i will always stay this way... inlove with you

Philippines
July 22, 2010 7:08am CST
words that we usually hear in the early part of a relationship. words that are all sweet in the ear but when you get married reality of life sets in. this sweet nothing fades away a few years of marriage. if not handle situations carefully it may result to arguments and divorce. a few advice can really be effective, like always be open to learn new things. it may be a new interest or the interest your partner. its not bad learning it and find out if it will give you enjoyment too. make sure there is always a time for the two of you. just you and your partner. no friends no cellphones s no disturbance. it does not mean that it would be an expensive get away... well it is much better if it is but it is also okay as long as you still have your time ALONE. keep yourself maintained. dont forget how your partner was crazy about you. compare those days and now. a shabby look and moody face make you less interesting. so now i need to go to the barber shop to make my hair groomed har har har.
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13 responses
@jinjer168 (1599)
• Philippines
22 Jul 10
I agree with you. Too much familiarity with each other makes the relationship boring. As for my own experience, me and my husband really have a strong physical attraction with each other when we're younger, the sweetness and thoughtfulness will never be left behind when we're together. But now that we're married for almost seven years, i can feel the changes that happened between us. We're still sweet, in love, and all but i feel the fire in the relationship lessened unlike before. Maybe we should do something about it so the excitement and old feelings will be there once more. Good night!
• Philippines
23 Jul 10
Hello, I'm glad, you and your husband are still sweet and in love in your seven years of marriage. Discover new things to do together and continue enjoying the things you used to do when you were still boyfriend and girlfriend. Just because you are already married doesn't mean, you don't go out on a romantic date anymore right? Do something cinematic like perhaps meet in a restaurant for a lunch break. Surprise each other. Go out of town anything to ignite the fire of love more.
• Philippines
2 Aug 10
we will be celebrating our anniversary this month (august) and we will be on our 8th year. we were not attracted physically so i guess our relationship was more on deep. i can say that there are a lot of changes with me and my wife specially when she gave birth for most of our time was devoted with our son. now he is four we already slowly adjusted on enjoying him with us and having to date every once in a while and enjoy ourselves just the two of us. i hope you find time for yourself. it is important to have you two alone time. there are a lot of things to discover still. thanks a lot for the response
• Philippines
28 Aug 10
hi there! this is really nice. i think it works for you very well. so it means if it comes from someone of your experience it will really turn out well. that's why i had been thinking of doing this quite some time soon. i guess me and my partner needs to talk about it first. where and when. plus of course the financial budget. haha. anyway thank you so much for sharing this. it seems to be an eye opener for people in relationships. happy mylotting!
• Philippines
29 Aug 10
i came from a broken family and since i am the first born i see my father and mother struggle with the marriage. i know what was wrong with my father and i know what was wrong with my mother but they did not work out the differences. they did not grow together, they grew apart. i dont like that to happen in my marriage. so i make a point do to what is right and lucky i have a wife who is like that too. it takes two to make a thing all right. thanks a lot for the response.
@lampar (7597)
• United States
4 Aug 10
word is sweet but last a while, action always speak louder than word, love relationship is like multiple layers of candy, it takes a lot more than mere word to feel and retain its sweetness, you also need to do a lot more on yourself to stay in love in today modern world. hahaha...
• Philippines
4 Aug 10
yes more than words. but the point is we should not forget to say it not just show it. showing is good but it is more perfect when you say it as well. i laugh at what you said that you need a lot more on yourself to stay in love today on this modern world. har har har. thanks a lot for the response
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
25 Jul 10
LOL..great advice my friend. I once read a book that said holding hands and continuing to kiss is very important to maintaining closeness. That if you get used to being alone or without touch that you tend to be less responsive and the love goes away. I read that touch triggered endorphines in our brains that help us keep that loving feeling. It can be holding hands or just laying with your feet touching theirs. I'm thinking my b/f needs a shoulder rub..LOL.
• Philippines
2 Aug 10
when we are on the bed my wife always gives me a scratch on the head and that really calms me, and also makes me sleepy har har har. maybe thats a simple way for my wife to say that she cares for me and it is truly working. touch makes a big difference. even with babies right? the doctor always says that caressing them is like communicating to them telling them that we love them and we are always there for them. thanks a lot for the response jen
• Portugal
24 Jul 10
yes you are right^^ if we are with someone we must always find a way to be with that person alone^^ to show care also sure look pretty so the guy wont look to other girl ahah anyway i think that if we care and are honest and are always there for the person and be there when he needs then he will love you always^^ we must listen and care for the person always^^ if we have that no need to break up bcs people have all they need^^
• Philippines
2 Aug 10
this is really important that we couples still date alone, without the kid/kids around. the US time were we can sit back and be young at heart again. hold hands and watch a movie like before. when my wife gave birth we miss this for we are so much focused with our child, but now that he is four... we slowly start to find US time when he was three. and now every once in a while we go out and go to church without him, but of course there is also a time that we bring him with us. thanks a lot for the response.
@niairen01 (1018)
• Philippines
23 Jul 10
Welcome to the married life 101! lol! My husband use to joke around me that I need to go out with my friends again and recall how I use to look like before we were married. I always answer him that he doesn't have the right to complain since he was the main reason why I currently look like an "old school MOther" (his term). Well, I know that he was just joking, I still look young and single (as most of my friends say). But he was referring to "ME inside the house" since I don't fix myself whenever I'm at home. ^.^
• Philippines
2 Aug 10
i prefer simple too, but my wife put a little of make up when we are going out even we are just going to the supermarket. but that is okay i am happy when people we knew tell that my wife is still pretty even she gained weight after giving birth. har har har. have a happy marriage. thanks a lot for the response
@ybong007 (6658)
• Philippines
23 Jul 10
Sounds like you got a lucky wife. But i guess she's not alone, mine's lucky too .
• Philippines
2 Aug 10
• United States
23 Jul 10
Well for me I am lucky, and I guess my boyfriend is too. He is 25 years older than me and he knows I love him and the way he looks so he doesn't have to worry about it. Me, I'm overweight and he loves the way I look so I don't have to worry about feeling too fat lol. We've already talked about all the realities of us being together and what us being married and having a life entails. Everything from him wanting to start a family right after getting married to realizing that I will still be going to college for the next 4-6 (maybe more) years and that it will not be easy and I will need help. So I think discussing the real facts of your life together and getting an assessment of what your life plan together will be (both of you working? Starting a family? How will your time be spent? etc) then you can get an idea of what to expect.
• Philippines
2 Aug 10
yes, very true. talk about the real facts of life. because when you get married already reality sets in. thats the real life you are both will be facing. no fairy tales. if you both accept the reality of life and talked about plans then you can see the road you are both going to pass. you are indeed lucky for the beauty is not only seen by the eyes it is also felt by the heart. thanks a lot for the response
@Shinyqiu (119)
• China
23 Jul 10
I don't marry still now but i agree with your view of relationship for couple.The life is what we want to maintain sweet all the time.But we can't deny that it will be change and fade if we manage dull.So we must learn to understand,contain our partner when u live unpleasantly.
• Philippines
2 Aug 10
yes, its just like a house. you need to maintain the cleanliness, needs to wipe if there are dust and needs to change curtains every once in a while to make it pretty. in a relationship it also needs a little of everything. hard work makes it more fruitful. thanks a lot for the response
• Philippines
23 Jul 10
It just goes to show in love, sweet words are not enough. Action is. Love is an action word,therefore it has to be demonstrated not just spoken. Many sweet words has to be proven because sweet talk is cheap, if it is not accompanied with action.
• Philippines
2 Aug 10
in love action and words are needed. you just cant show how you love a person... specially women they dont like just action they also love to hear it. true... that words becomes cheap when you can no longer prove it. prove your love not just saying but showing. thanks a lot for the response
@obe212003 (2302)
• Philippines
22 Jul 10
I am really taken away with these lines, a familiar tune in a love song.. everything changes either for better or for worse, but once in love, commitment is a "must" in order to keep the relationship going. It's an endless effort of working out on things to show how much love and how much you can endlessly give be it emotion, etc. being in love is to sustain that feeling in such a way that it would make you realize that you are complete thus "i would always stay this way in love with you.."
• Philippines
2 Aug 10
very well said obe. commitment is a must, an endless effort of working out on things to show the love. lets not forget to express and to tell our partner how much we care for them not just showing it. ladies not just want showing they also love to hear it. har har har. thanks a lot for the response.
@SangsTurks (1447)
• India
22 Jul 10
that is the reality! It is not that the love fades just that there is more of responsibility in the relationship. And when there is responsibility you don't have much time to be all mushy mushy all the time.
• Philippines
2 Aug 10
but when you forget the being mushy, that makes the heart young.... there is a tendency that you both are living with responsibilities and not with love anymore. some people live just because of that and i dont like that to happen to me and my wife. we made a few adjustment during she gave birth for we both need to give time to our child. he is four now, when he turned three we started to go out again alone and date. we really found something new about ourselves because we are not just husband and wife we are already mom and dad as well. thanks a lot for the response
@Zaphan (711)
• Philippines
22 Jul 10
yeah sometimes those sweet words will fade away as time pass by if you don't maintain good communication on each other. I too back before when we are not yet living in one house we we're happy compare to how we are right now. But we still manage to surpass things like argument, We have twins and we can't just let bad things happen to our relation as partner, Those other married out there that still has those sweet moments with their partner surely that's a happy ending.
• Philippines
23 Jul 10
Most of the time sweet words fade away when reality sets it. When are bills to be paid, kids to rear and nurture, food to eat everyday. There is a saying, love flies out the window when hunger enters the door. Genuine love is not based on romance alone, but it is a quality decision to stay together no matter what. That's why when someone enters into a marriage he or she should be spiritually,mentally,emotionally and physically developed. Marriage is not fairy tale but we can make it a fairy tale when we choose too. :-)