Meeting in a Chat Room-

United States
July 22, 2010 6:33pm CST
Do you think meeting someone in a chat room and talking for a few months could turn into a real relationship off the internet? Do you think it could last? Have you ever met someone in a chat room? Did your relationship last? How long? Do you think it could it work or no? There's no wrong answer here, just wondering what everyone thinks about on-line dating...What's your thoughts on this? =) (I'll tell you why I am asking after I get some responses)
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14 responses
@1hopefulman (20467)
• Canada
23 Jul 10
Hi lilangelspreschool! I have been online for about a dozen years. I have done many online businesses. I made and lost money online. But I am ahead. I am now a retired grandfather (took early retirement) with two beautiful daughters and three grandchildren. I am divorced for about the same amount of time. I have been on sites where I have met some of the nicest people one could meet. I have fallen in love online at least three times through online communication and then communication by phone. So yes it is very possible! But for me, for some reason, it never worked out. If I was interested in romance, I would prefer to see and meet the person, personally first. I know some for whom an online romance worked out. I have heard and know of some who even left their husbands and wives for an online romance. There are possibilities and dangers online. Some have met online "friends" and have even been physically harmed. Like I said and I want to repeat: There are possibilities and dangers! One can never be too careful!
• United States
25 Jul 10
Thanks for your response =) My husband and I met in a chat room. We have been together for 6 years and married for 5 years. I know the dangers, I was just seeing what others thought about it =). I met the love of my life in a chat room, the father of my 3 babies and my soul mate. Best decision of my life
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@1hopefulman (20467)
• Canada
27 Jul 10
I'm happy that things worked wonderfully for you. But everyone should exercise extreme care but that goes for all situations.
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@veganbliss (3903)
• Adelaide, Australia
23 Jul 10
My wife & I met on a dating site called "Green Singles" in 2004. Our relationship has lasted right up to the present day. We thought it'd be a good idea to get to know each other mentally before meeting. We were married in April 2005. We actually prefer online dating. The system works fine; it's all about the inner strength & follow-through of the individuals involved. Did you & yours also meet online?
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• United States
25 Jul 10
Thanks for your response =) Yeah, I met my husband in an AOL chat room. We have been together for 6 years and married for 5. My husband and I got married on April 23rd, 2005. That's funny, both in April of 2005.
• Adelaide, Australia
25 Jul 10
No... that's not funny... that's way, way, way... I have no words! My wife & I were married on April 23, 2005 at about 2pm, I think. Wow. I'm not kidding. If I were a gambling man, I'd go in for the lotto! I'm not making this up... hope you believe me :-)
• United States
25 Jul 10
WOW!! That's CRAZY! Lol I absolutely believe you. That is really weird. I don't remember the exact time of our wedding, it was sometime in the afternoon though.
• Romania
23 Jul 10
Well in some cases it could be , but it depends from case to case and it's not a rule to be fallow by others . And yes if you are lucky it could last for a lifetime . My personal taught about this is quite neutral because i never meet someone on a chat dating but ho knows what future might bring .
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• United States
25 Jul 10
Thanks for your response =) I was just wondering what other people thought about this. My husband and I met in a chat room 6 years ago. We have been married for 5 years and we have 3 kids together. =)
@annavi23 (6302)
• Philippines
23 Jul 10
this reminds me of my college days! when i was in college,my friends always go to chatrooms and take me with them. well,i happen to know some but they are more of filipino people like me,and same age like me also and students,but i never got close to them,it's like a playtime for me.i just like to have friends and have fun that time. i guess more of those chatters want other than friendships. of course,they want other things when you guys meet up.so be careful what words you are saying there,and don't be fooled for some people cause you can't flly trust those who you know in virtual world unless you really know they are telling the truth.
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• United States
25 Jul 10
Thanks for your response =) I was just seeing what others thought about this. I met my husband in a chat room 6 years ago. We have been married for 5 years and we have 3 children together... Sometimes it does work, we are proof of it.
@Hatley (159665)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Jul 10
hi lilangelspreschool I think it could for some People but not for everyone. It depends entirely on each person aS some will be able to sustain a relationship over the net but some also may not. just depends on each couple.
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• United States
25 Jul 10
Thanks for your response =) I was just wondering what other people's thoughts were on this topic. My husband and I met in a chat room 6 years ago. We have been married for 5 years and we have 3 kids together
• Philippines
23 Jul 10
I think online dating is just the same as any casual dating. I may or may not work out. I do chat but just for fun. You can re-create your identity online, which you can also do with those you just met on bars.
• United States
25 Jul 10
Thanks for your response =)
@buenavida (7684)
• Sweden
23 Jul 10
Maybe it can work for some, but I would not recommend it. The risk is too big. (Let´s assume it´s a he)It is easy to fall in love with a picture you have made up in your mind and that most likely has not much to do with how he really is. The best thing to learn to know a person is to be friends for a long time and see what environment he lives in, how he treats his friends and his family. See him in every day life, preferably at work, because that is what you will see if you marry him. You need to see how he reacts on different situations, if he is easy to deal with and treats others with respect. If you observe him in that way for some time without getting involved in any romance, no matter how romantic you feel inside, and do that for at least six months of more, you might learn to know the real person and not a picture in your mind. I followed this strategy a long time ago, and I am still friends with him and am glad I didnt try to develop it longer that time.. There is nothing that can replace a personl contact in real life, even if it´s possible you can become great friends online..
@buenavida (7684)
• Sweden
23 Jul 10
I found this article that shows what dangers we can meet online. So better be very careful. http://www.watchtower.org/e/20050522a/article_01.htm
• United States
25 Jul 10
Thanks for your response =) I was just wondering what other people's thoughts were on this. I met my husband 6 years ago in a chat room, we have been married for 5 years and we have 3 children together We are proof it can work. However, for younger people I do not think it's safe either. I just got lucky I guess
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@billzehua (573)
• China
25 Jul 10
Well, I think there's no seperiority of meeting someone in the real life over meeting someone online, come on, it's just the difference of the start of a relationship.Any type of online flirting needs to come down to the face-bo-face dating if it's to become mature.I m quite getting that why people would throw depise at those dating online? who pronounces the standard to tell the level of a relationship?Then what abt those people who were set to date and get married later on.The technoloy developes ahead and i guess the form of dating of human beings will correspondingly evolve as well, and since when the technology deserves to blame.
• United States
25 Jul 10
Thanks for your response =) I was just wondering other people's thoughts on this topic. My husband and I have been together for 6 years, we have been married for 5 years and we have 3 kids together =) So, we are proof that sometimes it can work.
• United States
23 Jul 10
Yes, as a matter of fact I do think it could turn into a real relationship. I met my best friend in a chat room 10 yrs ago and we have met and spent quite a lot of time together in real life, (she passed away sept of last year) and I miss her so much just thinking of it makes me cry. I also met my husband in chat, and we have been together for almost 11 yrs. My daughter and her boyfriend met online in some peer to peer chat thing, and have been living together for 5 yrs. So yes it can work out. As i think since you can not be together physically you develop a more deeply emotional bond with them quicker.
• United States
25 Jul 10
Thanks for your response =) I was wondering what other people thought. My husband and I met in a chat room 6 years ago, we have been married for 5 years and we have 3 kids together. That's awesome that you have been together for 11 years =) Exactly, you don't see each other so the physical appearance doesn't matter. My husband and I didn't have web cams or anything like that so we didn't even know what we looked like. At that point, it didn't even matter to be honest! We were in love and that is ALL that mattered to us
@gaboni (644)
• Israel
23 Jul 10
From my own experience I may say that I don't think that it would last quite long. but then I am just an individual, also it feels kind of awkward meeting for real after monthes of dating, kind of exciting too, and after few hours the excitement just leaves you there, wondering 'the heck who is this person?! he is nothing like I thought he was'
• United States
25 Jul 10
Thanks for your response =) Really? Is there a reason you don't think it would last long? I'm just curious. Anyways, I was just wondering what other people thought about this. My husband and I met in a chat room 6 years ago, we have been married for 5 years and we have 3 children together.
• Philippines
23 Jul 10
if your intentions are pure and sincere of having a relationship in the internet, then it's not possible that you will find a man with same intention.
• United States
25 Jul 10
Thanks for your response =) My husband and I met 6 years ago in a chat room. We have been married for 5 years and have 3 children together! So, it does work sometimes.
• Malaysia
23 Jul 10
meeting someone on the internet through chatting website or program such as Yahoo Messenger or Windows Live Messenger are common nowadays. Many said that it's dangerous to meet someone who we knew from online in real life. But some few stories about anyone who are dating online, end up with good results. Anyway, everyone should be extra careful when decided to meet someone you date from online.
• United States
25 Jul 10
Thanks for your response =) I met my husband 6 years ago in a chat room on AOL. We have been married for 5 years and have 3 beautiful children together. We didn't go through any special programs or anything, just a regular chat room. I agree that people should be very careful doing this, I was just one of the lucky ones...
@syankee525 (6296)
• United States
23 Jul 10
i know people who meet in chat rooms, but i dont agree with it because specaily if you are a female. because guys can tell you whatever they want, make themself out to be someone totally different then what they really are. you might think he's all nice and cool and find out he's another creep
• United States
25 Jul 10
Thanks for your response =) I see what your saying. I guess I was one of the lucky ones. My husband and I met in a chat room 6 years ago. We have been married for 5 years and have 3 kids together =) So, sometimes it works. Just goes to show, if your meant to be it doesn't matter how far apart in the world you are from each other. You will still be together! I think it's awesome.
@ybong007 (6659)
• Philippines
23 Jul 10
It could. The internet is just a tool that makes it easier for people to know each other in advance. The final outcome would depend on the couple once they met each other personally. It's very easy to pretend what you're not online but it's hard to pretend offline. The world is getting smaller because of the internet and of the advantage of it is it help people of different races interact with each other.
• United States
25 Jul 10
Thanks for your response =) I was just wondering other people's opinion on this topic. My husband and I met in a chat room on AOL 6 years ago. We've been married for 5 and have 3 kids. So, I know sometimes it does work