One thing you want to change about yourself ?

India
July 23, 2010 5:36am CST
Hello people.. I just wanted to see how interesting the responses get and also so that we can spend a few minutes musing over it :) Well, I think that in everybody, there is one main quality or sort of nature which he sometimes regret having and want to change it. Let me start by giving my answer and hope I can hear back from a lot of you. One thing I want to change about myself is that I am a very easy going person. I cant say No to people easily and for this sometimes I get into a mess. So I want to change this quality in me and learn to say No when I want to. Well thats my story, but whats yours? Is there anything you wanna change about yourself..? Please share :)
11 responses
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
23 Jul 10
Hi dear, I think we both are in the same boat. I am having the same issue. It is one of my child hood habit and I liked a lot of this character and people used to tell me, at least say 'NO', first and take it later and learn how to say 'No'. But I'm not improved. Even in office also, I used to take all works what I am asked to do for. The two people who sitting both the sides even now used to tell me, Oh No!! This one is really a .... But what to do it is my habit and part of my character. I feel guilty by sayin 'no' to the things, if I can, and if I have time. But try and let me know your improvement. Regards, Thank-s
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• India
23 Jul 10
Hello Thank-s!! Oh , we are really on the same boat. I can really understand it. Well I have not improved much either, couple of times I tried applying it and said No to things and people but at the end of the day, I was really guilty at heart. And that guilt feeling is actually what i want to get rid off. Well I am still trying to improve on it because sometimes I am really on a disadvantage due to it. I know it sucks at times. Well sure will let you know if I'll improve in it. Thanks for replying! Have a nice day take care
• India
23 Jul 10
Yes, We need to improve. Can you send me a private mail? Regards, Thank-s
• India
23 Jul 10
Well i guess mylot provides a service for that. So I will send you message from here only if anything like that happens. Thanks for your concern though. have a nice day . take care :)
• United States
23 Jul 10
Within the last 8 months I have been experiencing many changes in my life completely out of my control and it has brought me to think that I must make some very important changes in my life. I have worked so hard for which I believe has always been for so many others and not thinking about myself. It is time I stop being such the nice person I am and generate some of that niceness towards reconstructing me. I have indulged into prayer more now than ever and feel that it is time to trust God more than I have trusted some many undeserving people. Cause you see when I am going through circumstances none of these wonderful people even realize my existence. That is not to say I will become rude or obnoxious on the contrary I found that I am extra nice to people I do not even know, especially these days. It is to say that next time people need my help I will consider how much involvement and how will it affect me first.
• India
24 Jul 10
The pleasure is all mine. I am glad to know that you have overcome from all that now and relishing the results of your efforts. Be happy always. Take care :)
• India
24 Jul 10
Hey Hardworking gurl Well yes there comes a time when we seem to loose control over our own life and feels that someone else is controlling us just like a puppet. But that is also a point when we should stop for a moment and think about managing everything, and start it all from a new beginning. Well yes there are people for whom we do so much and trusts a lot but when we need them , they just show their backs. And leave us realizing that we have not done right. So we should also not care about them and just work for our own well being..!!! So I hope everything in your life will sort out soon. Anyways, thanks for responding.. Take care :)
• United States
24 Jul 10
You are so absolutely right. One thing for sure I have learned quite a bit being on myLot and discussing with people like you and I that we must take care of ourselves. I am so relishing the moment that things do turn around until then I am working on improving myself. Thanks so much for your inspiring words of encouragement.
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@mods196621 (3652)
• Philippines
24 Jul 10
I want to change my way of loving a man. If I felt inlove I almost gave to him all. Am crazy about love. so this attitude I want to change . I want to decreased all the level of giving to him especially attentions, love and care. So much dedicated! Ho0pe i can change but i know it will not be.
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• India
24 Jul 10
I guess you dont have to change but just have to be a bit careful for the next time. Indeed you loved the man of your life, but he hurted you very badly. But what have you lost?? Its his loss indeed for he didn't realized your love. Perhaps he dont deserve it. He lost someone who used to love him so much and you lost one who perhaps never loved you. Just think about it. There is None of your faults according to me and you should not regret it. All you should do is to be careful while falling in love again. Be careful choosing your love and trusting someone. I hope you'll get someone who will respect your true feelings and emotions. Thanks for your response. Take care :)
• China
24 Jul 10
I want to change my life by myself ,wish to become a successful bussinesssman . Therefore I have to do my best in working ,although I feel very tired sometimes . And I must accumulate much successful experiences when I am working . Then I believe that my dream will come true in future . That is the change I want to .
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• India
24 Jul 10
I believe that to achieve something more than what we are getting we should put more efforts than we are putting. So yes to be successful one has to give his maximum in whatever field he wanna succeed. I hope you'll induce this change in your self and succeed. Thanks for your response. Take care. :)
@dsrp82 (676)
• Brazil
24 Jul 10
I wish I were less sensitve.
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• India
24 Jul 10
I have learned that Being too sensitive in todays world can be very painful at times. So we should be careful for our emotions and should not be much sensitive for things that may hurt us. I hope you'll bring about this change in yourself soon. Thanks for responding. Take care :)
@tb1990 (9)
• United States
24 Jul 10
one thing i want to change about myself is the way i treat others. I get treated wrong all the time in my household and I have to learn not to do evil for evil. They are gonna be left standing to face God not me.
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• India
24 Jul 10
Well yes, I agree with you. How someone treat us or behave with us, reflects his/her character, But we should not do the same, cause then what difference will be left between us and them? So we should keep with our own nature and character. Eye for an eye will end up making the whole world blind Thanks for your response, though. Take care :)
@mods196621 (3652)
• Philippines
24 Jul 10
I have one thing in myself want to change. It is being too much to give myself or dedicated to the man I love. When I fall in love I gave almost all of me to him too much submissive. And at the end I was left crying. Too bad for me. But i was thankful that i felt this feelings I am happy even sometimes i cried at the end. How nice to be inlove and im happy giving the whole i can for my love.
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@tomitomi (5429)
• Singapore
23 Jul 10
Hi smilepleeeaz! I am a perfectionist both at work and at home. I hope I could ease that a little so that I wouldn't stress myself up and those around me.
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• India
23 Jul 10
Well for me its good to be a perfectionist. I respect such people a lot. But yeah may be sometimes it can create a bit problems like stress and a bit depression. So a good balance has to be maintained. I can understand your problem. Anyways thanks for the response buddy. Take care :)
• United States
5 Aug 10
One thing I would change is not being very positive in my life. I am a pretty negative person most of the time. I am trying to work on it and be more positive but every time I try something else happens. I am trying though, hopefully I will be successful soon.
• India
7 Aug 10
Well yes, being positive in life is very important. It help us to deal with all kind of hard situations in life. But it is also very common that negetive things often occupy our minds and makes the bad conditions worst. So it is really important to learn to have a positive attitude towards life. I hop you'll be successful in it very soon. Thanks for your response. Take care :)
• Romania
23 Jul 10
Are a few thinks i will change about me. I think to be too emotive is in our days a deffect, so i will like to change!
• India
23 Jul 10
Well yes, being too emotional can hurt us at times. So its always better to be practical and be careful before being attached to someone emotionally. Anyways thanks for your response. Have a nice day Take care
23 Jul 10
My one habbit which i have is that i easly trust on others and i believe what they tell me. I know it is a good thing but its a bad thing becouse in your first meeting you should not except that person as a good friend... and i find myself in this dilemma all the time so i want to change myself in this matter...
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• India
24 Jul 10
Well it is a sign of innocent people who are pure at heart. Thats why such people believe everyone easily and cant see that people are just using them. Although it is a noble quality but to survive in todays world, I agree it should be changed. Otherwise everyone will take unfair benefit of it and you'll get hurt by them. So be careful before you trust anyone. Dont trust blindly on anybody. Thanks for sharing your answer. Take care :)