176)
• Philippines
23 Jul 10
my friend got pregnant after two years of marriage but finally she's now 5 months pregnant. they too, undergone work-ups and such. and then the OB told them to rest for a year and then they'll try again. so they stopped seeing the doctor and just leave it up to the Lord. now they're pregnant and all is of course very excited after all the baby will be the first grandchild :) so i think you should be more patient and try to relax yourself. i'm sure relaxing will do you a lot of good. avoid stressing yourself. your baby is going to come soon!
@p3ks626 (6552)
• Philippines
23 Jul 10
Thanks for the encouragement! I hope its going to be this year already. hehe! I am going to relax now. I am going to do that and live it to the Lord. I should exercise more patience. You know, our child is also going to be the first grandchild in my husband's family. So they are also excited about it.
@mimiang (3779)
• Philippines
22 Jul 10
better see a doctor now.
@p3ks626 (6552)
• Philippines
23 Jul 10
I already did! She already gave me a prescription and I have been ta king it. My husband and I are taking those pills, the same kind of pill. I am also taking some folic acid cause it also prepares my womb for pregnancy. I think I am just so anxious about getting pregnant.
@bounce58 (17550)
• Canada
22 Jul 10
I've met young couples who had similar problems. My advice has always been the same. I always tell the guy to take up jogging. And to tell me what time he goes jogging. So then I could come in visit the wife! Just kidding. I'm sure what the people around you is saying, is right. It's just timing. It will come. One time, everything will be perfect! The setting, the environment, the surroundings, etc. And you'll soon be pregnant. In the meantime, just have fun practicing at it! Goodluck!
@p3ks626 (6552)
• Philippines
23 Jul 10
hahaha! I thought the first paraggraph has something to do with taking care of our health and all that! Thanks about the have fun practicing on it.
• Philippines
22 Jul 10
i have heard and seen a lot of couples in my circle who waited for years.the longest is seven years.both you and your husband should be very involved in this.both should consult the doctor first,it shouldn't only be you.if the doctor says you are both ok then there shouldn't be any problem.you just have to relax and not pressure yourselves from not having able to have one yet.stress is a big factor.sometimes it's when you least expect it that it comes.good luck!!!
@p3ks626 (6552)
• Philippines
23 Jul 10
I should expect it then. I should just continue taking those pills the doctor gave. My husband and I has to take it. The doctor also told us to have some sort of check ups but we havent done it yet cause its too early to decide on that since we have been married for not too long. I guess we also have to wait when will be the proper timing for it.
@shia88 (4582)
• Malaysia
22 Jul 10
Hi, Don't be upset!! Take time and slowly. Once you get nervous and putting pressure on yourself,then it might not go right. since you have took medicine and consult with doctor and no problem on both you and your husband,then it is just a matter of time. I can understand your feeling of having a baby in your family,but you have to stay calm and then only thing will go smoothly. Get some advice from a gynae,choose the best time where you are productive enough and try your best with your hubby. Hope a good news will Up soon and do share with us when there is a good news.
@p3ks626 (6552)
• Philippines
23 Jul 10
Sometimes I dont wanna do it anymore cause it makes me feel frustrated that after a few days of doing it with my hubby and I am expecting that I am not going to have my period but I have it every month. I feel like its useless sometimes. Its like nothing's going to happen anyway. Well, yeah! thanks for the advice. I am taking it.
@Bellapop (1281)
22 Jul 10
Try not to worry too much and also save it for the the 'right' time, like when you're ovulating, really get to know your body and its natural timing. Try to stay as healthy as you can, healthy habits, lifestyle and don't stress about it too much, and everything should slot into place naturally, good luck! :)
@p3ks626 (6552)
• Philippines
23 Jul 10
Thanks! I just cant wait for that right time. If only I have some sort of power, I am going to make that right time come faster. I am also envious of the fact that my sister in law in expecting another baby and she just delivered their first baby 9 months ago.
• Philippines
22 Jul 10
Try to Consult a specialist....
@p3ks626 (6552)
• Philippines
22 Jul 10
I already did. A few months ago, my husband and I went to this very good doctor who helped a lot of couples conceive and then last time she found out that something's wrong with me and she cured it. Its okay now and i dont have problems anymore. Its just that I am still wondering why when in fact I am already taking the prescriptions she gave.
@Satenik (102)
• Armenia
22 Jul 10
I am sorry to know that you don't get pregnant and you want it so much. Though I haven't experienced anything like that because when we decided to have a baby I was pregnant the next month, I have heard from many people that when you are so anxious to get pregnant it doesn't happen. Moreover when the in-laws are concerned... do you feel kind of sorry and think there is something wrong with you? Don't try to convince anybody and just keep on living without concentrating on thoughts about pregnancy. I am sure it will happen when you are expecting it the least. Good luck.
@p3ks626 (6552)
• Philippines
22 Jul 10
Well, I am always thinking that there's something wrong with me or with my husband that's why I wanted to know what's wrong with us. I dont wanna be spending money again going to the OB and ask what we could do cause its already very frustrating on my part that I expect something but nothing's going to happen. I do hope someday it will come. I just needed to think about other things now.
@acey76 (1278)
• Philippines
3 Oct 10
I got friends who has the same situation as you are now...they even married for 5 years and even adopted a child but when his husband got a month vacation .....after two months my friend found out that she was pregnant..sometimes you need rest....if your a workaholic type of person why dont you both try a vacation together